Episiotomy and Epidurals!!

Amy - posted on 01/30/2010 ( 21 moms have responded )

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Who's had them and what are they like? What are your opinions and advice?

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Trish - posted on 01/31/2010

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Ive had episiotomies with both kids, and no epidurals.. honestly I didnt see the need for them as I had no real troubles. I can understand if there are complications that you may need to numb the area but in the end, numbing coz you dont want pain is just quite selfish... the pain is your gift to your baby. You go thru the birth as the mother and that is why it is called labour because it is not easy! I will not be asking for any pain relief with this baby, and I hope to god it isnt needed either :) I hope you have a natural birth coz you will feel so much more better for it in the end :)

Jennifer - posted on 01/31/2010

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i had an epi with my first and it failed.

i went natural with second. it hurt but wasnt BAD.

I have never had an episi, and have requested all three time NOT to. yes you may tear, but a natrual tear heals faster and more naturally. a cut has the risk of becoming a serious ( front to back ) tear. not willing to risk that. as long as baby isnt huge and you can do very controlled pushing, you should not tear extensivelyy.

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Hannah - posted on 08/27/2013

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Episiotomy is living hell. I had a Fiscal Episiotomy I will warn you this is not fun to read. I had 72 stitches, and recovery lasted several months. (The serious recovery that is). I could not go to the bath room you know what I mean without screaming because it would pull on the sutures. I ended up in the hospital two times after because my number two was coming out of one of my sutures. I was in more pain during that than delivery. So for three months in order to go to the bathroom I had to hold a clothe tight against the area the stitches had been made. It was very scary. The recovery time is longer than a c-section. The thing is, you never truly recover; at least I didn't. During sex I have to stop because the friction to that area causes a lot of discomfort. The scar is very itchy. I am wanting more children but am terrified the area will rip. The skin that was scared will never stretch or move again. The area is too tight to give birth vaginally. The only thing to help is perineal rubs, but that is before labor. They don't seem to be helping me now. The rubs will soften the skin that way when you give birth you won't tear or need an episiotomy.

The doctor says I ended up needing one because my delivery came too soon. I went from 4 centimeters to 10 in 5 minutes. This was because I was induced. Petocin is the biggest mistake you will ever make, DO NOT INDUCE. .

As far as Epidural. I had it done 2 minutes before delivery did me no good only scared me. When it goes in your back it makes this crackly sound and feeling. It wasn't painful just screws with your mind.

Michelle - posted on 02/02/2010

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0/5 for neither , and plan on neither this time around .

If for some situation things don't go as planned , It is nice to know that it is an option to have different pain meds avail .



Asking about episiotomy is a good thing . As is asking about the C-section rate . It is something we do not like to think about , but best to know . And best to keep in mind things happen and all that matters is what the final result is ..... A beautiful , healthy baby

Amy - posted on 02/02/2010

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Ok ladies we all have our own opinions. This is my first pregnancy and I started this topic to find out what others have gone through and what you may have done differently. You all have very different stories to share and I must say thank you very much, you've all been very helpful to me. I personally would love to see how my labor goes without an epidural and if I believe I just cant do it without one, I wont feel discouraged. I will be seeing my OB on the 15th of this month and I will be asking her what her procedure is on episiotomies. I really appreciate all your help, and advice!

Ellie - posted on 02/01/2010

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I had mid-wifes with my first, and will have the same with my second. The mid-wifes did the peri massage as i was in labor and I didn't tear at all. I had an epidural also, i was in 21 hours of labor, and couldnt emotionally take the pain anymore. Now with this one I have hopes it will go quicker, and maybe I wont need an epidural, but i do want the option!

Natalie - posted on 02/01/2010

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I bet that if they had invented the epidural 500 years ago that a lot of women back then also would've chosen to have it.
Oh yeah, and so many women died while giving birth out of many different reasons.
How do you think they got babies out who were WAY too big to fit through the mother? Or who had the baby lay butt down or sideways... those women went through pains we probably will never even have to imagine.
If they would've had the told they have today things would've looked a lot better back then.

Anyway, i think we should be thankful that we have so many options today. Not everyone has a normal pregnancy or birth. I do agree, that the hospitals "push" a lot of women into taking pain meds just b/c they're at a week point and want to be relieved from the pain... but it also doesn't harm the baby so i do not regret asking for it the first time. I had no medical reason for taking one but i'm glad i did. I was exhausted and i couldn't take ti anymore. I was calm during the birth and i could see the birth in a mirror and touch the head when it came out..

