Does your Husband make you physically ill while pregnant?

Yamira - posted on 11/09/2009 ( 40 moms have responded )

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Ok i know this may sound bad and harsh..but my husband makes me so ill while I am pregnant...everything about him makes me sick..his smell..especially his smell..I can smell him if i am in the next room..but as soon as I have my baby i am completly back in his arms..and sometimes I grab his shirts and smell them because I love him..but while I am pregnant i can't stand it....and don't get me started with the sex..I can't even think about it!..we have tried to have sex while beoing pregnant and as soon as we get intimate I literally puke!..and that is not sexy!...am i the only one that goes thru this?

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Emma - posted on 09/27/2012

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My husband makes me sick to!!! i feel so bad about it and he does get mad with me sometimes for kinda snubbing him which i understand because i really didn't know how to explain it to him now i think i can. i thought it was just me but the horrible thing is I've been away from my husband for 2 years. :( He's in the military now i finally move down to be with him and now we're pregnant and i cant stand being around him about 80% of the time.

So does anyone know why some women get like this? or know anyway to help me so i can be around him without getting sick?

Nakicha - posted on 12/27/2012

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Same thing here, Everything about him seems to make me sick. He smells, his breath, sex, cuddling, I want absolutely nothing to do with him and it makes me feel horrible. If he even plans on being in the same room as me he has to go through a whole hygiene check list of things to do so, and re-do it if he plans on laying in the bed. I end up most every night sleeping on the couch, mind you it is my couch and he is not allowed to even sit on it.
I dont get it and it makes me feel like the biggest POS but I just get physically ill, and this is our first together so i dont know if it fades and I am really worried that it wont. I still love him, he just stinks, and grosses me out.

User - posted on 08/17/2011

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12 wks here. i never understood any of this until i found this thread. he often makes me so ill i get angry. it sounds terrible but even when i get a text message that i know is from him i notice i actually gag! we had a normal relationship up until THE DAY i got pregnant and it was aaalllll downhill, i even had to move back in with my parents because i felt so inconsolable. i know he isn't doing anything wrong (he's actually doing everyting right)...i just can't help it. i'm so tired of being sick all day and night, it's a nightmare. i feel bad for being such a brat but i feel like S#!T every waking moment of every day.

Jennifer - posted on 05/21/2012

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This post helped me a lot.....I dont know how to describe the way he smells to me now but it repulses me....it physically makes me sick and I jokingly tell him "Could you please just stop breathing?"...it's his skin and breath...never had anything like this with my first 2 children so I didn't know why I was having this . thank you all for your comments.

Jennifer - posted on 10/31/2012

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I think it gets better..at least the past couple of weeks it's started to get better for the most part. Im not so sensitive and nauseous ALL the time to it..He doesn't make me so sick like he was, but just last night we got into it cause i smelled his stank hair and asked if hed showered yesterday and he went off. Saying how mean I am to say that he smells all the time. I just dont understand why if the person you love and is carrying your baby is this sick, why it should be a constant fight to get him to stay as clean as possible for my health and well beings sake. Literally about to kick his ass out over it. Men are absolutely retarded.

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Cheryl - posted on 06/05/2014

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This conversation makes me laugh and feel much better about myself. I just thought I was going crazy. :-) I had a horrible pregnancy in the beginning so I just thought I couldn't stand him because I was mad at him for being so sick. Once I had our beautiful little boy and my hormones got a little more back in balance I the feelings of hatred went away.

Ebonyrose - posted on 05/30/2014

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7 weeks pregnant here. I feel the same way, every time I think about my Boyfriend I just want to be sick, I feel so bad and I hate it. I usually love laying in bed with him and cuddling but now I don't even like the idea of him being next to me. He's constantly asking for a kiss and hug and I just run away. He smells so bad, yet he barely smells like anything. I made him throw out his colognes as well. Im staying at my mums for a bit and he messages me and all I want to do is throw my phone in the bin.
I am so glad im not alone here..

