Fed up and hoping it's just hormones...

Crystal - posted on 12/06/2009

Yes there is anger there. My side because I've requested small things to alleviate my illness in this pregnancy only to be met with a feeling of "cowgirl up" from all of my family. And to be honest before I went through this I would have felt the same way. My only salvation in this is a facebook friend of my husbands who had this with all three of her pregnancies.



My mom only finally understood after I stayed with her one evening because I got too sick to make it home. After that she's been pretty awesome. My husband on the other hand seems to think I should be just like my last pregnancy. I was sick with Jadyn from month 2 until about two weeks before delivery. However I got sick in the a.m. first thing, rinsed my mouth after my oldest had to jump out of the way, we cleaned the bathroom and on my way after that. Annoying believe me but nothing compared to this one. I'm have nausea so bad they had prescribed gels and pills to assist and all it does is keep it down but I still feel nausea most of the day. Also side effects include extreme headaches, constipation (and not just a little), tireness/drowiness. Not a pretty picture to say the least.



We've been married four and a half years and we were actively trying to have another baby which was a mutual decision. We had both said if it doesn't happen (after a year of trying) we're happy with the two girls and my step-son. Two weeks later I was pregnant. So I think out of frustration when I'm trying to explain why for the 10th day in a row all I managed was food for the kids and sometimes poor Kailee had to finish supper he snaps that he was fine with just two.



I know it's hard on him, but it's very hard on me physically and emotionally. I've give him this he did clean up the living room area (we had lots of heavy trunks of education toys upstairs) to make room for the tree. I wrapped most of the gifts but at least he did that. I'm not saying he does nothing at all. It's just that honestly if you know what your doing is making someone sick / sicker just stop until they get better???



Is that honestly so tough??



Anyway we have done counseling and it's been a tough road to here... longer than you want to read believe me.... but this last year until I got pregnant was really our best overall. Even with losing my newphew in June. So I have to admit to additional emotional stress along with the pregnancy hormones don't help.



But thank you, all of you, honestly lately I feel like there is so much on my plate I want to quit... just shut down and not feel... and I'm sure my husband is reacting to that as well... when you're ill things are just harder.

Crystal - posted on 12/06/2009

Lisa... if his clothes get washed he does them that's not a problem. What is the problem is that my nausea is so bad that if he doesn't do it right away the odor is left behind and it makes me ill the whole next day. Usually that's no big deal that he didn't wash them immediately or left them to wear again. I have spoken with him about it and he seems to think I'm playing my nausea to not do laundry. I have my nine year old ensure that the washer is open (available for his clothes right away). However, he seems to think that if his clothes aren't too bad he can just throw them over a chair. Problem is I'm in my second trimester and still sick quite often. After almost three months of this already I'm really frustrated. Honestly my biggest frustration is that my family has so little understanding of morning sickness that lasts this long and all day.

When we had our three year old I had to get really mean about his work then and that's when he started doing his own clothes and if he laid them on the floor he had to shampoo my carpet. I refuse to have my home smell like a feedlot. I grew up on a farm with horses, cattle, and the works but my home never smelled like it.

I just hope he realizes soon that I really need his assistance and not his attitude. More compliance to help me to do more things on a daily basis.

Thank all of you so much please keep praying...

oh and my baby is due June 9, 2010

Kristy - posted on 12/06/2009

Hi,
I'm having the same problem with my hubby he sets alarm 1 for 3.40am and dose not hear it alarm 2 for 4.20am and sleeps thought it and the radio alarm for 5am and still dose not wake i need to yell at him to get up out of bed at for over 30 minutes until 5.30am.
He has horrible morning breath which makes me sick comes home with oil and grease covered clothing which i need to wash.
He has had to snap out of it because my OBGYN put me on bed rest and now he has to do everything.
You need to talk to your hubby and let him know how you are felling make him listen make him understand and give him time to make the changes just make sure he knows things have to be different before the baby is born.

Lisa - posted on 12/06/2009

I think most of it is your problems you were having before you got pregnant, but your hormones are not helping the fact...



What I would try to do is suggest ways that would help you, or meet him halfway with some of these problems.... for example: If my partner came home and put his close near to the laundry that would be okay, what about saying if they are not in the washer they aren't getting washed, its worked on several occassions for me personally...

Elizabeth - posted on 12/06/2009

Oh my, honey what a mess! I don't know the two of you but if there's any way to get him to sit down with you and have a serious discussion about these things so they can be resolved it's the healthiest idea I have. And yes, it probably does have some to do with your hormones and nausea issues. I know that when I was still in the nasueated stage of my pregnancy I was very testy with not just my husband, but anyone. Hopefully after a serious discussion there can be a mutual understanding between the two of you. I'll keep you in my prayers dear.



Maddison Elizabeth Marie Bearce is due May 1st, 2010