Does any one else feel like they have to stay with the father of their children?

Jenny - posted on 12/10/2009

I agree with you girls. If he isnt treating you right. Forget about him. I had the same issue with my daughters father. I paid the bills the apartment everything he would have jobs here and there but always managed to quit his job for something very stupid. Always had an excuse and was very irresponcible. You dont need that.You can do it on your own. It will be hard but in the end its all worth it. If you stay with him you and your child are just gonna end up getting hurt.

Shellse - posted on 12/10/2009

i've had a few ups and downs with my kids father, and everyone tells me that the baby is more important. men come and go, but if you end up staying only because of a baby chances are your child may be affected by it. give him an ultimatium if he doesn't change kick his butt to the curb, you already know you can do it by yourself if your paying the bills..even though none of us go into it wanting to be a single mother, but you might notice that if you do choose to do the single momma route that you are a lot less stressed when your not babysitting the daddy

Jacinta - posted on 12/09/2009

the worst thing you could possibly do is stay with someone for the sake of the children as this is often worse as there is arguments around then the child notices your not happy and will always think its them good luck and follow your heart, hope this doesnt sound judgemental

Stacie - posted on 12/09/2009

hi there chick,
just becoz u havin a baby doesnt mean that u should stay with him, by the sound of it u sound really down and hurt that he has treated u like this.
u really need to think about u and the baby first not him.
if he wants to go and spend all his money and lie to u then why should u stay with him.
some times it hard to bring a baby up on ya self but at the end of the day u wouldnt have to worry about where his money going.
my oldest boy dad was a bit like that and i couldnt handle it any more i got rid of him and becoz i did he made the wrong mistake as he disowned his kid becoz i stood up to him for once.
and at the end of the day i know that i made the right chocie for my son my son now has a wonderful step dad that loves him for the world and we are due with our second but it took me four years to trust a guy that he wasnt going to run out.
all i can say chick as ur heart knows what is the right thing to do just follow ur heart

Jayne - posted on 12/09/2009

There is no need to stay with the father just because he is the father. Get rid of any man who makes you unhappy because an unhappy you creates stressed children. Don't feel guilty or selfish, your kids come first and they cant live their best lives unless you are happy.

Andrea - posted on 12/09/2009

When I had my first, I had only know the father, boyfriend at the time, for 3 months. I didn't know what his money habits were at the time because we were both in college living off our parents. But if he makes his own money and still makes you pay his bills, I would say that is a big problem. Lying is also a big issue. Opening the doors for you, I don't know a single guy who does that, don't count on that. But the lying and money issue are big deals. I would say talk to him and see if he's willing to make a change or just live separate lives. Of course, he will still have certain right in regards to the baby.