2nd or 3rd time mommies!

Larissa - posted on 11/10/2009 ( 79 moms have responded )

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hey mommies! i was just wondering how many of you guys are expecting your 2nd or 3rd baby really close to your first or second baby. hubby & i were talking about having another baby the earliest in november so our first baby would be at least the age of 2. but of course it happened earlier. my son will be 2 a couple months after the new baby is born.

i feel kind of bad for the baby all the lifting my son & more stress having a young one to run around and worry about. with my son i had nothing to worry about i was stress free! just wanting some support! please let me know of your guys stories/experiences so far w/ your pregnancy so close to your baby or babies!

thanks for listening!

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Jane - posted on 04/12/2010

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we had our 2nd when our 1st was 18 months (i was trying to get a solid 2 yrs b/w them). it's a lot of work, a newborn needs you 24/7 and an adventerous 18 month old needs you to be sure they don't run off a cliff, usually at the exact time that you're trying to nurse the newborn.
it's a lot but it's worth it. they are so, so happy to have oneanother and are very loving and hilarious together. our days are spent giggling and kissing.
i found:
one month to figure out how to handle things w/two kids
at 3 months you realize one day that you've got things under somewhat of a control

i nursed our first one for the 6 months i was on FMLA and i nursed our second one for 3 weeks. i just couldn't get enough rest to manage things. but they're both very healthy and very happy. i got over the guilt of the nursing issue the first night when she slept all night long.
congratulations and good luck!

i am now 4 weeks pregnant so our 2nd will be 23 months when this one (our final one) gets here. i just can't seem to master the timing for a full 2 yrs b/w kids.

Jaclyn - posted on 04/11/2010

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I am 8wks 5 days w second baby, my first is 10mnths old a boy, this pregnancy feels differ so hopin its a girl. I too am worried bout the stress of chasin the toddler at the end, i worked up till 4 days b4 given birth so i dont think i will strain myself, i wish i was workin again so i wont b tempted to lay down w lil man instead of exercising or cleaning. I like the close factor then they can keep an eye on each other in school n such. N it happens when its suppose too!

Sarah - posted on 04/11/2010

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Hi. I'm 35 weeks at the moment and have a daughter who is two and 3months. I was worried about straining ect but it seems our bodies are used to it. In my first pregnancy there was no way i could do what i do now, but by just doing your daily routine, your body and baby fits in, within reason :) i can still pick her up and carry her comforatbly, but i get my husband to take rubbish out for me causethe srain is different. i am worried about 'jealousy' when baby comes but she loves babies so i'm hoping it all fizzles. lol

Jennifer - posted on 04/11/2010

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i am currently 20 weeks prego with number 4 i have a 7 yr old boy and he was 21 mos when my daughter now age 5 gonna be 6 in june was born then i have annother boy who will be turning 2 3 days before i'm due with this one all 3 of my kids are special needs and the new baby has a 50-50 chance of having the same rare chromosome disorder as the others it def isn't easy but it is very rewarding the older 2 play very well with each other i my oldest was only jealous for a couple days but then curiosity got the better of him and now they are attached at the hip even till this day they do weverything together and stick up for and help each other out the youngest boy kinda tags along and they let him they love to share their toys with him and help me take care of and "watch him " when i need to get house work done i am not sure how my youngest will act with the new baby he is pretty used to having my undivided attention since big bro and sis are in school most days so i immagine it will be very simialar to when i had the first 2 not sure what this one is yet tried to find out but this one is breech and sittin gon its feet wouldn't even let us see its face my older 2 tell me its a girl since thats what they asked for i guess we shall see good luck it is truely a blessing to watch kids play together and learn from each other and even to work out their differences

Zoe - posted on 04/10/2010

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Hiya My Son Is Just Turning 7 Months And I Am Currently About 7 Weeks Pregnant I Always Wanted Close Age Gaps But Not This Close, There Will Around 14 Months Between #1 And #2 And that Is If I Go Full Term x

Krystal - posted on 04/10/2010

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hi my son is 11 months old and im now 7ish weeks pregnant, the midwife has given me a due date of 18th november 2010, im a little nervous but i am very excited to. my son was born 2nd may 2009 so he will be about 18 months when the baby comes. i should have a scan sometime in the next 4-5 weeks, i cant wait to see our little baby on the screen. i hope everyone has a safe and healthy pregnancy and birth. good luck anbd best wishes. :) x

Debbie - posted on 04/09/2010

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We had our ultrasound yesterday.....snakes, snails and puppy dog tails!!! We are having a boy!