Amanda - posted on 05/09/2014

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I understand this.. I'm 9 weeks 5 days and I resent my husband everyday since I got pregnant. I can't stand him at times and choose to not even be in the same room with him. I resent him because I'm tired of feeling like shit day in and day out for the past 2 months while he's off living life as normal. I hate that I have to deal with the physical changes issues of this pregnancy and he doesn't. I need to learn to cope but I'm just so disappointed I would rather stew with anger. And the worst part is I don't even care if I'm mean or a bitch or even hurt his feelings... Any ideas how to deal with this?

Melissa - posted on 05/02/2014

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OMG!! This was me TOO!
I felt so bad I LITERALLY wanted him nowhere near me I couldn't stand his clogne or the perfumes I wore during our relationship his breath just eewww and I felt like he stinked and he was so gross .. And I NEVER wanted sex .. I'm glad someone else had this problem I felt like a total "bitch" I hurt my baby's feeling ALOT /: I would tell him "GO AWAY!" "I hate you!!" And sometimes break up with him cuz I would feel like he didn't care about me anymore since his hygiene was so off ...

Sarah - posted on 04/26/2014

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Oh I went thru it with my last pregnancy I hated my husband so much I wanted to kill him poor man he had to leave to go live with his brother for a couple of weeks came back at the 7 month of my pregnancy I tried to not hate him always ask why everything he did was annoying but after the birth of our daughter Oh Boy! she looks identical to him acts like him and left handed like him lol I guess that's why I could not stand him cause my baby was going to look like him in every way and aspects

Parker - posted on 03/23/2014

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I thought I was alone. After reading all the post I felt somewhat relieved. I am 15 weeks pregnant and a real bitch to my husband. I really can't stand his face. I avoid his kisses and try my very best to escape sex. I know that this is hurting him and the very sad part of all I don't even care. I'll hear him complaining but i'll just pretend that I heard absolutely nothing. His voice, breath and just simply his presence makes me want to hurl. I he often does really nice things around the house to help me but I still can't understand why he does things half of what the correct way suppose to be. I an see that this is destroying our marriage one step at a time but I really can't give a shit. I know that this is wrong and that no human should treat another this way but I can't seem to think of being romantic or loving in any way with him. It makes me want to just throw up all over him. There must be some kind of solution out there.....

BESTIE - posted on 02/02/2014

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HELLO I just wanted to say thank you so much for doing this for me and many others. At the beginning of the break up I felt like I would never love again and that my life has ended. Thanks to all your advice, I now have the courage to face every new day. My heart has healed tremendously and I feel like I can now really move on. If it wasn’t for your words then I would probably still be in that dark place of my life. Thank you, thank you!”drlawrencespelltemple@hotmail. com

BESTIE - posted on 02/02/2014

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HELLO I just wanted to say thank you so much for doing this for me and many others. At the beginning of the break up I felt like I would never love again and that my life has ended. Thanks to all your advice, I now have the courage to face every new day. My heart has healed tremendously and I feel like I can now really move on. If it wasn’t for your words then I would probably still be in that dark place of my life. Thank you, thank you!”drlawrencespelltemple@hotmail. com

Amber - posted on 01/31/2014

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Fortunately for us, we had both taken a homeopathy class a few years back, so when I started noticing these same symptoms we pulled out our books and found the remedy to be Sepia!! Take a 200c dosage about 3-5 lil pastille a under your tongue 15 minutes before or fter food & drinks. Just let them dissolve and you will be back to normal within a few hours or even as long as 1 day. You can buy homeopathic remedies at whole foods, sprouts & most herb stores... Or order them online at atozhomeopathy.com ;)
It is safe, effective & cheap. A vial costs about 6.00-13.00 and there are 30-100 doses depending on the brand;) You only redose when the symptoms return!! I believe the first dose lasted 4 days then the second dose lasted a couple of weeks, and the third dose carried me all the way to delivery!!

Micaela - posted on 01/22/2014

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The only time I start to feel bad or even nauseated is during sex. It has happened a few times now. I don't get sick, I just feel like I am going to be. Is this normal?

Desiree - posted on 01/20/2014

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I feel the same way about my husband. Are there any remedies to this weird nauseous feelings?

