Finding out the Sex of baby

Tara - posted on 06/03/2010 ( 24 moms have responded )

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So I would like to get opinions on whether or not my husband and I should find out the sex of our 2nd baby. I know it's more or less a personal choice but I simply can't decide if I want to find out. We found out with our daughter, and I really enjoyed knowing what to expect.
With this being our second one a lot of people are suggesting we wait until he/she is born. I like this idea, I just think I will go crazy not knowing the rest of my pregnancy. I would like to find out for helping know what kind of shower to throw (diaper shower or a full on baby shower!) but don't know how important it really is. Anyone have any personal experience with this situation?! Thanks :)

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Maria - posted on 06/11/2010

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I had that problem too. i found out with my son. and then this pregnancy i was going to let it be a surprise but when the time came and the tech asked if i wanted to know i totally broke down and practically shouted "YES!" lol ... so now i know... and at least i get to have a ball buying little girl clothes and thinking up pretty names!! =)

Chrissy - posted on 06/11/2010

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my brother offered me all his kids stuf and as he has 3 boys and a girl we needed to know wot to keep and wot to rehome with number 2 as we only have a 2 bed house girls stuf we wantwe to know if we would have to spend alot or nothing and now with number 3 we wanted to know if we could get rid of all the pink but as its girl 3 we have saved alot of money finding out as we didnt need to get anything for this baby

Natalie - posted on 06/11/2010

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hey im due with my seciond and we didnt find out the first we had a suprise! it was really hard not knowing but also so exciting as well!!! we got everything we needed in theings that would be great for a boy or girl then when out little annabella-angel was born we got lots of girly things more then we prob would have got if people knew what we were having! but after a not so good labour and delivery it was really nice to have a suprise at the end. with our secind we are also having a suprise :)
but my brother know what him and his gf are having and they are very happy with there disision to know. lol its a tricky one!!! good luck!

Frankie - posted on 06/09/2010

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I found out .. We having another little girl :) I hated not knowing what we was having. They couldn't tell us at 20 week scan as baby was not co-operating but we had to have 2 more scans to check on babies size as our first daughter was 5 pound 7 ounce which they said was underweight.

Tara - posted on 06/09/2010

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That is why I am completely lost. Lol! I really want to find out, but in a wierd way I really want the surprise at the end of this pregnancy!! Ugh! My husband really wants to keep it a surprise for some reason too... so I think we're gunna have the U/S Tech write down the sex or take a picture of the area and put it in a seperate envelope and hand it over to gramps and granny!! ;0 Although granny already said she won't hand it back to me no matter how bad I wanna find out. So We'll see how this goes I guess. I'm planning to do a shower after the birth instead of before that way if it is a BOY we can still get what we'll need, and if it's a girl, we'll have a diaper shower since we have one girl already. *Pray for BOY parts* haha

Heidi - posted on 06/06/2010

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I found out what we are having with both-both boys!!! It works out because then you know what to plan for. I would rather have everything that we need instead of not knowing and waiting until the last minute or guessing and just going with neutral colors. Plus, it's very exciting...My first son showed us that he was a boy...With this baby, he didn't want us to know right off and I had to lay there for about an hour before the Tech got a shot of him. I don't like guessing games. But, it's all up to you. Some people like the surprise but in the end, there is always a surprise waiting for you:)

Amanda - posted on 06/05/2010

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I've gone both ways. found out with my first, 3rd, and the one i'm carrying now. didn't find out with my second. Really it's a surprise either way. I gave family and friends the option to find out early or be surprised. This time around only my sister wants the surprise of not knowing until the day so everyone in my family knows to keep the lips zipped and fortunately she doesn't have any real contact with my friends.

Cassie - posted on 06/04/2010

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Hi Tara,
What about having the ultrasound technician write the sex of your baby on a piece of paper and sealing it in an envelope for you?? That way, you can try to keep it a surprise......... but if it gets too much not knowing you can tear into the envelope and find out straight away! Just make sure you tell the person doing the scan that this is what you want to do before she starts the scan!

Joanna - posted on 06/04/2010

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Well, We weren't going to find out the sex of this baby. But at one of my appointments at 15 weeks along, the doctor was doing a quick ultrasound and we saw what looked like a little package on the baby's bottom, and she said "oh look at him", etc etc, not knowing that I didn't want to find out. So I was like, okay, crap, I guess we will find out for sure at our 20 week ultrasound. Well we went in for that at 18 weeks and they ultrasound tech showed us what looked like girl parts, and she said it's a girl! Well at my last appointment (I'm 20 weeks), the doctor checked again and said "noo, look at the package, it looks like a boy!"

So we are totally confused, and I wish we would have just waited and avoided all this mess.

Jessica - posted on 06/04/2010

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My opinion is that the more prepared you are the better. AND, now that I know that the little movements in my belly are coming from my baby GIRL, I feel sooo much more connected to her. I say find out the sex. Not having that connection and that feeling of preparedness sin't worth a ten second surprise for me...

