13 month old sleeping (**or not sleeping**)

Tanya - posted on 12/14/2010 ( 19 moms have responded )

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so i need help, my son is 13 months on the 20th, and he has always been a troubled sleeper. never has slept thru the night (except once or twice when i forgot to turn the monitor on! ooops). he has been doing better only waking once... but for the last week or so we are back to waking 4, 5, 6 or more times a night!!! omg! im so exhausted! he has been in a 'big boy bed' since he was about 8 months old. and has always slept so much better in this bed opposed to his crib. so i am thinking of putting the crib back up, so he cant get out of bed and run around... maybe it will be easier to get himself back to sleep. so i guess my question is... is anyone else having (or had) this problem and what are you doing to fix it (or how did you fix it)???? i am really uncomfortable with the cry it out method, but right now i am willing to try almost anything!! Please help this momma get some sleeeep!!!!
Thanks everyone!

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Sarah - posted on 12/21/2010

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When you say he slept through when you forgot the monitor that puzzled me, so he can resettle? How quickly do you go in when he wakes? I know I personally stopped using the monitor pretty early as I found myself waking everytime she made a noise but if she really needed me I heard her through the wall anyway. Is it possible you are going in too fast and not giving him a chance to resettle? There is (IMO) a middle ground between CC/CIO and running in the second they wake. Personally I only go in if she is crying, not whining or anything else. I found I was going in too fast and sometimes causing her to wake further when actually some of her cry outs were in her sleep so I tend to wait 5 mins before I go in (unless she is crying hard and I know something is wrong and go straight away). From only 2 months she only woke at night to feed which she quit at 9 months and has slept through ever since. I sometimes here her cry out once or twice but rarely for more than 30secs. Good luck.

Callie - posted on 12/14/2010

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My daughter goes through rough patches with her sleeping. She only slept through the night for about 2-3 weeks at like 7or 8 months. She still wakes up to nurse at night which I feel if she's asking for milk I'm gonna feed her (she's a little thing). There are many toddlers that wake up during the night for several years. So it's normal that he isn't sleeping through the night. I don't like the cry it out method either. What I've done is try to make sure to put her in her crib when she is sleepy but not totally asleep. When she fusses at night I give her a minute or 2 before I go in to check on her just to give her a chance to fall back asleep on her own. You can also try patting his back to comfort him back to sleep instead of picking him up. I've been told babies will sleep through the night when they're ready. It's possible that he could be teething and it's disrupting his sleep. Good Luck! Just know that there are lots of other moms still waking up with there 13 month old (and older).

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Veronica - posted on 06/05/2013

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Candice - posted on 01/05/2011

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so glad i am not the only one! kennedy has slept throuh since tiny but in the last month she will not sleep!we struggle to get her to sleep and then she wakes in the night absolutely screaming! we cannot get her back to sleep and have resorted to putting her in our bed, which i dont like 100 %, but have also left her to cry, checking on her every 5 minutes but we were worn out first!!

Wende - posted on 12/26/2010

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my heart goes out to you! My daughter is also 13 months and a good sleeper for the most part. She did start waking up in the middle of the night recently. My first instint is to go cuddle her until she is back to sleep, but what I have found is that it encourages more night waking because she gets cuddle. I was also against the crying out method but honesty I had lost my paitence without sleep. It has worked, but sometimes it takes longer then others for her to get back to sleep, but it takes less time and trust me it is worth it to get some sleep. Give it a try, and hopefully sleep will come. Sometimes it takes a hour or so and it is hard, and stressful, but if it means eventually sleep for the both of you, I think it is worth it! Good luck!

Dusty - posted on 12/23/2010

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I am also one that can't do the cry it out method, but this worked like a charm in about a week or so. Lay baby down, let him cry for five minutes then go in his room, rub his belly or back and calm him down. Don't go back in for ten minutes, then 15 and so on. This by no means is fun, but by the end of the week we were able to put our son in his crib without rocking him for an hour and he stays asleep all night ever since. Good luck, no sleep especially at 13 months is maddening

Nikkie - posted on 12/23/2010

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Well, My first son was a very fussy sleeper as if he would have nightmarwes or somthing, he slept great untill he was a year old then he would wake up several times. To get him to sleep I usually undressed him and rubed him down with a sleep time cream, and rocked him for about 10 mins. After he had time to calm down I put him back in his bed and if he cried I let him cry, to let him tire out a little more. You dont let them excessively cry, but a little crying wont hurt him, he needed to learn that night time is sleep time thats just they way it is, and now I have my two sons and they both sleep fantastically. Hope this helps.