Krysta - posted on 04/08/2010

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this is my third.
im due sept 27th!
its to early to tell but they think its going to be a girl cuz they're saying they see no male parts forming lol

Samantha - posted on 04/03/2010

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My son will be a year in August and his little brother or sister is due in November, LOL on my schedule your late! ;)

Kaily - posted on 04/03/2010

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Hi. My two boys are exactly 51 weeks apart. My first son Cameron was born on 24th November 2008 (now 16 months old) and my second son was born on 17th November 2009 (now 4 months old). It was a little hard at the end of the pregnancy when you get really big and having to chase a toddler just learning to run around. It is a little stressful at times when they both have their grumpy hour (men konw it as happy hour down at the local pub, LOL) but other then that they are fine. My 16 month old loves his little brother and comes up to him and gives hugs and kisses all the time.



All kids will be a bit surprised by the new arrival at first but they quickly adjust.

Debbie - posted on 04/02/2010

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I am expecting my 4th....My first two are older (17 and 12) and I remarried and we decided to have 2 of our own.....Unlike you my two will be 15 months apart! My 10 month old daughter keeps me so busy that I havent had a whole lot of time to enjoy this pregnancy. That is sortof sad...Im almost 40 so we decided to have the two as close as possible...I wish I could have waited a couple of years....but the risks get too high. I've got a great husband and support group which will be a blessing. Stress comes no matter how far apart they are :) BTW Im due Aug 30th. Good luck...you may just have a little helper with the new baby....

Sheena - posted on 03/31/2010

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i know what you mean. i have a 6 yr old a 4 yr old and a 3 yr old and i am just about 3 mths preggo... at first it was hard as it is like bringing home a newborn at any stage but if you have support and love from family and friends it will be fine. it might take time to get use to things but in the end it will be well worth it, good luck!!!!!

Michelle - posted on 01/04/2010

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I have a 2 1/2 yr old little girl and a 1 yr old little boy and 6wk preggo. I love having my kids so close. They are exactly 17 months apart....They play so well together. usually when my youngest lays dwn for his first nap I try to spend some one on one time with my daughter. She helps me with her bubba so much. I am very close to both of my babies. it is really fun.

Kylie - posted on 01/03/2010

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MyI already have two kids one is nearly 4 and one is 14 mths so she will be 20 mths when bubs is born and yes im are scared about after baby is born too and how im going to handle things , this pregnnacy wasnt planned and i never really wanted my kids so close together but i just think if other mums can do i can do it, and ive been drilling it into my other partners head that he has no choice but to help out more when this baby is born! as he is normally not a lot of help when it comes to the kids, I am trying not to worry about it now and just se this baby as a blessing and it was obviously meant to be and it will be hard but i know i can get thorugh it its mainly thr first few mths tha be the most hardest, just a matter of getting the new baby into a routine and regular bedtime/sleeptimes and also keeping to her toddlers routine too so they still have that consistency as well as finding that balance i suppose of spending enough time with each of them. When my second was born i always tried to make up for the time my son and i missed out on during the day but playing with him in the bath once she was asleep or snuggling on the couch for half an hour and reading him books before bed etc.Plus just take advantgae of when dads home to go off with your firstborn and maybe take them outside for a little play or have a cuddle with them whilst dad has a cuddle with the baby.And they also love being included in helping bath the baby and stuff like that.

Julie - posted on 01/02/2010

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ya i think ours will be like 19 mths apart, at first i was so scared, but hopefully it won't be too too crazy!

Nikki - posted on 01/01/2010

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my son is 2 years 5months old and im currently 28weeks with my second. my son will be 32 months when this baby arrives.

good luck to you

Andriana - posted on 12/31/2009

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Quoting quechelle:

i fell pregnant a little over three months after i had my daughter.
my daughters birthday is 8th may 2009
my bump is due 28th may 2010
so about 12months apart
i know ill have my hands full but i dont mind :)



Oh my gosh. I have two boys ages 3 and a half years and 6 and a half months. My 6 month old won't even be 11 months before I am due to deliver again, this time with twins!!!!!!!

Misty - posted on 12/31/2009

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I am due around April 1. I am on #5. I have a 5 yr old born on 4-10-04 and a 4 yr old born on 11-24-05. I also have a 17 mo old born on 7-17-08 with this one on the way. It is not that big a deal. If there are two parents involved it will not be too bad a time to take care of them. I think the only problem we had was jealousy. My 5 and 4 year old are now inseprable. They act like they are twins. I'm hoping it will be the same way with these last two.

