Crystal - posted on 12/06/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )
I truly hope it's just hormones, but lately I can't stand my husband. I can't sleep at night due to snoring, bed hogging, sneezing (I think my allergies are more sensitive and I am reacting more to his daily sneak smoking), and his god awful plan of setting an alarm for 4 a.m. 5 a.m. but never getting up until the snooze on his second alarm goes off twice. Oh and then there's the candy crinkle for his midnight snacks not to mention his flatulance makes me feel like hurling and has on a regular basis to be honest.
When he comes home from working the feedlot he doesn't take off his clothes and put them in the washer right away... somedays he just lays them over a chair by the laundry room. Thanks to my nausea I can't change wash some days because I'll make it halfway downstairs and have to go back to the toilet thanks to the odor. His shoe removal issue makes me even more upset.
Now I know there is some of this that is bugging me because of my nausea, but seriously I also know he didn't behave this badly when I had the energy to be up and around. Just because I'm so sick doesn't give his the right to make a stinky mess out of our home.
I've politely as possible and admittingly sometimes very rudely asked him not to continue with these things. I don't stand for it when it doesn't make me puke much less now. His response seems to be... you'll sleep while I'm gone so no big deal, I'm doing us all a favor if I rewear my clothes less work for you and kailee (my nine year old) to do, and I'm just bringing stuff in (about the shoes)...
The shoe thing really gets me cause he has cow feces all over them. It's simply unsanitary and we've had that fight on and off forever. I even put different shoes in the garage he could change out of to come to the house but because it's winter and he's cold he doesn't want to switch them out there. So instead he wears the boots in my house and stinks it up then puts the boots right outside the backdoor so when I let the dog out to go potty I again have to visit the toilet.
I'm so ready to be done!!! By done I mean leave. It is just so uncaring and disrespectful and now that his sneak habits and disregard for our complaints about his stench make me ill to top it off it just makes me so mad!!!
What can I do to make this situation better? I really don't want to give up now, but I can't seem to get him so see my point on any of the issues. I'm tired of hearing how he was good with two kids and the results of having this one is just what I have to put up with...
Please advice and suggestions here!!