Melissa - posted on 12/13/2009 ( 1 mom has responded )
How is your baby with dad? My daughter Julianna is almost 10 weeks old and her daddy, my fiance is great with her, spends tonnes of time playing, cuddling bathing, changing diapers etc and does everything I do except nurse. On weekend days she loves being with him, smiles at him all the time etc. However, as of late she tends to be a little fussy in the evening time, which is when he is home so its often when he is holding her. When this happens there is nothing he can seem to do to calm her down, but the second I pick her up she quiets right down. It also seems she has figured out that when she's hungry I will take her so now she sucks on her hand and shows the signs of hunger even when Ive just nursed her, and once I take her her hunger magically disappears lol (smart little cookie). I know its normal for us to be bonded, and for it to be perhaps a little easier for me to comfort her as we spend 24 hours a day together but my question is: Do I take her from daddy when she's screaming bloody murder (and I know shes fed changed etc) or do I leave her with him and let her cry?
A few times it has been so intense that I've taken her out of his arms (which he obviously doesn't appreciate because he wants to comfort her too) but it was just so hard for me to see her staring at me screaming with tears streaming down her face :( I've been trying to leave the room when she cries and he has her, so I'm not tempted, but is this the right thing to do? so she learns that she can be comforted my both mom and dad? or should I take her?
Any advice, opinions or experience on this topic would be appreciated!