Baby #2 Shower

Shawna - posted on 06/03/2009 ( 20 moms have responded )

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Is it wrong to have a shower for baby #2? I really don't "need" much. A duo stroller & new swing but I have everything else. Should I allow family/friends to throw a little party?

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User - posted on 06/04/2009

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Hi, Oh yes! I had showers with both my kids and i hope to have one with this pregnancy. I dont know of any "rules" of not having a shower for the rest of your pregnancies. I may be wrong though, but they really helped me. After each of my kids i gave all the stuff away so i had to start new each time. So it does help! enjoy the party and getting spoiled! You're allowed to when you're pregnant. :-)

Amber - posted on 09/29/2009

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my mom had showers with all 5 babies! a shower isnt like a housewarming party...its to welcome each baby into the family and show support to the mom. women need to be supported through the other pregnancies just as much as the first! you dont stop having birthday parties after the first one right?

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Leslie - posted on 03/13/2012

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If you don't need much Ive heard of having a diaper party where guests bring you diapers or a book party for children's books. It still allows for a get together and you get useful gifts.

Barb - posted on 02/22/2012

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I was just told family would help out in anyway they could and gifts when they saw the baby. Wish I could have another especically if this baby is a boy. Can you just send out inviations and have yourself or should be done by someone else. I don't know anyone personally who had to? How does it work? Or how has it worked for you? I willl need so much if this baby isn't a girl it would be nice! Lucky take adventage of it! Thinking about having a get together in second trimester not asking for anything if anyone wants to get something for baby they can. I feel bad having a baby shower when my daughter is 2 and I am 3 months pregnant.

Darlene - posted on 02/20/2012

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Just my opinion, but showers are really ok for just the first pregnancy. After that, it's like you are expecting gifts. If someone wants to give you a gift they will. Come on people...stop the nonsence. I've had five children and only one shower as etiquette dictates. Where have people's manner gone?

And, I always give a gift to all of my friends no matter what number baby it is. But because I want to, not because I was invited to a shower. It's more meaningful that way too.

Nikki - posted on 10/28/2009

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having a shower for you and the baby helps you celebrate whether you need a lot or nothing. have a party and get spoiled its a day for you to enjoy and put your feet up with kind words and special gifts.

enjoy it every baby not just the first

Melissa - posted on 10/24/2009

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YES! You'll feel super guilty if you don't have a babyshower for your second baby anyway. Let your family and friends have their fun if they want to. I never had a shower for my second daughter because the two girls were so close together. Now ... I feel guilty and resent my family for refusing to throw a shower.

Tasheka - posted on 10/24/2009

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i don't see why you shouldn't have another baby shower......my family was like so against me having a baby shower for my 2nd (a girl 1st was a boy) they didn't even buy anything....so yea it was a huge dissappointment i went home a cried afterwards....just make sure that when you do it that you don't get your hopes that far up to where you get crushed if someone refuses to come..... i'm now pregnant with my 3rd (liveborn 4th pregnancy) and like my neighbor wants to throw a shower but idk i might just go with the meet and greet after the baby is done.... goodluck though i hope you enjoy your shower !! they are always sooo much fun !!!!

Shameron - posted on 10/21/2009

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We have decided to have a baby party instead of a baby shower. My fiance and all of our friends male and female are going to be there. We are going to celebrate the upcoming birth of our boy, however we have told everyone in advance that we would just like them there. Gifts are not needed, however if they do want to get us something diapars are always appreciated.

Amy - posted on 10/20/2009

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Absolutely!!! We as Moms don't get to be spoiled very often, so let it happen. Showers for subsequent kiddos are called sprinklings instead of showers, because just like you said that you don't need a ton, your family and friends can just sprinkle you with gifts. Congrats on your newest one coming soon!

Dominique - posted on 10/05/2009

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thanks for the question, was worried about the same thing, preg with nuber 3 (first being twins now 3) but i think now after reading these why on earth not..lol. Good luck with your new arrival

Kris - posted on 10/03/2009

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A lot of my friends who aren't mothers said I am wrong, but I don't see the problem. I gave away my daughter's stuff and need things for the new one. I say go ahead!!!!

Ashley - posted on 09/28/2009

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i think those are OLD rules. i say its fine to have a 2nd shower. we are not living back in the day so unless u invite all old people im sure that people will come and have a good time.

Annette - posted on 09/14/2009

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My 2nd will be just 18 months yonger then my first, so I questioned the same thing, and really didn't need much either. My family and close friends decided to throw me a "Diaper and Wipes" shower- which was a huge blessing! I received diapers for the new little one, plus ones for my son now, plus some people still got clothing and other gifts.

Robyn - posted on 09/13/2009

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Yes!! i have a 6 year old and now havin a new baby let them throw u a party, get some extra gifts let them spoil you

Robin - posted on 08/18/2009

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I just had my son 8 mo ago and now preggo again, I was talking to my hubby and told him that I dont want to be greedy so why dont we have like a meet and greet after the baby is born and provide some desert, I think its not the babys fault that its number 2 and deserves just as much celebration, the other thing I am going to say is that hand me downs are welcome but not gifts its just a celebration.

That is just what we are doing

Cathi - posted on 07/17/2009

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Yes!! Four things about being preggo (and probably a few more) that's awesome is the 2nd trimester, pampering, the baby shower and your bundle of joy.

Don't feel guilty for not having a shower just because you don't need much. The fellowship with your friends and family is something a woman NEEDS and not to mention the attention and excitement to encourage you for the days you don't feel well. Besides, your shower host can even have a theme that asks guests to bring gift cards as shower gifts so you can purchase things you will want/need later on, or can bring money to begin a savings or investment for your child's future. Definatly cannot go wrong there :) :)



Best wishes to you.

C~

Seairra - posted on 06/11/2009

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I'm having a shower, but my son is 5 so I don't Have ANY baby things at all. So I am definatly having a second shower.

Libby - posted on 06/05/2009

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I'm on baby #4 (#3 living child) and I have had a baby shower for #1, a small party of a few friends and family for #2, and my mom plans on giving me a 30th birthday party/baby shower for this next baby because we are having a girl and only have boy stuff. For me I have a few different friends than I had 5 & 7 years ago when I had my boys, so I think those friends, plus a few close friends and family members will be the ones we invite to this last shower (we are done having children).

Sarah - posted on 06/05/2009

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I agree with Sharon... I had one with both of my other children and hope to get another one this time. My kids are spaced out pretty well, oldest is 7 and youngest is 4, so we also gave away most of the essentials including crib, car seat, strollers, high chair... pretty much everything with the exception of a few clothes. Even if you dont need that much, its still an excuse to have a party and have fun with family and friends!! This baby will never be "born" again, so have fun!!! I dont think its against any kind of etiquette, and even if it is, there are so many other moms doing it that it may be outdated.

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