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My 1st and 2nd sons were 19 months apart and it was great no problems at all. I enjoyed having both of them small together, growing up together. Only problem is they are 11 and 9 now and the sibling rivalry is huge between them lol. My 3rd son is three and baby no 4 due this summer left a bigger gap this time hoping the sibling rivalry wont be so mad lol

Denise - posted on 12/27/2009

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my son is 4 months old and i am 8 weeks pregnant with #2! if i go full term they will be 11 months apart. my son was born 6 weeks early and i am once again high risk and having complications so my doctor is already preping me for #2 to come between 28-30 weeks, so they might only be 9 months apart! needless to say, i'm an emotional rollercoaster these days!!

Naomi - posted on 12/26/2009

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Hey ya, I'm currently 16 weeks pregnant with my 2nd child and my first turned 10 months 3 days ago. I'm due in June 2010 so there will be about 15 1/2 to 16months between my 2, didn't plan on having them quite so close, looking at a little closer to 2yrs apart but both hubby and I are happy. Good luck with your pregnancy

Katrina - posted on 12/26/2009

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I just found out that i am pregnant again with my 3rd . My first daughter was born the 18 of december 2004 , my 2nd daughter was born february 27th 20009 ( 5 years apart ) and now for my 3rd child ...between my 2nd , will be 1.5 years apart :)

Latoya - posted on 12/26/2009

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Hi! I'm expecting my 3rd child(boy) on January 20th and my first two children are close. My son turned 2years old 2 months before my daughter was born.

Jenna - posted on 12/26/2009

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I have a 4 year old girl nov 5th 2005, 18 month old boy jun 20th 2005, Im due Feb 20th 2010 with a boy. So there all pretty much close in age. it was pretty easy with having the two but now im having another and its been an adventure. Im tired all the time and im huge and can hardly move around and its hard cause i have my two other kids to play with and do things with. My daughter is ok with things since she is 4 and does her own thing but my 2 year old thats a different story hes a big boy! hes a bit chubby and its very hard to hold him with my big belly and to pick him up put him to bed and out of bed its very hard but i do it although i shouldnt since he weighs 52 pounds but i only have myself and i feel bad if i dont give him love and pick him up and stuff. im exhausted now so i am probably in for it when this baby comes.

Emma - posted on 12/23/2009

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my little girl should turn 2, 10 days after my due date and I can't wait :) I know how u feel, I think we just worry that the eldest won't get the attention they need but they will. Good luck xxxxx

Nadine - posted on 12/23/2009

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I have a 19 month old and am due any day now with # 2. we were not planning on trying again until my son was 2 and just before his first birthday found out we were expecting again, BIG SHOCK!

Stephanie - posted on 12/23/2009

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im 20 weeks with my 2nd and my daughter is 12 months jus like u ours came sooner than we wanted it to lol.but i agree with u on the stress of having a lil one every where its get to be a lot with me sometimes but its ok i get over it lol

Jenna - posted on 12/22/2009

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Quoting Kristol:

I'm due in April and my daughter is currently 2 1/2 y/o. I didn't want my kids to be too far apart in age. So I'm happy about having this one come in April. However, I'm much more tired w/this pregnancy. Having to run after a toddler is serious business and still work full time (i'm a nurse). Since right before I found out I was pregnant, my daughter has been acting up. My mom says it's because she knows she not gonna be the only one. She constantly wants me to pick her up and climbs all over me. It's very hard!! Definitely more stressed this time around. We'll see how it goes once baby #2 comes. Good luck!


ohh goodness, i agree with ya!

Jenna - posted on 12/22/2009

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my daughter is going to be 3 january 2nd & im due march 26th with my second child...second time around is so much harder! i mean i am very excited about the new baby, but i dont like being pregnant this time (i felt really bad at first, but read it was very normal way to feel the second time, especially unplanned). my first pregnancy i wanted to stay pregnant forever, because i loved the feeling and i was terrified of labor...this time i just want to hold my new baby in my arms, not my uterus.

Jennel - posted on 12/22/2009

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Im due March 22 with a boy and my dd with be 22 months when this one is born, we were going to like you hold off a bit longer but oh well im very happy it happened sooner as i did always want my kids close in age and so its done and out of the way so to speak. I have found it not bad at all with lifting or anything yet just abit tired some days but my daughter is great and a good night sleeper so i just go to bed early at night. i think its going to be hard the first few months but after a year or so well be flying congrats and enjoy.

