help in dealing with relationship problems during pregnancy

Patricia - posted on 12/06/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Hi everyone my name is Patty. Im 21 years old and im pregnant with my 1st child which it will be due in May 2012. When I found out that I was pregnant, me and my boyfriend were going through some problems. We decided to work it out. My boyfriend which I have been with for 3 years has 3 kids (ages 12, 11, 10) from another relationship. My boyfriend doesnt have a job right now because he has a criminal record and he loves to drink beer. He gets drunk and he become abusive. Right now my pregnancy is not fun and is stressful. Im constanly crying and thinking about putting my baby in adoption. I dont want to do that but right now thats wat im thinking about. He even tells me that he doesnt care about me or the baby and he only cares about his own kids. Right now I need someone to talk to and help mentally and emotionally to leave him. Its too hard to leave him but I know that it is the best thing to do. I just need help through my pregnancy.

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Renee - posted on 02/22/2012

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oh sweetie, you poor thing. :( it may be hard to leave, but surely staying would be harder. all the stress and emotional pain is not healthy during pregnancy. not to mention abuse. By the sounds of it he is a bit older than you, so that in itself could be scary. I would assume you havent told your mum how he treats you? i'm sure if you open up to her things would seem easier....open up to someone in your life, your mum or close friend. once they know they will bend over backwards to help you im sure.



April, same with you darling, tell your parents, kick him out and give the ring back! marriage is for life and your life will be an abusive one. Bub or no bub, look for the love you deserve..xx

April - posted on 02/08/2012

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I am 17 and engaged but we also have aot of relationship problems. He also doesnt have a job and we have to rely on my parents to take care of us. He is living with me and my family but he doesnt try to find a job or start growing up. He just turned 18 and he is always telling me how I cant do anything with him and that he doesnt see why he stays with me and lately he has been grabbing me and he has hit me a couple times. I would leave him but Im scared I wont find another guy and have to raise our daughter as a single parent...He says he will work on it, but thats hard to beleive now. When hes with me he's always angry, hes only happy when hes with the guys

Jennifer - posted on 12/21/2011

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I'm so sorry that you have to endure this through what should be a joyous event. But what I think is you need to do what is best for you and your baby. If that means leaving him the do it. You can do it on your own. It may not be easy but you can do it. If you think putting your baby up for adoption is the best option then do that. Like I said do what's best for you and your baby. I hope everything works out for you!

Justine - posted on 12/19/2011

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darling im sorry to hear this !!! my heart goes out to you honestly ....

well what i think you should do is think about this child that u are carrying and same as leah said if he is abusive to u imagine how he is going to be with the child ..... if he cannot control his behavior then you def do not need this person .. i know that is better said then done but it only takes 1 step and time and ull be fine .... how is your family with the whole situation ? are u close to them ? can u go to them ? because i think the best help u can get is from them ... things will all fall into place just takes time and when u r in a better place and happier u will see the pregnancy in a different aspect ... we r here or you :)

Leah - posted on 12/09/2011

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Know that you are better than this and you deserve to be with a man who is a real man. One who will respect you and love you. I know he may say that he loves you but anyone who treats you like that doesn't. My heart aches for you and I worry. I truly believe that the first step is knowing your own personal worth. You are a good person, who is growing a child and deserve better. I do know it is hard and scary. I have been there. Please love yourself, you are worth it!

Patricia - posted on 12/09/2011

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leaving him is hard especially during this time. But every single day I cry cuz he is mean to me. I would like to live with my mom again but its hard to leave. I know that is that best for me and the baby but right now everything is falling apart. I just dont know what to do with myself anymore...

Leah - posted on 12/06/2011

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Sweetie, I am so sorry to hear you are having to go through this. If he is abusive to you, know that he will be abusive to your child as well. Is that what you want for your baby to grow up with? I know leaving is hard. I think the first step to it is recognizing that you are worth more and deserve better. Do you have anywhere to go? Family you can call? Again I know it is hard to leave but please for your sake and for the sake of your child, please remove yourself from this situation and say good riddance to this guy. We are all here to support you!

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