how can you break a child from always wanting mommy

Terrie - posted on 08/19/2012

How can i back 5 month old from me and a 3 year old to listen to me more

Terrie - posted on 08/19/2012

How can i back 5 month old from me and a 3 year old to listen to me more

Terrie - posted on 08/19/2012

How do brack a five month old from being held all the so i con clean or do what i have to do

Kara - posted on 07/20/2010

They do grow up way too fast!!! My 81/2 month old son has become very clingy but I believe it's just a faze he is going to go thru and I don't want him to lose that trust in me, so things can wait and get done while he is sleeping but for now I'm all his!!! and lovin it :)

Janet - posted on 07/20/2010

The dishes can wait, these little guys will be grown and out of our homes far too soon not to try and enjoy our time with them. So, I vote to let the house be messy!!! :)

Jennifer - posted on 07/20/2010

I'd say the hipslings and baby carriers are great for when you need to egt things done BUT they can often result in the baby being even more attached to the mother which isn't very good.

Janet - posted on 07/19/2010

I am thinking that the gal with the hip sling is on to something. I have noticed that when I spend a good chunk of time focusing on just my son, he tends to be a bit less clingy for awhile. Like right now. I am on the computer and he is in his crib playing with toys. Previous to this, we were playing one on one for about 1/2 hour. Oh, I spoke too soon! I hear whining!!! Lol!!!

I think I'll try sling mom's idea and see where that gets me!

Good luck all!

Amie - posted on 07/18/2010

i wish i knew my son is the same way ppl have told me its because my husband and i spoil him to much

Ash - posted on 07/16/2010

my little boy is in the same habit, i've done everything to try and get him out of it.. nothing works, i've tried to make it that if i do go away he can still see me and the reaction is worse than when i actually get up and walk away. somedays i just get up and do what i have to while he is screaming/crying because it needs to be done. mind you other times i just sit and wait till he is asleep, but that doesnt always work.. i have eaten all 3 main meals for a day since my son was born.

Ann Marie - posted on 07/16/2010

I'm not a big fan of the TV, but I also found that if the TV is on in the background my 8-month-old is less clingy. She's still playing with her toys, but the background noise seems to calm her down. She'll look for me once every few minutes to make sure I'm still in sight, but I can be in the next room. I limit it to about 30 minutes, but it's great when I need to do the dishes or make dinner.

And another thing - when they're teething (which is pretty often from 6-18 months), the whining definitely gets worse! But that's understandable, poor things. Lots of carrying is one of the best cures for teething pain. And also, try frozen damp washcloths!

Amanda - posted on 07/16/2010

I have the same problem with my son. He is 8 months and he always wants mommy. My daughter was like this for a little while when she was born, and now that she is two, she is completely independant and want to do everything on her own. I think maybe its something kids just grow out of!

Samantha - posted on 07/15/2010

ive got the same mine is 7half munths old and just crawling but hes clingy too me if i leave the room he follows me saying m m m m m m m m m, but if i put is toys by im it does help so i can do fings but it doesnt last lung as if he notices hes alone he comes crawling after me, i fink its just a fraze they go through cus they are all mum has we did carry them for 9 munths so its a natural bond i fink, itll pass cus my first one was the same but nt so clingy, keep strong x

Jennifer - posted on 07/14/2010

It's a phase all babies go through. My 7 1/2 month old randomly whines when I'm not in view, so I've invested in a door bouncer so he can watch me doing everything, even the dishes=]

Sarah - posted on 07/14/2010

I think its a phase all little ones go through, my eldest went through it and my 8month old is going through it at the moment! Look up seperation anxiety in babies on the internet, hopefully it will give you some info and maybe some tips? They do grow out of it though!

Christina - posted on 07/14/2010

The best thing you can do is understand that it is just a stage and "this too shall pass". Now I recommend a mei tai style carrier at this age and older. Know that the more negative energy you send it the worse it will get. Be in a place of acceptance and knowing it will pass before you know it. The more you resist it the more you are enforcing it. The baby carrier will help you get the things you need done and it will also make the baby feel more secure and safe building a lasting trust. Good luck!

Cecelia - posted on 07/14/2010

I know how you feel. My youngest one is doing the same thing. What I learned is if I need to do something I just go ahead and give her to daddy of course she starts screaming. I make sure she has all her toys around her and go in the other room where she won't see or hear me at all. After a good 10 mins she realizes okay momma's gone and is happier than heck. Daddy then puts her in her baby saucer or walker and it's all good. But whatever you do make sure she doesn't see you while you need to get your things done. Once you start making that a habit every day, she will soon start to get over that phase. I have been doing this for a month and it's starting to help me out a lot! I can finally get my laundry done w/o worring if she's crying her eyes out. Hope this helps.

Terra - posted on 07/14/2010

I have the same problem too. Except my son is 8 months old and if he can't see me, he whines. Even at the grandma and grandpa's. Just yesterday, they told me (i only went to work for 2 1/2hours) that all he was doing was crying and looking everywhere for me. He didn't settle down until (when i just came in the door) his grandma was feeding him dinner.