Kristy - posted on 01/02/2014

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Omg thank god, I was starting to wonder what was wrong with me. I can't handle my partner touching or kissing me otherwise i want to be sick! Please tell me this goes back to normal (if it lasts the whole pregnancy)? He is devastated!!! :( the day before this started I woke from my sleep hugging him telling him how much I missed him and couldn't let him go... An hour later I couldn't even look at him and since then it has been no touching :(

Kelsey - posted on 12/21/2013

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Wow. I thought I was the only one! I absolutely hated my Husband from about 14-17 weeks of pregnancy! Only about a month of pure disgust but that was long enough for me to still feel bad about how I treated him.. I even tear up sometimes when I think about some of the awful things I said to him during that time. The pure sight and smell of him also made me ill! I'm 27 weeks at the moment and can't get enough of him! All I want to do right now is love on him, cuddle, and have sex. I think it most definiitely has something to do with hormonal changes. I just hope I'm not mean like that ever again :( I hope when the baby comes (our first by the way), I won't be mean to him. He's very good to me and I'd never want to lose him!

Ericfrankloanfirm - posted on 12/10/2013

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Ericfrankloanfirm - posted on 12/10/2013

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Hello to my friends out there I am testifying about the good work of a man who helps me has been hell since the day my husband left me I am a woman with two children of my problem raised when the father of my children never help traveling he was living, but about two weeks since I got my eye on my husband tries to call me but did not take my call a few weeks he calls me tells me he has found love somewhere easy at first I need to be serous but one day after he arrived at the house to collect his things, that was the time I realize that things go wrong it will help, but the things that went wrong that day needed to talk to someone about it, so i went to his friend, but there was no help, so I let him month later I met online a man called PROPHET ROBSON on a sorcerer who never believe this, but I needed my man back, so the sorcerer gave me trouble at first did not trust him to i was doing to make love, but after three days my husband called me telling me that her return home but I still do not think until six days, the father of my children came to the house to ask me to give my love to him the work with told myself from that day I was happy with my family thanks to the care of PROPHET ROBSON
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Tinkerbellsferrydust - posted on 11/26/2013

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I'm so glad I randomly found this. Makes me feel better that I'm not the only one who is grossed out by their man. I feel bad every time I gag from his breath. I have to roll the window down in the truck and its not warm out. He gets so mad. But I tell him I can't help it but he doesn't understand. At times it bothers me so much I get mad. Its not his fault either. I can't wait til this stops. I should read these posts to him so he knows I'm not being mean and I'm not the only one. This is also my first pregnancy and its with twins.

Katherine - posted on 10/31/2012

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I feel the same way! It is so frustrating..please tell me that sense of smell goes

Away I want to be able to cuddle and kiss and be intimate again. I just can't right now his breath makes me want to vomit even if he brushes his teeth and showers and uses mouth wash....

Jennifer - posted on 10/11/2012

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That is exactly how I feel. I want to be loving to my boyfriend, but the smell of his breath, his skin, his hair, his car, everything about him makes me sick and furious! I just want him to leave me alone but I need him! Thank God I'm not the only one out here. But this is my first pregnancy so I feel so alone and don't know what to do. At least I know I'm not the only one this has happened to.

Jennifer - posted on 10/11/2012

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Thank God I'm not the only monster out here. This is my first baby and I can't get over how sick my boyfriend makes me starting a couple weeks ago. I feel bad telling him this, but I have to be honest-his breathe, his smell, pretty much everything about him makes me sick! My sense of smell is so heightened that pretty much everything is making me ill, but his smell in particular, it really makes me wretch. I don't know what to do!

Jessica - posted on 05/23/2012

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I went through this with my 1st pregnancy, my husband just thought I was being mean and hormonal but I litterally couldn't be around him and yes especially his smell.

Francesca - posted on 11/17/2009

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omg i thought i was the only one who felt like that. I am 4 months pregnant and havent felt that weay yet, but with my last pregnancy(my first) i couldnt even be in the same room as him. Looking at him and being close to him made me want to throw up. I swear! i felt so bad, but i just couldnt be in the same room as him! The smell of him was so strong and it was just intoxicating. I hope i dont feel that way again, but i assume i will at some point!

Stephanie - posted on 11/15/2009

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I thought I was the only one thank god I'm not. His smell doesn't so much bother me but I can't stand when he touches me. I feel so bad I love him so much but I just can't stand him right now. He isn't funny in the least bit and he use to always make me smile. Sex although I still do it fo his enjoyment I don't like anymore but we used to at LEAST onec a day if not more.

