How did u teach ur baby to self soothe ??

Neha - posted on 03/30/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )




Hey Everybody,

I am yet to teach my LO to self soothe herself to sleep.. Any suggestions how u guys did it, how long it took for ur precious one to learn. I would prefer something which really doesnt involve a lot of crying.. I guess I am a weakling, cant see her cry...

Thanks a ton


Vicky - posted on 05/30/2010




My son was waking million times a night up until 2 weeks ago- just because he couldn't get himself back to sleep! I was rocking him to sleep every nap time and at night, so he was depending on me too much. I watched the sleep easy solution and it has really changed everything for us!! The ladies who present it discuss sleep associations- paci/rocking/swaddle and how to change the associations. Aiden has swapped a paci and swaddle to a small cloth which he has all night, so when he wakes he can cuddle it and go back to sleep without me even needing to wake. The first night was hard, he cried for 31 minutes and so did I! But I asked my MIL to come down that night to support us and he did go to sleep. Night 2, filled with dread, I went through the routine and holy cow, he was fast asleep in 2 minutes! A fluke I thought, night 3, 1 minute of fussing, today he laughed himself to sleep, no kidding. Its all about having a routine which works for both of you. For me its bath, cuddle, bottle, song, white noise on, then into his sleep wrap. I couldn't recommend this method more, I feel like a human again after nearly 8 months of total exhaustion. Good luck :)

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Teigha - posted on 06/07/2010




Yeah, I think that's the problem. You gotta let her cry. I know it's gut wrenching, but suck it up! It will take a few days probably, but that's the whole point of self soothing (I think). She has to get up set and learn how to calm herself down without you. Good luck and be strong!

Tisha - posted on 06/07/2010




We just put our son in his crib and turned on his musical Seahorse. He would cry a little but eventually he fell asleep. I was always told that if they cry a little, to leave them in there. I would only take him out if he was getting extremely upset or if more than 10min went by with him crying.

Chanelle - posted on 05/26/2010




My daughter had a blankie nad a disney pricess cd which i put on b4 bed and she goes straight 2 sleep but without it no chance.

Sharon - posted on 03/30/2010




I'm the same as you, can't handle him crying, big softie!! hahahahaha.
Anyway....I started by cuddling him until he was only about 90% asleep, then I'd put him in the cot where he would almost definitely wake up again. Then I'd stand next to him and let him hold my finger/hand, sometimes singing him old macdonald (his fav song). When I first began this I would stay until he was asleep which was never very long, maybe 10mins max. Slowly I started putting him into the cot when he was a little more awake and I would leave before he was totally asleep.
Now I can pop him down when he starts showing sleepy signals. Somedays he's a bit cranky and I may have to let him hold my hand for a little while, maybe once a week this will happen. Or, I will organise his room while he's drifting off (refill nappies, fold/hang up clothes).

Lindsay - posted on 03/30/2010




Lullabies and a small blankie.. I started at 3 month.. did it for all my kids.. we use the ocean wonders aquarium

Rachael - posted on 03/30/2010




I allowed my son to cry, it can be hard to listen to but has really worked. I would get in the shower, or blow dry my hair. Also having someone there to support you while the crying is happening helps. It doens't hurt them, just our hearts. Also you get to know the difference in cries - hungry, wet, or just doesn't want to sleep. Be respectful of your child's need to sleep. And think of the crying as she loves you so much she wants to be with you, and you love her so much you are teaching her a valuable lesson! Good luck!

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