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2.5 y.o. attached to mama, always!

Angela - posted on 04/30/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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We have 2.5 y.o. son. For the last 6 mo or so he has been attached to mama at all times. I cannot even use a bathroom without him pounding at the door. He won't accept help from his dad, only mama "read book, feed meal, give bath, play with, etc" This morning as I was getting ready for work, he said that I must play with him and cried bloody murder because I suggested that maybe "dad wants to play with you too". At one point he said, mama don't go to work, dad go to work, and mama and I stay home. I am a working mom, but i do make sure that I am there every morning to make my son pancakes, and I am there every evening to feed him dinner. My husband is with him Mon-Fri and I am with him Sat & Sun due to our work schedules. We're also raising him to speak 2 languages. He understands and speaks full sentences in "mama's language" but refuses to communicate in "papa's language" even though he understands it 100% and hears it more often than "mama's language". When my husband speaks to him in English, he answers him back in "mama's language" (Russian).

Does anyone else have a toddler who is constant attached to mama and ignoring, refusing any attention from dads?

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Angela - posted on 04/30/2012

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Hi Michele,

Thanks for feedback...At first I was giving in...As many working moms out there, I fell guilty for going back to work, while my husband was eventually stay at home dad. I thought, my son misses me and that's why constant asking for mama...Reading your perspective, now I can see how it is part of "Independence stage" aka terrible two's :-)

Michelle - posted on 04/30/2012

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You are going to have to step back and make him hangout with his dad, don't give him what he wants unless he speaks english that sort of thing it will be hard but he is exerting his independence and if you both give in to his demands then he wins and you get to start over. Sit down with your husband and make a plan of action that both of you can follow to ensure that he has consistency in his rules and what you expect of him than back each other up and follow through. Don't absolutely don't give in to those temper tantrums my daughter tries them every once in awhile and yes does the I only want mommy thing but she is learning the hard way that if she has a fit she ends up in her room by herself. My husband and I will not put up with her behavior and now at the age of 3 it is starting to go the other way where she wants daddy and not mommy he will outgrow it patience and consistency is the key. Good luck.

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