Ready for baby #2

Dana - posted on 08/13/2010 ( 25 moms have responded )

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Hello, i had my son in October of 2009, he is almost a year old and I have baby on the brain again. I dont know if because I LOVED being pregnant or what. I was 9 months old when my mom got prego with my brother and same with my husbands family too. How do I know when were really ready for baby #2. My husband is on board for anything, he wants a soccer team! He also keeps reminding me "think of how far Jake will be in 9 months" meaning that wen i do get prego and actually have baby #2, think of how old jake our first child will already be..hmm....

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Jessica - posted on 08/16/2010

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we have the same plan, we are not trying (counting days etc.) but just not using protection and looking forward to it when it happens. I figure youll never be ready till u dont have the choice.
And i dont want my little guy, wyatt, to get to used to being the king before he has to share mommies love with our next !

Sharon - posted on 08/13/2010

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We just found out I'm pregnant with #2, so that will make them 17.5mths apart. And yes, it was planned :-) I figure that it will be hard for a few months, but in the grand scheme of life a few hard months here & there for years of enjoyment is nothing. I know that having them close won't guarantee a good, strong relationship and hopefully friendship when they are older, but it's a helping hand.
Think of your son running around in 9-12mths time, imagine having a newborn around with him doing that. If your ok with that, then go for it! :-D

Susan - posted on 08/13/2010

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Not trying to tell you when to get pregant, but when my oldest child (Ethan) was 15 months old, I got pregnant with baby #2 (Pacience). Everything was awesome. Ethan was old enough to understand that Mommy was having another baby! He was excited, I involved him in everything, minus her birth. He talked to her (thru my belly) and had a blast with it. When I has her, he was old enough to help Mommy out with the small stuff. He was so happy to help and to be involved. There wound up being 1 year and 11 months between them, and I think that is the perfect age difference for them. He is 5 now and she is 3 and they get along like no one could believe! Yea they are brother and sister, they have their disagreements, but nothing to harsh. Hope this helps!

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Carly - posted on 08/28/2010

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My partner and I have decided to start trying in December/January so we could have another bub around our little guys 2nd birthday he was born 29th October hoping for an early October baby though

Tamie - posted on 08/28/2010

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Tricia Erb..My Daughter was Born Oct 5th..My birthday is Oct 10th and Husbands is Oct 15..funny thing is it was not planned..but have thought about getting pregnant in Jan again to have a 4th family member in Oct..But i am not sure if i am ready for Baby #2 yet lol..Skylee has sure been keeping me on my toes

Tricia - posted on 08/26/2010

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lol i had our first baby in oct 2009 as well and my husband and i are going to be working on number two here soon. our goal is to have them around thew same time so all our birthdays are around the same time. i think having kids back to back helps them to have stronger bonds because they are so close in age. i think you should do what you feel is right =)

Julie - posted on 08/26/2010

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well my little man is now 10 months exactly today and just found out i was pregnant for #2... i think of it this way, i always wanted 2 kids, i thought it was too early but everything happens for a reason, and also, with both of them being 1.5 year apart, they will get along very easily. if your heart tells you to do so, go for it!!

Victoria - posted on 08/22/2010

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Hi there, My kids are 15 mnths apart, and i love it, yeah it was little hard to start with but then we got into a good routine, and now its gr8, there so so cute together, i love the fact there so close together in age!

Vicky-Marie - posted on 08/22/2010

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I have 5 years between my daughter and son, then five years between my son and next daughter which is a big gap. However there is 15 months between my third and fourth daughters and it is an awesome age gap. If you are ready go for it Jake will be fine and you will adapt to two. Good luck!

Petrina - posted on 08/21/2010

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We just found out we were pregnant with #3 (planned) our oldest is 6 but our youngest and this one will be 18 months apart. Can't wait!

Claire - posted on 08/21/2010

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we are planning to try for baby #2 new year meaning by the time our 2nd child arrives my son will be 2+ xx

Margaret - posted on 08/21/2010

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Personally, we're not ready. My son was born Oct 2, and we're not ready in so many ways. I had a very rough delivery w/ an emergency c-section w/ a lot of nerve damage. it took a good 7 months to fully recooperate. I will definitely have more, but I'm just not ready physically right now. Not only that, we have our house on the market, because its just way to small for us. We barely had enough room before the baby was born, and now its getting worse. We are going to wait until my son is between 2 or 3 to get preggo w/ #2. He's also a handfull, I really dont want to have to carry 2 babies. We figure by the time hes 3 he won't want to be carried anymore, and will be more independant and helpful. I'd also like him to be potty trained beforehand as well. This is all in a perfect world, but we all know god works in crazy ways and throws us surprises every now and then. If #2 comes sooner, we'll be happy either way!!!