Trish - posted on 02/01/2010

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Natalie.. Im not saying having an epidural is selfish in any way, Im saying having an epidural for no real reason is. Im not religious so no I dont believe in the Eve stuff.. but its not like a mother doesnt know what a birth involves and well that is not going to tickle! As for the low pain tolerance, well yea of course some people have low pain tolerance, same as some people have weak stomachs and throw up everytime they change a pooey nappy.. does that mean they have to take anti nausea pills when they know thier kids gunna poop?? Im just saying that women are designed for birth, it is a natural process that has been going on since the beginning of life.. there was minimal relief back then, why do women have to be weaker now and opt for pain relief when they dont need it for a good reason! Each to thier own, this is just my opinion, which I am entitled to and I am aware many wouldnt agree with me, I dont expect you all to.

Ashley - posted on 02/01/2010

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Hoping for no epidural...b/c i know that would be best for baby (under "normal" circumstances) but i know one of the the greatest gifts i can give my baby, myself, those involved ... is flexibility! Hope and prepare for the best, but also prep for plan b (and maybe c and d)...yes, childbirth is natural- but that is also why it is unpredictable at times. Good luck all expecting Mamas!! :)

Sarah - posted on 02/01/2010

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Natalie, what benefit? The baby doesn't get drugged... There are other pain relief options out there too. It's not epidural or no epidural. There are other options.



I had neither. No epidural, No episiotomy. I pushed Scarlett out in 3 pushes. Only had 3 stitches. After she was born, after I held her for almost an hour, and breastfed the first time, they took her to check her over. I got up, walked to the shower, sat on a shower bench... TOOK A SHOWER! Best thing ever! It still hurt to pee, but with the water running it didn't hurt as much (they said). And yes, I was in a hospital, not a birthing center!

Natalie - posted on 02/01/2010

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Wow Trish, so i was selfish b/c i chose to take an epidural with my son?
Some people have a low pain tolerance.. yes, some even pass out from the pain and what good does that do?
Anyways, there's no shame in taking an epidural, not at all.
You know why we have labor pains? Because of Eve (if you believe in the bible) and it's the woman's punishment for what she did. Why do we HAVE to suffer, if we don't have to. I'm glad we live now and we can choose how we want to deliver our babies. So no, it's not a gift to your baby... what benefit does your child have if you go through pain?

Stacey - posted on 02/01/2010

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My advice is if you can skip the episiomoty, do it! My two came naturally, one was a waterbirth which really helps ease the baby into the world and softens the perineum. Also, if you don't want the episiomoty, which means cutting your perineum and muscle down there, and a LOT of healing time afterward, try to instead do it naturally by helping the muscle stretch through a perineal massage both before labor and while you are pushing the baby out. I tell you, I did this, and on the first I tore a teeensy bit because I was so impatient to have the baby out at that time, but the second I was more patient, and by massage, and by letting my body relax to push the baby out instead of actively pushing once the baby started crowning, I didn't tear at all!

Melissa - posted on 02/01/2010

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I had an epidural with both of mine...most recently with my son on Jan 9th. Wouldn't try to have a baby without...I'm not a martyr, though I know others feel differently.
As for episiotomy, they reccomend letting you tear rather than cutting as it will actually decrease the overall size of the cut/tear, and decrease healing time. I was allowed to tear with both of my kids who were both over 9 lbs, and healed really quickly as I only had a 2nd degree tear with both.
Anyway, I hope that helps.

Jennifer - posted on 02/01/2010

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I am prego with my second but with my first I had and epidural and I didn't feel it at all, made everything so much easier and me less tired!! then I got an episiotomy cuz the cord was wrapped around his neck and I felt nothing, the next few weeks were uncomfortable and I had to squirt water where I would pee because it would burn and I think the cut made it harder on me emotionally to have sex again, lol I was so scared to tear, but in the end, it was all worth it to get a healthy, alive baby boy :))

Lorie - posted on 02/01/2010

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I have had a spinal block which is great for pain, it starts to work in 5 mins, epidurals which is great as well but doesn't work as fast and a episiotomy with my first son and it took me a whole year to 100% recover from it. If you can avoid them I would. I couldn't go anywhere as well b/e I couldn't hold it if I had to go to the bathroom. ( that alone is enough for me not to get one, I didn't know I got one till it was aready done ).
As I said I would try and stay away from them if I were you.
good luck

Chelle - posted on 02/01/2010

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i had both. i felt them cut me when i had the episotomy because they turned off my epidural drip before the pushing stage so i could feel what i was doing and wasnt too numb.



in my own experiance i dont see what all the fear and worry over having an epidural is....if your in labour thats gunna hurt alot more then a needle!!. lol, when they did my epi i had been in labour for over 24 hours so i was really tired!. they numbed my back 1st with a small injection....when they actualy put the drip in my spine, i felt it slip down to were they wanted to postion it but it didnt hurt, just felt uncomfy.



