Has anyone's relationship with their husband or bf changed since they got pregnant?

Ana - posted on 08/25/2012

For me and my hubby, things changed right after I found out we were pregnant..I was really sick with my daughter so the outings stopped.. the fun stopped.. everything made me sick including people.... so I went to work part time, came home and ate and went to bed..I went to the mall to walk every so often but that's it....he had to learn to entertain himself and take care of the house and me for 10 mths.. I went the full 40 weeks.. he's such a trooper..Even when I felt better at about 7mths he told me to have a seat or go work on the baby's room..by the way we moved 2 times during that pregnancy..



But yes, I was bored too.. he was more bored.. but we dealt with it..and after the baby was born we had plenty to do!

Heather - posted on 08/03/2012

Things have definiely changed with us...some good, some bad. I am about 21 and a half weeks with twins, because my hubby has another semester left at school he has been working like crazy this summer so that we have some money saved, especial in case I have to go on medical leave from work early. I do not get to see him as much as I would like, but I try really hard to be understanding and I have a new found appreciation for him and how hard he is working. It is so cute how protective he is all of a sudden. But our sex life is almost non-existant just because it has become uncomfortable for me and the idea freaks him out, he does not want to hurt me or the babies- which is funny cause he is a nurse and I am not on pelvic rest or any other type of restiction. Oddly enough he has not complained at all. We talk more about our future and have become closer in other ways, more cuddling and really intimate conversations we did not have as much before. I guess after nearly four years of marriage, that included a fairly active sex and social life this time is just a transition and preparing us for the realities of having twin babies. I also think it is important to take a little iniative to keep things interesting and keep him involved in your pregnancy and your personal relationship alive. I insist that we still do date night even though we are crazy busy. I mean amuzement parks and loud concerts are out, but dinner, shopping (window or actual), going for walks, and visiting with friends/family can be fun too.

Christine - posted on 07/31/2012

How I understand... That's how I was with my first pregnancy.. I was lonely I had no body except for my hubby.. and he wasn't even all that great of company.. my friends and family lives 6 hours away... But the thing is, there isn't much that a man can do while you are pregnant other then keeping you happy so he doesn't get yelled at all day long... So they tend to keep their distance because you are a ticking time bomb... One second you can be laughing and the next you'll just start crying over nothing. So men tend to be afraid of that.... I know my hubby kept his distance for awhile.. And I finally broke down and asked wtf is your problem? I got the same response. There isn't much you can do right now because you are pregnant and probably don't feel sexy or anything.. You can try spicing things up between each other..

Why not let him go out with the guys.. Let him relax and chill out a little bit ya know.. I know it sucks for you cause you are feeling lonely but sometimes he just needs that... You can try spicing things up at home if you want or think that'll help... OR go out together find a babysitter before you pop this child out and spend some time out and about.. No matter if it's a romantic weekend getaway.. or just a night out together with dinner and movies or something... Spend a day together.. something... Make sure he feels the love.. I've learned with this pregnancy that if I look at my hubby and just say thank you for dealing with me.. He's a lot better mood... I doubt it'll fall apart it's just a rough patch... Besides if you can get through pregnancy... and having a baby... you can get through anything together! Good luck to ya! I wish ya'll nothing but the best...

Amie - posted on 07/30/2012

Hey Barb! I feel for you! Sometimes when all the emphasis is on the 'baby' and being a mother, we forget and so do others, that we are people before we are mums. You have a little time left before bubs may come, my advise is to do something fun. Try and do something just for you guys. Catch a movie, go to the beach, go away for a weekend, go to a music festiva, pull out old photos etc what ever you guys are into. And what ever it is.....laugh with each other and touch each other. Drive that four hours, drop your daughter off to some family and have a weekend to yourselves. Enjoy being you, being mum is just a fraction of who you are. Good luck

Barb - posted on 07/27/2012

We have sex several times a week. He is just my bestfriend and we don't know what to say to each other anymore. I am a stay at home mom in who lives 4 hours away from friends and family. I take care of our daughter and house, I am very alone and lonely and feel like I lost my bestfriend.

Danyell R - posted on 07/27/2012

I agree, things do change. Im 28 weeks pregnant and i just dont have a sex drive anymore. Hell we didnt even have sex on our wedding night... It drives him up the wall, i know it does. I just dont have any interest to do anything sexual. I dont know, i feel bad most of the time but Ive just gotten wierd about a lot of things. I reassure him that things will go back to normal, he knows too. He sometimes reassures me "its just because your pregnant babe"