Ciara - posted on 08/21/2010

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My kids are 18 months apart. I wish that I would have waited a little longer between them because neither one is out of diapers yet, and they both are full of energy! But they are a lot of fun and they keep me on my toes!! :)

Amanda - posted on 08/21/2010

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I am pregnant with #2. Im 15wks so my 1st will be 15mo when this one is born. I think it will be hard at first but I have had so many people tell me that it will be so much better when they get a little older. So Im excited :)

Chantal - posted on 08/21/2010

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I got pregnant with my son when my daughter was only 4 months old!! They are 12 months apart and while it is hard work, I wouldnt change a thing!

Rachelle - posted on 08/20/2010

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Go for it if you are up for it. My son was born 10/22/09 and our daughter is due 2/20/11 we could not be anymore excited!

Natalie - posted on 08/20/2010

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Two is ten times harder than one or three. my kids are 2yr apart, and i wanted them closer do what feels right for you! good luck.... oh and my best friend is my sister 18 months apart, I have 4 other sister but none are as close as we are, i think age has alot to do with that

Gloria - posted on 08/20/2010

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Well, I am already pregnant again after my October 2009 boy. I got pregnant when he was about 8.5 months old. It was a surprise, but all gifts are good and I don't question for a second that this baby is meant to be here. I have spoken to some friends who have had their children 15-18 months apart and all of them said that it has its challenges. I have an older son, 3.5 now who will be 4.5 when his second little sibling is born. I thank heaven that he is such a good big brother and feel very lucky to have my two amazing boys already. Was I really ready to get pregnant with my 3rd less than 9 months after the birth of my second? No. But I don't think that being my not being "ready" for baby #3 so soon is a bad thing. I will be ready when the time comes because I know that I have to be. Sometimes people put off having another child because of money, other events happening in their lives, job switches, and moves. What you have to say to yourself is that, when your next little one wants to come to you, they will and you will be ready. There are challenges to having children closer together as well as having them farther apart. You will know what is right for your family when the time comes, either by your choosing or by the grace of God. Best wishes deciding. I am happily surprised with my little gift due in March 2011. :)

Cathy - posted on 08/20/2010

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You sound just like me. Thank you for posting this question. For awhile I wanted them about 3 years apart, but the more I think about it the more I feel ready.

Danyelle - posted on 08/18/2010

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i say if you feel like you are ready go for it i got pregnant with my son when my now 2 year old was only 7 months they are 16 months apart and the best of friends i say the closer the better they will always have a friend in school no matter what

APRIL - posted on 08/18/2010

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my girls are 10mnths apart.it is a hand full but they (i hope) will be very close to each other. my oldest loves her baby sister and tries everything she can to make her laugh.and my baby adorse her older sister. dont get me wrong there are down falls b/c the oldest does play ruff and she tries to hit (she is in the terrable twos) but it is great...so i say go for it

Carolyn - posted on 08/18/2010

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My son was 8 months old when I found out I was preggers with baby #2. Then when she was 9 months old I found out I was preggers with baby #3. Its a hectic life for right now having a 9 month old, 2 & 3 1/2 yr olds. But I look at it this way. I was already used to being sleep deprived and my babies are all so close in age that they have an opportunity to be super close with their siblings. They have so much fun together and Im finding that my 2nd & 3rd children are learning at a faster rate than their older sibling(s) because the older one(s) are teaching the younger ones. For me its been a wonderful experience. I don't think we can every fully be prepared financially or emotionally to grow our families but when it happens we find ways to make it work. Congratulations on the family you've created so far and good luck in the future.

Tana - posted on 08/17/2010

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I got pregnant with my youngest while my first was around 10 months. I really just wanted to have two children that were close in age as me and my sister are 4 years apart and knew how difficult it was getting along with her due to the age gap. I think it worked out perfectly. They are 18 months apart.



My oldest didnt really know what was going on other than there was a baby suddenly here that wasnt there before. He LOVED it though. He is 2 now and loves to help with every little thing he can ie. helping feed him, getting the wipes or a diaper for mommy, he loves taking things away from Nathan that he knows that they arent supposed to have etc. Its amazing at what they can do already when they are 2. I didnt expect it at all. They play together very well, it helps a lot when stuff needs to get done around the house. They have a bond that is indescribable already and its so sweet to see. Like the other mamas have said, they have their moments when they dont like each other, as all siblings do, but it doesnt happen often.



Based on my experience, I say have another now if you are ready. :)

Kris - posted on 08/16/2010

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My first son was 18 months when my next baby was born. I love that they are so close in age. They play together and get on really well (most of the time lol) Wouldnt change it for anything!

Jamie - posted on 08/16/2010

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my babies are 12 months and one day apart 10 months and 22 months and i love it! it is so great having them so close together. my husband and i want another one and want them close so we are hoping to get pregnant sometime soon! so if you feel like you are ready go for it!!!

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