I NEED HELP WITH DISCIPLINE

Nancygeronimo66 - posted on 05/22/2012

please help me,what will i do my kid is so verry hardheaded?

Nancygeronimo66 - posted on 05/22/2012

please help me,what will i do my kid is so verry hardheaded?

Naomi - posted on 04/08/2011

When we say no my son smiles at us and keeps on doing it :) Timeout works!

Lindsay - posted on 04/08/2011

Say no and/or remove him from the spot

Naomi - posted on 04/08/2011

What works for me is "timeout" I sit him down and I hold him with his hands on his legs and tell him that I said no to whatever he was doing and that he is on timeout. I only hold him there 30 seconds. After he is released he usually tests me and does it again. I will repeat his timeout. By then he will get down and go play with his toys.

Lindsay - posted on 04/07/2011

I think 17 months is way too early to even try a time out. You just have to keep saying NO, he's little, he's testing his boundries.. be consistent. You'll be saying no no no for a lonnnnnnnnnng time!! Tape the cover on the outlet? Maybe?

Julie - posted on 04/06/2011

I understand how you feel because I'm a full-time student too. I would recommended getting different outlet covers. Praise him when he is acting the way he should. He may just be doing things to make you give him more attention and the only way he knows how is by doing things he knows he shouldn't be doing.

Cheryl - posted on 04/06/2011

For my daughter we find telling her no and if she continues we remove her from the spot. She also get lots of praise for things she does that are good and we usually don't have much of a problem with her doing things she shouldn't

Lyndall - posted on 04/05/2011

Hello Katelyn,
I am a full time mum who works from home part time. I cant offer you any advice on the time out issue but I have some advice on saying NO!
One of my pet peeves when I go into a supermarket is listening to the parents at the checkouts say NO!, STOP IT! The reality is that the children are usually left standing there saying to themselves No WHAT? or Stop WHAT? The parents and children alike get more and more frustrated as the child doesnt know what to stop so they cant stop doing what ever it may be - the situation usually results in a spank and screaming children.
Instead of staying no all day - ask him to change his behaviour. Tell him something he can do and dont focus on what he cant. Give him an explicite instruction that he can follow. In this way you will find yourself being more positive and you will have made the most of a learning oportunity.
For example. when he plays with the outlets - say 'Danger, move away. You can celebrate if he follows the instruction. Standing in the bath - Danger, sit down. Touching a hot oven - Hot, Move away. Instead of staying stop IT at the check out You can say hold my hand or keep you hands in yrou pockets. We dont need any candy today. It is so much nicer than NO STOP IT! and actually treats the child as an inteligent human being.
I know this doenst work for everything and sometimes you do have to say no. But you will find that your child will learn from your more diverse instruction and you will feel more calm.
In the future it will give your little boy the skills to be more clear when he needs something also. Hope this helps.

Jaime - posted on 04/05/2011

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Just take a deep breath and walk away if the situation is too much for you to handle in the moment. That time-out for yourself is likely necessary so that you can remain focused on a positive solution, rather than just saying 'no' and hoping your little one understands. At 17 months old, we want to believe that they fully understand what it means when we say 'no'...but you have to keep in mind that at this stage they are learning 'cause and effect'. If your child does something, it's not because he is hell-bent on aggravating you or disobeying you...he is learning about how things work in his environment. With the outlets, you just have to be consistent and redirect him so that he is focused on something else (and this might be the time when you stop your school work for an hour and dedicate some one-on-one time so that he is engaged in an activity and less likely to wander off and explore areas of the house that you don't want him exploring). Also, be sure that your home is set up for his play and exploration. Clear off the bottom of one of your shelves and put some toys and books that he can reach...and make that his shelf. Make one of the cupboards in the kitchen kid-friendly with tupperware and wooden spoons and pot lids so that he can bang around when you are busy with lunch/dinner. Try to cover the outlets with furniture if at all possible, and if that's not an option maybe look into a full outlet cover that will need to be installed ( I think you can get them at the hardware store). I hope this helps some, but please join us in PBS and we will be more than happy to give you suggestions and ideas that will ease your frustrations and worries. ♥

Savona - posted on 04/05/2011

try somewhere else for a timeout, take a toy away, dont give him treats. He will understand eventually that he wants to keep that toy or that he wants to get treated to whatever youre going to give him thats yummy.
With my daughter I made the mistake of making her bed her time-out, but she knows the difference now, that when shes done something wrong that I put her there for a reason and she knows when I put her there when its time to sleep.
Take a deep breath and try to keep your cool =) goodluck fellow mommy!

Karen - posted on 04/05/2011

Keep being consistent!! Say 'no' once and if he does it again, physically remove him from the area and sit him down for a 'time out'. He'll cry and you'll feel bad that he is crying, but this is how you teach him! Eventually he'll figure out that if he doesn't listen to the first 'no' he's going to time out, and he'll stop. Trust me, I know the feeling. My son is almost 7 and I remember those days of frustration.