Tiffany - posted on 12/22/2010

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R U nursing him at night? My oldest was up every 2 hours from day 1 until she hit 12 months! At 12 months I fought her for 2 nights.... left her in her crib and helped sooth her back to sleep w/out nursing her. After the 2 VERY long nights she was sleeping 7pm-5am, waking to nurse and then back down for 2 hours. At 15 months I completely stopped nursing her day/night and she's been sleeping every night since! That's worth a try if your nusing. My second on the other hand is 12 months now and every night is a suprise w/her! She was sleeping all night w/out ANY wakings from day 1- 3 months and then once she learned to roll over and sit and all of that she stopped sleeping all night. Now shes up 2-3 times a night. I've stopped nursing her at night and taking her out of her bed and NOTHINGS working! As far as the big boy bed goes, they recomend you wait until age 3 or until they ask for it since they dont quite have the understanding on what's going on. My oldest will be 3 in Feb and she's still in a crib. We tried moving her to a big bed at 2 and she was up several times a night and was asking for her bars back, lol. Good luck to you! Being a parent is the toughest job. ;)

Tanya - posted on 12/22/2010

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No, im not scared of him falling out of bed because he has no frame on the bed, just a mattress for now. (well, hes back in the crib, but not doing to much better...) but he only falls out like less then a foot. he doesnt ever fall out anymore tho. but he slept better in the big boy bed. i might put him back! lol. he is teething, he has 9 teeth already and 5 more coming in including 2 molars. it is hell!!! and the teething tablets that have been helping sooo much have been recalled! im soo mad! lol. when he does cry in the night i do not go in right away i give him a chance, but it never works. :(

Julia - posted on 12/21/2010

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I am going to guess he is teething...perhaps his back molars...mine just started not sleeping through the night again and when I realized he had a stuffy nose I checked his mouth and sure enough he has two back molars trying to come up...try the tricks you used for the first teething go round! hope it helps

Carol - posted on 12/21/2010

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Have you changed any routine or is he theething or sick? I found that after moving my baby only wanted to sleep with me. Also, when she is sick or teething she gets more clingy and wakes up during the night. I do not agree with the cry out method. I stay with her and nurse and explain that is bed time/time to go back to sleep and she usually goes back to sleep. I think she is little and as she grows she will improve. No need to worry. I am aware that nursing in the middle of the night or early morning might be just a habit and not a need, but I don't mind. If she wants to be with me for confort, why not?

Amber - posted on 12/21/2010

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R you not afraid of them falling out of the bed, I am not sure when to put my son in his big boy bed. I am afraid he will fall out or get hurt somehow!!

Donna - posted on 12/21/2010

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My son was also 13 months on the 20th and used to be an amazing sleeper but now he wont sleep either. We now do Controlled Crying when we put him down which is heartbreaking but it does work and he tends to sleeptil morning, He is in a big boy bed now and seems alot more settled because he isnt waking himself up by banging his head on the cot. He does come into my bed about 6am though and go back down til 9-10ish but he does have nights where he will not sleep!! I give him a bottle of water and leave him to cry for a few mins and he usually gives up eventually x

Amber - posted on 12/20/2010

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I know exactly how you feel, my 13th mth old son has never slept through the night. He gets up at least once and sometimes twice...but he is a early riser....but he is still in his crib. I don't feel comfortable enough to put him in a big boy bed for fear of him falling out but I don't like the cry out method but last week he went through a spell where he was waking up 4-5 times a night so finally at least once or twice I would stand outside his room and let him whin it out and he would go back to sleep...now he is back to waking up at least once at night and gettng up around 5-5:30 am every morning but I don't mind that really...I do wish he would sleep all night mainly for his health but I have always heard that some just don't sleep all night until they are older so I guess I have one that will just wake up at least once a night!! If you figure out any help Please let me know!!

Jones Ogbonnaya - posted on 12/20/2010

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My own daughter is always awake at nights. She wakes upa and for about two hours remains awake. In this regard, I feel so bad because I still will be at work at dawn. Even my husband says I am not friendly to my daughter just because I must enjoy my sleep. Mrs Vera Jones

Sharon - posted on 12/19/2010

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I have 13mth twin boys! both have a dummy so sometimes wake thru night looking for it!! both were great at going to bed awake & settling themselves to sleep but just before there 1st bday Cadyn started to protest when put to bed, screaming the place down, so i was in & out the room gettting all stressed trying to get him to settle til 1 night my partner was here on his own & let him cry it out & eventually he falls asleep!! its horrible listening to him cry but as there is 2 of them i've no room in my bed & if he knows am goona go in cuddle him all the time he keeps up the crying!! put him back in his crib, when he cries leave him 10mins then go in pat his back, tummy etc then leave the room & do this until the crying starts to tail off!! Good luck xx

Brianna - posted on 12/18/2010

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if you dont put him back in the crib you should put a baby gate in his bedroom doorway so he cant get out and use a baby monitor. i think if he has never slept good then you shouldnt have put him and a big boy bed until he was properly trained. at some point i think ur gonna have to just let him cry it out to teach him..

Ashley - posted on 12/17/2010

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my son is 13 months old and he has always been a really good sleeper, starting sleeping through the night at 6 weeks old. everyone in awhile he will wake up during the night and i go to his bedroom and pat him on the back until he falls asleep. but lately every night for the past week he has been waking up and nothing seems to help. the patting his back dont, rocking, etc. then when i bring him into our bed to laydown he is out in less than 5m. i dont want to make a habbit out of it. i also believe he is teething too. but when he wakes up in the night he does chew or suck on anything or throw a teething fit et. so im not too sure. hopefully he will start sleeping good again soon :)

Tessa - posted on 12/14/2010

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i know how u feel i went through this with my son a few months ago when he started crawling. before than he was a perfect sleeper. About a month ago it got even worse when he started walking i was very fustrated the only way i could get a decent night sleep was to let him sleep in our bed. now that his sleeping all night again in our bed i now have the battle of getting him back in his own bed. Theres always something that we are battling with as parents but its worth it :)

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