Andrea - posted on 06/04/2010

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I found out with my first at 20 weeks that I was having a boy. I thought he was a girl until I saw that definite penis. This time I'm thinking another boy, though hoping for a girl and we'll be finding out in late July or early August. I would lose my mind if I had to wait the entire time to find out, though I'm sure the surprise at the birth is awesome. I was waivering in finding out this time and thought about letting my fiance find out and just not tell me. But I think I would rather know so I can call baby by name and so I can plan accoridingly with clothing and the nursery and all. Either way, I'll be starting all over again as my oldest is almost 8 and I thought I'd be done having kids by now, but God had other plans for me.

PETA - posted on 06/04/2010

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I didnt find out with my first, i thought i was having a boy, but had a girl. I had to find out with second, another girl, then third found out 24weeks boy, i was so excited, then just found out we are expecting another girl. I think it is a nice suprise to wait, but when you see the scans you will no anyway.

I'm not much help, i cant even keep a secret for 5 mins.

Good luck, if you can wait you are a stronger person than i am

Chelle - posted on 06/04/2010

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We found out the sex of the first and will definitely be finding out the sex of the second. The main reason, i want to be able to refer to the bubs by his/her chosen name rather than it. Makes it feel more real. I am not a boy=blue and girl=pink kind of person, so thats not the issue.

Brenda - posted on 06/04/2010

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Well, tara i would also go nuts without knowing what to expect , but at the end it would also be awsome like a surprize. i would recommend a diaper shower because they are expensive!!!

Jane - posted on 06/03/2010

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i like your idea of a shower after the baby is born if you aren't going to find out. that way you aren't stuck w/your baby in orange, yellow and green clothes forever and everyone asking if it's a boy or a girl.

for me, i always find out. i waited so long for kids that i couldn't go w/out knowing.

go w/your gut, it's never wrong.

Ashlee - posted on 06/03/2010

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I'm due in September with my first and I found out the sex because I wanted to know what to prepare for. I figure that with my second, since I will already have a lot of things I need, I'll leave it a suprise and still have a baby shower, but do neutral colors. BUT I think it would drive me crazy not knowing when I could easily find out!! Haha I think though that the suprise would be well worth the wait :]



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Liz - posted on 06/03/2010

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Personally I couldn't go the whole pregnancy without knowing what I was having. My first pregnancy we had b/g twins who will be two June 8th. This current pregnancy we're due with a little boy July 13th with a planned c-section.

I just couldn't handle the surprise and not being able to prepare. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

Megan - posted on 06/03/2010

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With my first child, I found out what the sex was going to be and loved it, only because I too knew what to expect and what to buy. Thank goodness though I bought stuff that wasn't all pink knowing I was going to have more kids.

With this pregnancy, we chose NOT to find out only because of people raving how much more fun it is until the last minute then everyone finds out at the same time, even the doctor!

I want to do another shower for this child, but we decided just to do a welcome home baby shower instead, so that way, everyone will know for sure what to get and so everyone can see the child as well. It's a strugle wanting to find out but in the end, it'll be more fun =) Good luck!

Lauren - posted on 06/03/2010

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I would go totally nuts, but I also am not a big fan of surprises and I just like to know for decorating purposes and because I am a planner and I like knowing. haha it is a nice too because if people have things to give to you like clothes they will know what you are having and if they can give things to you. I found out I was having a boy and I love it because I feel like now that we are able to give him a name it really makes the bonding much more exciting because we always refer to him by his name and I really like that.

Nicole - posted on 06/03/2010

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We didn't find out with our first two children and ended up with boys both times. With our 3rd pregnancy, I wanted to know if we could because I wanted to know if I needed to pull out boxes in storage or if I could go shopping. At that time with our financial situation it meant 3 outfits but it was something. We got our girl. Since then we've wanted to find out, we were working out bedroom and clothes situations. After a loss of twin girls and another boy we now have 3 boys ages 7, 6 and almost 16 months and a daughter aged 4 with a girl on the way soon.
It really is your personal choice and either way is special. Best of luck!

Tara - posted on 06/03/2010

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I keep going back and forth too. I really only want to know so we know if we have to get all new clothing, maybe we could just do the shower after the baby is born?!..because I do think the surprise would be worth it. :) I just might have to the gender pic in an envelope and hand it to grandpa and hope he can keep the secret from me :) great idea!

Ashleigh - posted on 06/03/2010

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I've wanted to know, always wanted to know. With my son I couldn't wait to find out. This one I've gone back and forth. At my last u/s the girl couldn't really tell, so can't wait to find out at the next u/s.

Kristin - posted on 06/03/2010

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I didn't find out with any of our three kids. There are so few true surprises left in life, why mess with this one. All i ever wanted to know was baby's health status.

Amy - posted on 06/03/2010

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I didn't find out for my first because my son didn't want us to know. The surprise is pretty cool, but if your having the opposite gender it's nice to know ahead of time to get ready.

With this pregnancy we just tried to find out, and yet again he/she won't let us know. I'm going to give it one more try at my next apt and if not then oh well.

A suggestion is you could have them find out (close your eyes), and print out the gender pic and put it in an envelope so either others could know or so you could change your mind later.

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