Corinne - posted on 04/26/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )
Ok let me start by saying I'm 24 and I've been with my fiance for 10 years now. Also this is my first child but not my mothers first grandchild. My brother has a little girl but his wife has been always been very controlling and my mother had no input on anything baby with them. Well now I think she is trying to take it all out on me so to speak LOL It started when my fiance and I made certain decisions about testing or not to test and she didn't agree with what we did. Well for that I got yelled at and ignored for 3 days. Next was when we went to do the registry she didn't agree with what my fiance and I were scanning and actually asked the lady from the store to erase it even though we said no. Well since we wouldn't change it she acutally got so upset she called my brother to come get her cause she didn't want to be around us anymore. Next issue was my fiance's mother planned a surprise baby shower for his side of the family as this is her first grandchild. It made her so happy to do this and to see the
looks on our face. Well when I told my mother about it she got "werid" it was the 10,000 questions about it and what I got and why people got certian things. An hour later she calls me and tells me she doesn't have time to plan one for our side of the family (now this is after a month of my best friend and step mom asking her to help plan one for me) she asks me to plan it. Yes your read it right my mother asked me to plan my own shower and no she really wasn't too busy but I wont get into that. Everytime I tell her what I've done for it and ask her if she has gotten the things she said she would the answer is no sorry I haven't yet. Now understand I'm at 33 weeks so I dont have much time left LOL. Its hard to say but my mother and I have been so close all my life and I dont think I've ever been so disappointed in her and felt so hurt by her actions. I've simply ignored all the other things and way she has acted about things up until now. Its like I don't even want to talk to her at this point; my step mom
has been more helpful and offering to help and pay for things. I don't want to rely on her getting the things but also do not want to step on her toes if she is willing to help. I don't know what to do about her and I know my fiance is getting fed up with hearing me cry and get so upset. I've even gotten to the point that she has stressed me out so much that the doctor has recommended her not be in the delivery room. Yeah I didnt tell her that. Does anyone have an opinion or suggestion of how to talk to her or ignore her or whatever. I'm up for anything at this moment not to be so stressed out.