my epidural was great i was able to sleep...i felt NO contractions after i had it...i had to put a hand on my belly just so i could tell i was contracting :)... the drip had a botton on it that you could press up to twice an hour so you could top your self up when you wanted....so i was in control of how much pain relife i got.



i dont know wether it was the epidural that numbed my contactions or that the baby was posterior that caused my daughter to take an hour and a half of pushing and a ventrus vacuum.



the epidural i have no complaints over it was great, and i dont think i could have done 37 1/2 hours of labour with out one. unfortunatly my epiosotomy stitches got infected after the bith so had to be removed, so my wound had to heal as an open wound....but a months worth of 2 lots of anti-biotics, lots of keeping it clean and salt baths worked well.... my vagina dosnt look as good as it would if my stitches were left in but luckly it was only a 2nd degree cut and it heald up as well as i could have hoped. the other half has no complaints about it and it didnt affect our sex life either.

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I had both. Got an epidural about halfway through my labor, and honestly can't imagine going through the rest of the birth without it. Numbed me from the waist down, just enough that I couldn't feel pain anymore. I still had enough feeling to know when to push when the time came, and I got full feeling back within about an hour after they pulled the drugs.

I didn't even feel my episiotomy when the doctor did it. And could hardly feel it when the doctor stitched it up (the only reason I felt anything is I had started getting feeling back after the epidural). Within a week home from the hospital, my stitches didn't hurt anymore, and now, after three weeks, I have no pain at all.

Just a word of advice - hope that your body doesn't decide to be difficult when they give you an epidural. When they stuck me the first time, the needle or whatever it is turned and stuck me right in a nerve. If that happens, it's gonna feel like whatever body part is connected to that nerve is on fire. I spent about an hour like that before they pulled my epidural out and restuck me. When they re-did it, it worked perfectly and I was fine. But I wish someone had warned me that might happen before I got that done, because I honestly thought the woman who did it had screwed up.

Danielle - posted on 01/30/2010

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I've had both.

Epidural is a GODSEND. I am getting one again for sure. It is a little weird sensation when they put it in, but thankfully you don't see anything (because its all done to your spine) and I can handle needles so long as I never have to see them. But only about 15, 20 minutes afterward you get your much needed relief. Only draw back I had with mine, was when it came time to push I couldn't feel my contractions to push with them. This doesn't always happen but it did in my case. So they had to turn it off when I was pushing but that was about it.

Episiotomy. I had a big one. My daughter was not willing to come out and they had to use the forceps to help me along, and the doc also gave me an episiotomy. Of course since I had the epidural I didn't feel anything at all. Then they sewed me up after delivery, but again I still didn't feel much of anything . I had some pain afterward but they will give you pills for that to knock it out if you have any. Once I went home, it was a little uncomfortable to sit down, I needed extra padding for sure. But it wasn't but a few days and I was fine. I was a little freaked out using the restroom but instead of wiping with toilet paper, you can use flushable wipes, or a wet washcloth, and that was a lot better. It healed just fine and I've had no problems with it. I am hoping not to have to have one again this time around but I am not to freaked out about it if I do have to have another since I know what to expect this time. Its really not too bad.

Kayliecia - posted on 01/30/2010

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I had 2 Episiotomy's and they aren't pretty! but aren't that bad..lets see with my first son was posterior and also my second one was too. umm i had good doctors and i dont think they were horrible but the after part i couldn't hardly sit or anything cuz i was so swollen. my advice is alot of TUCKS and SITZ baths. you'll be alright. the epidural i had with my second and it and the pain didn't get any better every pregnancy every labor is different for some people the epidural works wonders like my first son i had just stadol and i was fine with my second i had stadol and an epidural and was still hurting.

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i had 2 demerols then an epi... i was shaking so i was very very very nervoud about the epi. but it didnt hurt it just felt cold like a cold chill going up your back but you cant move lol the episotomy was different i felt a little pinch when he cut it but healing from it was alot harder.... i didnt even know until like 2 hours that he had done it when my hubby told me... but he sewed me up pretty nice if you know what i mean so the hubby has had NO complaints lol

Natalie - posted on 01/30/2010

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I had an epi with my 1st and i had no problems. My legs were numb for a few hours after the birth but other than that nothing. They also cut me a bit or i would've tore and i didn't feel it, i was just a little sore down there but that's normal anyways I healed pretty fast. I'm glad i took the epi b/c i could absoutely not tolerate the pain anymore at that point.



With my 2nd i went all natural b/c it went by so fast. They cut me less that time and i couldn't feel a thing. Just afterwords the stitching was very uncomfortable and my body was shaking with adrenaline. But my recovery was faster. I'm not sure if it was b/c i went natural or b/c it was already my 2nd child.

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