Susannah - posted on 07/13/2010

My baby girl is 8 and a half months and very clingy right now. However since she was I would put her down on her own and she's learnt now - she can cry for about two minutes then realizes it's mum and that she won't be picked up straight away so goes and plays, sometimes for an hour. As long as I pop in and out of her room she's content.
My husband and father babysit while I'm at work and they can't put her down - even when she goes to sleep. She'll throw a big fit if they do, and then try and do the same when she gets back to me. But I'm firm - she can cry if she wants, and she knows I'm there, but I can't hold her all day. Anyway she's not going to be able to learn any skills if she's always in my arms or sitting beside me. Crying won't kill her.
ON A SIDE NOTE: By the time I was three years old my mother was in hospital and my father had to work - he'd leave me alone with sawdust and a kitchen toy set and I'd literally entertain myself for hours. Kids need to learn to entertain themselves.

Stephanie - posted on 07/13/2010

It is a phase that starts between 6 and 9 months. I did some reading on it and they say to just let them be clingy and it will pass. My daughter is 8 months and now crawling. I does get easier. When I put her down and she starts the whining I move away and call her to me then I can go and do what I need and she follows behind me : ) I also found that sitting her on the kitchen floor while I'm making dinner helps. I give her an empty coffee tin and a wooden spoon and she's content.
They also say that the reason the baby is happier when there are more people around is they don't feel comfortable showing their true feelings. That is why they save it all up for mom. Take it as a complement : ) They truly feel comfortable with you : )

Ann Marie - posted on 07/13/2010

Some babies are just more clingy than others. My first daughter was extremely clingy from 6 or 7 months, until she was 2 1/2. She's still a momma's girl, but now she knows she can just call out for me and come get me if she wants me, so she's finally getting more independent. For my first, I just had to let her cry sometimes. (Also, I realized that if someone else was there with her, she would stop crying and be happy about 2 minutes after I left - so it was all a show for me!)

With my second daughter, who is not as clingy, I can play with her for a few minutes and then go get things done as long as I'm within eyeshot of her. So, for example, if I need to wash dishes, I'll get her some fun toys (tupperware, measuring cups) in the kitchen, play for a minute, and then start working. If she won't let me walk away, it's usually because she's tired or hungry or has a wet diaper.

Good luck!

Sanae - posted on 07/12/2010

Yes the more i hold him 7 1/2 months the more he wants it. Have to ween him off it. Can be hard on the ears sometimes.

Sanae - posted on 07/12/2010

I have the same problem.with my son. I have to just let him cry or i would never get anything done. He has a bit a of a hard time at daycare. Sometimes its better than others. But when i put him in bouncer and let him cry for good ten fifteen minutes and don't pay attention he starts to play with the toys. Still its very challenging with him and my four year old daughter

Natasha - posted on 07/12/2010

NOT a girl thing here either.i have a 7.5 mth old son too and hes the same way.its like he hates his crib because when hes on my bed hes usually content.he isnt like that with his nanny poppie or anyone else.I'm a single mother on a daily bases but he does see his father at times and most of the time not like that with him.i hate it because i work at walmart and when i come home its work work work to clean and set up diaper bag and stuff for the next day to start because his nanny whos his step nanny is his baby sitter at the moment.we also live with them and he doesnt act like that with them.he crys if hes hungry ill hurting sick or fighting sleep but thats it when he is with them.sometimes if i leave him alone he will get to playing with toys and forget he was ever crying but as soon as he sees me he whines.he will move his bumper pad just to look at me across our room and sometimes whines.Its always mum mum mum all day long lol. im all his as i dont blame him to be so attached and i love it but it does get annoying at times because im usually on the go go go 24/7.hope this helps to know your not the only one maybe its an age thing.i have noticed when i hold him more during the day he seems to get used to it and want me to hold him that day and the next few days so i have to slowly ween him out of wanting to be held but if i hold him and we play for about an hr or so its like hes tired of me so hes ready to nap (when he wont fight it) or just wants to be left alone.i think every baby has their own personality and you just have to figure out what your childs is.
good luck

Ann - posted on 07/12/2010

no not a girl thing! 7.5 month old son doing the same thing. although he is ok without me if daddy is around.

Jody - posted on 07/12/2010

It has to be more of a girl thing because I have exactly the same problem. We have weeks where it's worse than others - and I find it corresponds to times of teething. I do find it very frustrating especially when I need the loo. Sometimes I just let her cry for 5 minutes and as soon as I'm back and pick her up, she's forgotten I ever left her :) It's the only way to eat and get things done.

Stephanie - posted on 07/12/2010

My little girl is the same, every time I leave the room to do something I hear a scream or a "ma-ma-ma-ma" followed by a lot of whining..

Lisa - posted on 07/10/2010

thank you so much. im trying it all out.. if i be beside her all the time i would.

Jennifer - posted on 07/08/2010

my son isn't overly clingy but i carry him on my hip in a ring sling very frequently throughout the day. when he's on my hip he is completely content, alert, quiet, and it allows me to get housework done while knowing he is safely attached to me. we both love it and i think the reason he isn't clingy is because i do carry him so often. it makes babies feel secure in the world and its awesome

Brittany - posted on 07/08/2010

Mine is doing the same thing. I'm actually wondering if it's a phase thing. To be honest after a point I just ignore her so that I can run to the kitchen and get a glass of water or grab her some food.

Karen - posted on 07/08/2010

I'm a stay at home mum and I have the the same problem with my little girl too. She's excellent at Nanny & Pops but at home its Mum, Mum, Mum. But I find if I sit down with her for a little bit and get her interested in her toys she's ok. I can then get up, do the dishes, clean etc and she's ok, as long as she can see me. Now most times she just keeps on playing and doesn't even notice i've gone. Hope this helps ya!!! Good Luck.