Christina - posted on 12/22/2009

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hello ok i have a 3 year old a 5 month old and am pregnant, having them close makes it kinda easier but kinda hard but if u keep urself in a routine i can do it i do it while my hubby is at work and when he gets home i get 2 hrs to sit then i put the kids to bed and then tend to my needs! if i can do it i know u will be able to and the gap u are talking about is not bad try having kids that will be 1year 5 month apart it is most likely gunna be way more complicated but mommies are amazing people. so don't worry u will be ok and just make sure to have ur older one help out with the lil one it will show him how to be a great big brother i did that with my son and now he gives me crap for not letting him sit with the baby, lol! and if u need anymore idea's on how to help ur lil boy cope the the new baby just send me a message and i will help the best i can!



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Brandy - posted on 12/22/2009

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I have a 20 month old daughter and I am due with my second (a boy) in just over 3 weeks. At first, I was really worried about not getting to finish out those first couple of years alone with my daughter and was really upset with myself for not allowing her more time before everything is going to change and she is going to have to be patient and won't always be mommy's first priority anymore. I am a very attached mother and believe in being patient and nurturing and spending all my time with my children (I even find ways for her to be a part of my regular daily chores) and I still let my daughter sleep in our bed when she needs to. All of that is going to change and I think that was the biggest problem I've had with this pregnancy even though it was emotional and not physical. I feel better about it now and am excited about the ways I am going to make her a part of her little brother's life and all the things the 3 of us will eventually be able to do together. Plus, she will always have a companion close by which is good because she is getting to the age where regular interaction with other children is important and we don't always have time for playdates. Physically, being that I'm almost 37 weeks pregnant and it is winter and Christmas season, packing my daughter to the vehicle in the cold and snow and ice is getting a little exhausting but at least I am almost at the end. If I find the hormones are causing me to get impatient with my daughter, I leave the room for a minute and calm down, maybe even cry a little if it is one of those emotional days, then regroup and come back and start over. One thing I can say I am glad for having a toddler during this pregnancy is that I didn't gain near as much weight and am in way better shape than with my daughter. I had to eat healthier too, because that is the way I feed my daughter. With my first pregnancy, I ate whatever I craved whenever I craved it and took advantage of the fact that I was pregnant so I was "allowed" to be a bit lazy. Not this time. Ate healthy and got lots of exercise thanks to my daughter. Hope everything goes well for you!

Ciera - posted on 12/22/2009

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I had twins this past February 2009 and just found out I am due again in August...not what we had planned but that's how it happened so I am still excited! Sooooooo nervous bc my twins will be 18 months when I'm due. EVERYONE looks at me like I'm crazy and at first I wanted to tell them it wasn't planned but then I realized that I am so excited that I don't want it to be like this pregnancy needs an "excuse" so now I just smile and say "yeah, I guess we are crazy!". I know when these little ones arrive everyone will love them and be happy that we were "so crazy" so I am not so concerned.

Kristol - posted on 12/20/2009

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I'm due in April and my daughter is currently 2 1/2 y/o. I didn't want my kids to be too far apart in age. So I'm happy about having this one come in April. However, I'm much more tired w/this pregnancy. Having to run after a toddler is serious business and still work full time (i'm a nurse). Since right before I found out I was pregnant, my daughter has been acting up. My mom says it's because she knows she not gonna be the only one. She constantly wants me to pick her up and climbs all over me. It's very hard!! Definitely more stressed this time around. We'll see how it goes once baby #2 comes. Good luck!

Adele - posted on 12/20/2009

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I'm due in July with our 2nd and our oldest just turned one year, so he will be just 19 months when his little brother/sister is born! Crazy... but they should be great friends growing up!

Denise - posted on 12/08/2009

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I'm due with #11 May 20th. Most of my kids are 21 months apart. My youngest 3 are 15 months apart. I fell pregnant when my twins were 6 months old. The difference between #10 and this baby is 21 months. I had a miscarriage before this baby when I was 3 months along. I have 5 boys and 5 girls. This baby is a boy.

Sammantha - posted on 12/08/2009

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I am pregnant with my second, a little boy who is due in March. My daughter will be 2 in January. I think its harder having a toddler already and being pregnant especially when they want to be picked up or climb all over you. I'm kinda glad my princess is starting to realize that she has to be careful because shell hurt baby brother. My first pregnancy wasnt stree free(high risk) but it was less stressful.

