Husband is ready for another baby... am I?

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So I was completely blindsinded last night when my husband told me he was ready to have another child. Our son will be 2 in less than a month. I started getting baby fever when he was about 15 months old but then I stopped thinking about it so much when he was around 22 months. Had he mentioned this to me a few months ago or even a year ago I would have been OVERJOYED but instead I felt very mixed emotions.

For those 7 or so months when all I could think about was having a new baby to love and a sibling for my son, my husband never said "no" but he was not enthusiastic about it at all. I could tell he was not giving it much thought. Now that I have come to terms with the fact that I'm not pregnant, I don't think I want to go through pregnancy again right away since I had a very difficult one and our boy is just starting to become indpendent.

Should I go for it now that my husband is ready and willing or enjoy the stage my son is in now without having to start all over with a new child? Keep in mind, I would eventually like to have 2 kids and I do not want them more than 5 years apart.

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Sharon - posted on 09/14/2011

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I think you both need to be on the same page.
Ours is turning 2 next month and we also have an almost 5mth old. Totally planned. We wanted thrm 18mths apart, they are 17.5mths apart. We are already thinking #3, but thats not until this little man is about 12mths or so.

Yep, it's super busy with 2, and my eldest went through alot of jealously, then seperation anxiety. Now though, we are all in a groove and he is totally smitten with the baby.

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Meghan - posted on 10/14/2011

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Well, it really depends on what you think you can handle. My daughter will be two in just a couple of days, and I'm 6 months pregnant with our second girl. The first trimester is REALLY rough with a two year old. Chasing them around when you are just dead tired is nearly impossible. But, once you get past the first trimester it's really great. My daughter is so excited to have a sister. She points to my belly and says Sister!! She'll kiss my tummy, and put stickers on my belly for her little sister lol. We are excited that they will be close enough in age that they will have things in common. And once we are done with everything, we will be done. Diapers and bottles, and all that will be done and over with all at one time. My oldest daughter doesn't have a bottle, but she is still in diapers, we are trying to potty train right now but she is stubborn :) So, if you feel like you need a little more time, just be honest with your hubby and take the time that you need. I wasn't ready at all when I got pregnant this time, but I'm super excited now!

Jaye - posted on 09/13/2011

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i am not that ready but here i am 2 mo. preggy and taking care of a baby whose turning 2 next mo. and its so hard! waking up early, doing the laudry its super hard!

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