how is everyone getting long with there partners?
Sarah - posted on 02/12/2010
See the tides change here on Monday as i live in Vancouver and work in Security I was asked to come off mate leave and work for two weeks for more money then he would make for the two weeks so he booked vacation and for two weeks i work I can't help but laugh when he say's it will be easy we will see on Monday night when i get home
Alison - posted on 02/11/2010
Most men don't really understand until you leave them with the baby for even 5 hours, that way they can be there for at least one feeding time. Some also believe in the ridiculous notion that there exists some magic maternal bond that only woman have and it comes automatically!!
I hate to say it, but when i was done giving him a hard time after bubs 2 I then moved onto his mother!! Why in the hell did she raise such an inconsiderate child who has no compassion and never learnt how to cook or clean!!
Now it's my job to teach him, but along for the lesson are my 2 oldest sons. I am not sending my boys out into the world without knowing how to clean, cook and have some sense of the full time job it is to be a mum!!
haha my daughters in law will never be able to complain about this stuff LOL!!
Jac - posted on 02/10/2010
God! I am SO glad to hear I am not crazy!! Ive been wondering y im so snappy and picking fights, its because I, bored stupid at home all day. My family live an hour away so I cant pop into my Mums for a coffee or anything. There is so much to pack to go there with Taylah. My husband has lately been coming home from work at 3 going to gym till 6 then coming home expecting tea plays on his computer and goes to bed. Taylah and I dont get any of his time - im deprived of adult conversation and im running around bathing, feeding, cooking tea, putting her to bed then cleaning up after tea and tidy the house in general. Then by 10 i have my dinner and shower do her late feed then go to bed. Im guna burn myself out here and on weekends he goes out with the boys and wateva he likes. Cant get thru to him he thinks im winging!!!
Kayla - posted on 02/09/2010
hi its kayla again never mind wat i just wrote, but i have 2 kids, a 17 month old an a 4 month old, even before i had my first son, me and my partner have fought on a regular basis an i found that as soon as i had my yougest that the arguments have been getting worse, its like i dont want to listen to him or something, i know what the problems are that make us fight but its like i dont want to help the situation or even change how im acting, even though i dont want to fight, if any1 is like me please let e know cause i would love to chat, or is it just ME
Sarah - posted on 02/09/2010
same boat here I pick fights because there is no one to talk to during the week he is gone for 12hrs working and we get him maybe 2 hours before he is asleep i feel like the maid the cook and super mom i wish i knew how to feel less alone
Carla - posted on 02/09/2010
Im on the same boat. my husband and i fight a lot! for little stuff like bottle feeding diapers, silly stuff. we are finally getting better at it. try to talk it out with him at that moment, dont let it pass by cause it just makes things worse.
Alison - posted on 02/09/2010
Oct 10 was the birth of our 3rd child!! So things can get pretty hectic around here. The oldest was 7 when we had our second child and we fought a lot. In retrospect I know I started most of the fights out of my own frustrated state. I felt isolated and tied down to a screaming baby and felt like no one understood least of all my husband.
Sometimes I would pick fights because he got to go out to work?!?! I know crazy, but I was jealous he got adult interactions and I didn't. I felt like I did everything and he did nothing. But since than I have realised I had a man who went out and worked to support us without complaining. he loves me unconditionally and he does help out around the house.
I am not saying it's your fault at all, this is 100% my story only. But one thing that helped was my great grandma telling me when i complained to her that I have to not look at what he doesn't do but appreciate and praise what he does do. she is a smart woman because as soon as I started to suck it up and give him lots of encouragement and accept that he does mop the florrs, just no the way i mop them, he started to do more things and everything is some much more equal feeling now.
It's hard for me to let go, because I am a control freak when it comes t housework and I put way to high expectations on my husband. Learning to let go and appreciate him for what he brings to the situation was hard but helped.
Again my story, not saying anything at all about your relationship ;-)
Sharon - posted on 02/08/2010
We are exactly the same as before, but we vary rarely had fights or even disagreements prior to our little guy coming along. I'm surprised how much more patient I am now. I used to have a short temper, now I haven't been grumpy at all since he was born. But we are very very lucky as Xander has been so well behaved, doesn't cry or whinge and hasn't been sick at all. I'm sure if he hadn't made it so easy for us there would have been alot more tension around.
Alex - posted on 02/08/2010
(Raising my hand) ME! My husband and I would have an argument about once a month. Now that baby is here we've argued almost twice a week!! The other night we argued over a stupid baby bottle! There's alot of tension between us. Mostly because of the new responsibilities. I feel I do more then he does. And of course he disagrees.
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