Kimberly - posted on 12/07/2009

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I am having my 6th,,I have 5 boys finally im having my girl...lol
Brandon was born 4-21-01
Luis was born 7-20-03
Javier was born 12-28-04
Ethan was born 8-11-07
Tyler was born 2-18-09
Caylee is due 2-24-10
Hope that helps..:)

Stacie - posted on 12/07/2009

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i have two kids and im going to be havin another in july
both my bois have a 5 year age gap
my oldest is going to be 7 on the 7th of feb 2010 and my youngest is going to be 2 the 5th of feb and our baby is due in july near my step daughters 7th bdae.when i was preg with my youngest my older one felt leaved out as it had been just him and me for four years,he was happy that he was havin a brother or a sister so to make him feel more apart i let him name the baby if it was a girl or a boy he picked out great names.
ended up having a boy and jacob named him lukas.
i wanted to breastfeed with lukas as i couldnt with jacob so another thing that i thought would help my little growen up boy was to feed his brother a bottle he is a big helper was great through the ten weeks are my c section.
and now he loving that he going to be a big brother again my youngest has changed in attidude not listening and been naughty alot but he is learning the diff as big brother is teaching him not to be so naughty.when this baby comes im hoping that our youngest will enjoy been a big brother even know there only 29 months between them

Jennifer - posted on 12/07/2009

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Hey :)
I have a 19 month old boy and I'm due April 26th. . .I maybe have a n opposite problem to you, lol my baby due date is cutting it soo close, I feel bad for my son :( We wanted them close but I also know that with all the added stress I'm still so happy and my son is happy. He's such a mommas boy and I know it will be hard but we will make time for him, you just have to know in your heart that you will do right with the first one :) You can do it lady! Even if you were Stress "free" I know I tried to be stress free but I also still worried about things and some worry I believe is healthy :) trust yourself and your judgement, you did great with the first, you will do great with the second . . .I have this motto that I tell everyone who will listen. . . :) You will make time where you need it, buy what you need with your last dollar and get done what you want to get done! :) Hope this helped a little :)

Tiffany - posted on 12/07/2009

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hi yes with my boys i did that, i think i got prego the night of my first sons bithday lol i know it sounds bad but anyway mt second son was born in october and my first sons b-day was in january, i felt bad because i felt like i was taking his baby time away but it all worked out and they love to play and be with each other now i am prego with #3 5 years later im due march 19,2010 it they think its a girl so very excited, just take it one day at a time and it will all work out for the best!! congrats

Jessica - posted on 12/07/2009

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Due in 11 weeks (feb 22) with my second and my son will be 22 months when this one is due. I get a bit sad that I can't give him horsey rides and run around that much anymore for a long period but we spend a lot of time at playgrounds together or going for a walk so he'll hold my hand or I'll carry him if he gets tired for a bit, and I've taken to having a bath with him at night and having heaps of fun and giggles there. I'm looking forward to the close age gap now, because at least we get over all the baby stuff around the same time, and this is a second boy so they can hopefully grow up close and have a lot of fun together. I did spend the first 6 months fretting about having another baby though we wanted to have another and planned him just like our first, I was more upset about losing my time I have with just my son, but I see now that we'll have heaps of time together for ages while the newborn sleeps a lot, and we have a lot of support from friends and family who will come and visit our son and play with him so he doesn't feel so left out.

Chanelle - posted on 12/06/2009

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Im due with my second little girl on january 26th 2010. My Will Be 17 months on the 29th of this month and will be 18 months when i have my 2nd child. She wasnt planned but im happpy!

Nicole - posted on 12/06/2009

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Congrads on your 2nd. I'm nearly 26weeks preg with a little girl and I have a daughter Ebony who just turn 10 months. My daughter Ebony was born 6 Feb 2009 she was due the 2nd of March but due to problems had to come early. I'm praying everything goes ok with my 2nd. Who's due 17th March 2010 a month after my daughter's 1st birthday. People keep telling me I'll be fine cause I'm already in the swing of things and people have twins or more and get threw it. I'm still a bit scared about it all but I'm sure it will all work out as I am sure it will for you. My cousin is expecting her 2nd in may 2010 and her boy is 2 in dec this year.

Good luck with everything hope it all goes well.

Lisa - posted on 12/06/2009

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I have a nine month old son, and I will be having #2 when he is about 16 - 17 months old... I'm actually enjoying having my little boy around with me, keeps me busy, and I'm not counting the days as much as I did with my first...

Cathleen - posted on 12/06/2009

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Mine will be 18 months part ish.
We're due May 8th and we find out the sex in 11 days

Crystal - posted on 12/06/2009

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hi i am pregnant with my third i have a 22 month old and a 6 month old i am now 4 weeks pregnant with number 3

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