Husband is overseas , does any one kno how many days he can come home, for the delivery?

Breann - posted on 01/09/2010 ( 18 moms have responded )

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My husband is over in Iraq and I am expecting our first child. He is in the army and I was just wondering if any one knew the circumstances for them being able to come home for the birth, when i'm due in april.

the reason why im asking is because, they keep giving the run around and giving him different times to come back home and also different amount of days/weeks he is able to stay here.

If any one so happens to kno anything on this topic, please give me a response, because i would really like to know some estimated times so that the army doesn't cheat us out on his leave since this is our first baby!

thanks!

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Ashley - posted on 01/09/2010

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My husband is a marine and he gets 10 days so i would assume its about the same for the army. We are going thru the same thing right now, Im due May 28th and he is set to deploy june 1st so i we are trying to figure out whats gunna happen.. gotta love the millitary life haha

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Heather - posted on 01/16/2010

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well we are in the navy, so its probably different. but we get three weeks only if its your first child. make sure he is stressing that point..

Breann - posted on 01/15/2010

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Sorry i haven't responded right away ladies! yeah that's what i was told. I guess, now they are telling him that if the baby gets here after his two weeks then he gets 10 more days extra added onto his leave. but if the baby is born the beinging of his leave he only has them two weeks. so who knows, more in less they are giving him the run around and telling him so many answers :[

Cora - posted on 01/15/2010

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I am in the Army and for a married soldier they are authorized 10 days of paternity leave but he may be able to take his mid tour leave at that time also. He just needs to talk to his chain of command.

Erica - posted on 01/11/2010

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my husband is also deployed to iraq and he had to give them my due date and they are going to give him his R&R around that time frame and then give him his paternity leave when he actually gets home which is 10 days but every unit is different.

Michele - posted on 01/11/2010

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Since the Army has changed their days of leave while on R&R, they now get 15 instead of 18 days at home. That is more than likely the only time he will get. I am a medically service connected member and my husband is Active still and they changed that last year while he was deployed. Good Luck with all of that and I wish I could tell you something different, but as of right now if he's there a year it's fifteen days of leave.

Julia - posted on 01/11/2010

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red cross message could POSSIBLY get him home after the birth. most likely not unless there are complications. if there aren't any complications (God willing!) then that would be a way to inform him of the birth. the video thing is an idea however some military hospitals will not allow videos (I gave birth in Hawaii at Tripler and they would not allow videos) However one of my good friends gave birth when her husband was deployed. He fortunately was able to call everyday. so he called numerous times throughout the day when she was in labor (the CO's allowed him to call from his desk) his last call actually came within a minute of his son being born. I answered the phone and told him to listen a second later his son screamed. also i used a digital camera to take pictures and switched it to video so he did see the birth when he came home.

Breann - posted on 01/11/2010

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yeah that's what im afraid of is to go early. He isn't a canadian, but that is nice how they give them 18days! I really hope his company is just as nice as your husbands is with that stuff!

Emma - posted on 01/11/2010

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i just went through this last year with my husband he was also in afghanistan... he was suposse to get home for the birth but didn't i went early!!! but if he is a canadian solider and he is using his HLTA break for this he will get 18 days because that is what they are all entitled to for their hlta no exceptions unless there is complications or sickness.. then he will get extra compassionate leave... hope this helps!!! also the 2 days i was in labour he didn't work and there was a lock down but they made an exception for the situation and let him call like every 30 minuites!!!

Breann - posted on 01/10/2010

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Lol yeah, I am sure they will let him have that time to himself. I think it's more of that worry, but at that time if it comes down to that i wouldn't care as long as he gets to see our son be born one way or another!

Lauren - posted on 01/10/2010

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Quoting Breann :

thank you guys for all the posts, Yeah i figured he probally won't make it to the delivery :[ i think they should have it to wear they get the whole month off , i kno that's pushing it but for the sake of us who want our husbands there. So this whole video thing they set up, is that gaurenteed that it will only be him watching it, if that were to happen because i don't think i would be too comfortable with his whole platoon staring down there lol. Now his comand said that he will be able to come home in mid april but that's not a promise and who's to say if he will leave before the baby is born.


I really don't think everyone would be standing behind him.  I am not sure on that part, but I do think they respect their privacy overseas especially with something this important and delicate.  They aren't barbaric I am sure they would let him have some private time!!  :-)

Mandy - posted on 01/10/2010

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I'm also military, and like another poster replied, it's very difficult to get them home for the birth. My husband is a Marine, and it's extremely difficult if they are in a warzone, especially if they are outside the wire for a while. I have a friend who had to give birth without her hubby, although she tried everything to get him home. I think part of it depends on the command too.



Good luck though, and know that you're not alone!

Tara - posted on 01/09/2010

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My husband is in the marines I know he gets 10 days, thank goodness. I'm due in a month and my husband is in training til like 4 days before my due date and then a month later he is deploying.. its so hard being military!

Breann - posted on 01/09/2010

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thank you guys for all the posts, Yeah i figured he probally won't make it to the delivery :[ i think they should have it to wear they get the whole month off , i kno that's pushing it but for the sake of us who want our husbands there. So this whole video thing they set up, is that gaurenteed that it will only be him watching it, if that were to happen because i don't think i would be too comfortable with his whole platoon staring down there lol. Now his comand said that he will be able to come home in mid april but that's not a promise and who's to say if he will leave before the baby is born.

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They won't send him home in expectation of the birth. If he is already in the theatre he won't be sent home until after you have the baby. Also, it probably won't even be right away. It will be as soon as his unit can let him go. What they will try to facilitate is a phone call through The Red Cross while you are at the hospital. If you don't have friends or family around to support you at your birth and you are getting your prenatal care on base/post let your provider know and they will hook you up with a doula free of charge to be there for your delivery so you don’t have to go through the birth alone.

Lauren - posted on 01/09/2010

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My husband is in the army and it is really hard for them to get home when they are in a war zone like Iraq or Afghanistan. It takes forever for leave to get approved in the military my husband was gone for 12 months and he never got the leave he requested and it was horrible. He said the army is so messed up that leave and those sort of things just sit on the higher ups desks forever and they usually never get to them. The army is basically a mess when it comes to those things. The only way for him to be there when the baby is born is having a C-section and having him request leave. Some men have also been able to have cameras set up so that they can be shown in a live feed to the delivery room. Here is a video from a news station on a husband overseas in Iraq and his wife giving birth while he is gone.
http://video.aol.ca/video-detail/soldier...
Sorry I can't give you any good news about it, but I would just cross your fingers because it is not impossible to get him home just very difficult.

Breann - posted on 01/09/2010

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Yeah, military life is the best, haha! I can't believe they only give 10 tens u'd figure they would give a little over 10 days or so, due to the circumstances. ugh man, i guess all that matters is that they get him here on time for the delivery!! thank you for ur response!

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