Tarra - posted on 11/14/2009

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my boyfriend works at a mexican restaurant that I worked at for two years myself and I can't stand the smell of him when he comes home! He thinks that I'm crazy or over-reacting...he always says "you're being dramatic" but I'm really not I just can't stand that smell!!! I just hope my sensitivity goes away once by belly does!

Charlie - posted on 11/14/2009

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oh wow that sucks sorry you have to endure that , at least you guys can make up for it after pregnancy ;)

Mary - posted on 11/14/2009

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28 weeks pregnant with my second. and i have been this way with both of my children. I hate having sex while pregnant its super uncomfortable and i get sick from the motions. its hard for them to understand but from the look of this post many women go through it. thank god it doesnt last long. i love sex. and i love my husband! good luck with everythin!

Deane - posted on 11/14/2009

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ohhh YES!!! My husband makes me wanna barf all over him. This is my second pregnancy and I feel like I cnt stand him. I dnt get it. Its wierd though because I get wishy washy. Sometimes Im upset because I dont feel like hes spending enough time with me and then I dont want him to touch me when he wants to get all cuddly....I didnt feel this way with my first pregnancy. I am kind of nervous that this may last a lil while after I have our baby. Im hoping not.

Anna - posted on 11/11/2009

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I 21 weeks preg and I don't have that problem with the smell really only if he's been drinking, then he's not aloud near me cause i'll chuck lol but the sex thing i totallly get!!! gross lol and when i'm not preg i can't get enough usally!!! but at the moment i can't stand it sometimes i will for his sake cause i feel bad but yeah, i didn't know what was going on at first because this is my first baby!! i don't feel so bad now i know it's fairly common!

Nicole - posted on 11/11/2009

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You are not alone. I can't stand the smell of my husband either. We don't even sleep in the same bed because I can't stand to smell him while I'm trying my hardest to sleep- which lately has seemed impossible. I'm 30 weeks pregnant with our first. We also don't have sex because I don't like the feeling. We can hang out and have no problem but cannot sleep together or have sex. I feel like a TERRIBLE wife but, my husband is very understanding and knows it is only temporary. I love him so much!

Aisa - posted on 11/11/2009

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your smell sensitivity heightens while your pregnant, i couldn't stand anything i even hated the smell of food being cooked! As soon as hubby got home from work i'd make him have a shower and i'd take his uniform and throw it in the wash

Yamira - posted on 11/10/2009

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Oh man I thought I was the only one!..I am 33 weeks pregnant and I thought this pregnancy was going to be different with this issue!..I feel so bad about it because I know men do not understand what we go thru but I make sure I tell him that I love him and that it is just my pregnancy...But I am glad that I am not the only one!...I thought i was a horrible Wife for feeling like this...Thank you to all for making me feel alot better!

Bridget - posted on 11/09/2009

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Hmm??? The smell of my husband doesn't bother me unless we go out for dinner & he has a beer with dinner. That smell makes me sick. However, I can relate on the physical side of it. For some reason with all 3 of my pregnancies I actually get sick to my stomach if my husband even touches my belly (he thinks I'm nuts), I also can't stand kissing him and sex (which I have the desire to do unless I actually start to do it) makes me feel like vomiting. Isn't that strange? Normally, I can't get enough of kissing on my hubby & snuggling with him. The funny thing is, my daughters can touch my belly & it's fine but if hubby does I feel like vomiting. Nice to know it's not just me.

Anna - posted on 11/09/2009

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I didn't find that with my husband but I did have a really strong sense of smell and a lot of smells would be nauseating, even things I used to like, such as coffee.

Trisha - posted on 11/09/2009

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Not at all! I am 7 weeks along with my second child.. And My husband literally has to take a shower before he comes to bed.. His smell will make me puke, and Normaly I love the way he smells, I sleep with his pillow while he is gone and everything. Its normal, Your body is way out of wack, Smells especially can be hightened during pregnancy, I cant kiss, that makes me gag.. I can give a little peck on the lips but thats about it. you arent the only one, lol... Im right there with you

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