I am pregnant with my first baby does any one have any advice?

Toney - posted on 05/14/2010 ( 16 moms have responded )

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Natasha - posted on 05/24/2010

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Hi, the best advise i can give you is really nothing. You can never fully prepare yourself for motherhood. Every baby is different and every mum is different. Just take it one day at a time and remember don't try to be a super mum! You and your baby come first before everything even housework :). But trust me the next year will be a huge roller coaster, you will have good days and bad days but in the end being a mum is truly the greatest gift in life. Try enjoy it because it goes by too fast!! Congrats :)

Maria - posted on 05/23/2010

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Hi renee, i think that's the scariest story ever!! im about to have another baby so close in age to the first that i will be depending on an IUD to put on the brakes. im hoping that its extremely rare to ge pregnant with an IUD!!!!





Also, Toney i thought that What to Expect when your expecting was very boring. thats good that it helped so many people, but for me it was like trying to read a textbook. i REALLY loved The Girlfriends Guide To Pregnancy. It brought some life into the material and it was funny.

Kirsten - posted on 05/23/2010

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I am pregnant with my first too. One thing that I have noticed is that everyone has an opinion, and suddenly everyone thinks that they are doctors. Do not believe everything that those unsolicited opinions indicate. Most people mean well, but if you put a lot of weight into every comment that someone makes to you, then you will be up all night stressing out over whether or not you are harming your baby while you are pregnant and if you are going to be a good mother or not. It took me a little while, but I have finally learned to just listen to the doctor and trust my instincts, because I guarantee that you are going to know what to do for your baby better than anyone else.

Jasmine - posted on 05/19/2010

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Congrats. I have the What to expect and it was helpful but the book i loved was the Pregnancy Bible. Gave me lots of good advice and info that I have used throughout ,my entire pregnancy.

Toney - posted on 05/19/2010

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I am due November 2

Jasmine - posted on 05/17/2010

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i didnt think i would call on my mum for anything but wen my girl was found to be tounge tied at one week old she was worth her weight in gold i had to breast feed, tube feed and express every 3 hours day and night it took just over an hour to do it all leaving me with 1.5 - 2hours to rest feed myself change and bath baby clean the house an cook, i couldnt have survived if she hadnt come to stay and help me and my husband out as he was working full time to pay bills, everyone will have their opinion and its up to you wat advice you take but also family can be the best help

Michelle - posted on 05/17/2010

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First off ... CONGRATS!!! Second , you have now opened Pandora's box of unsolicited advice every where you go!!!!
Once your belly starts to expand, ever person you run into just might give you advice , old wives tales that can be down right scary , labor stories that appear written by Stephen King , what have you!
* I would look up old wives tales when you are online and bored. That way you know what is actual cause of concern , and what is just a load of uneducated B.S. circulating to scare the day lights out of people .
* Many stores have baby registries. Talk to fellow moms and weed out what really isn't needed . Babies cost a LOT of money especially with supplies and cute little gadgets. Most stores will have featured items that some moms like , and others feel are a waste of time and money.
Also check out different products online and check ratings and comments from people who have bought that item. Also keep in mind how long the baby will use a certain item compared to the need and price. Bassinets are GREAT, but you can only use them for the first couple months.
* One of the big decisions and controversies is bottle and breast feeding. If you choose to breastfeed , REALLY get others opinions on breast pumps before buying one. It can become a costly mistake and they are not cheap, but cheaper than buying formula . Many companies like Gerber , Evenflo I have heard bad things about . many people swear by Medela I have used a couple of their pumps and they are great and last.
* Try to relax as much as possible . Don't let yourself get over exhausted . Drink plently of water [I know it sucks] it will be of great help with summer approaching. Many women expirence contraction like pain from dehydration. You are also at greater risk of an urinary infections and yeast infections now.
* get a small notebook to make a list of questions to ask your Dr at each visit. Keep it close by or in your purse so if something pops in your head you can write it down , or if you see something, or hear about something that you are unsure of you don't forget. Pregnancy makes you forget things. Take it to the Dr with you so you can ask and write down the answers if needed.
* If you haven't been warned already.... at some point in your pregnancy, generally around 24-28 weeks or so ... they will do a gloucose test. Although it is simple enough to do , it is gross to many expecting moms and totally dreaded for those who have been subjected to it with prior pregnancies.
Simple: you drink some soda an hour later they draw blood .
Dreaded: It tastes like someone condensed a case of soda into one serving making it overly sweet and makes you want to throw it up.
More dreaded: Being told if you throw it up , you have to do it over again . If doing it at a hospital lab , they can be rude with saying it too!
* Go online and check out different things like brands of diapers , formulas, and other baby care products . Many will have coupons you can sign up for , community groups , and some will send you free samples. Even if you decide to breast feed the samples are GREAT for emergencies!
* Morning sickness is not limited to the first trimester, nor is it limited to mornings . I am 27 weeks and it has peaked again .
Good luck !

Ariel - posted on 05/17/2010

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congrats! just hang in there. its hard at times but its worth it. :)

PETA - posted on 05/16/2010

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Congratulations!
Try this web site babycentre.com.au
it shows you how your baby is growing and what is happening
Good luck

Carolee - posted on 05/14/2010

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Everybody will give you their opinion about EVERYTHING. Almost all of these people will expect you to follow their advice. Follow your heart, and don't be afraid to defend your personal parenting choices. We are all just gracefully fumbling through this thing called "parenthood".

Amy - posted on 05/14/2010

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I agree with Jane Babycenter.com is the best website ever!! But I'm going to give you some different advice. These 3 item I had to get the first 4 weeks after having my daughter and I couldnt live without them.

Swaddle me blanket:
http://www.toysrus.com/product/index.jsp...


Breathable baby bumper:
http://www.toysrus.com/product/index.jsp...


Fisher-Price Newborn Rock & Play Sleeper:
http://www.toysrus.com/product/index.jsp...

my daughter is 6 weeks old today, I feel like I had her yesterday because I remember everything about my pregnancy, and my labor lol. But I've also gone through alot with her having acid reflux and spending the first 4 weeks trying to figure out with drs what it was. So if you have any questions please feel free. I love to help. Congrats youll be so happy when your little one gets here, being a mommy is really rewarding!!!

Renee - posted on 05/14/2010

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I love that website, used it for all 3 pregnancies. Highly recomend it!

Jane - posted on 05/14/2010

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congratulations! babycenter.com is a great place to open a little account, it will send you emails every week on what is going on w/your body. if you are thinking of breastfeeding, a great book to get from Amazon is "Breastfeeding Made Simple" it's a really easy book to read. For me, "What To Expect When You Are Expecting" stressed me out. I don't know why - but that is a good rule of motherhood, anything anyone tells you or suggests shouldn't stress you out, always go w/your gut, it's never wrong. Ask your doctors lots of questions so you can expand your knowledge base and feel comfortable with things.

Old Navy has the most comfortable maternity clothes, Target's line is good, too

as far as when the baby gets here, Pampers diapers and Huggies wipes.

Enjoy your pregnancy, it goes by quickly.



Best of luck!

Renee - posted on 05/14/2010

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Congradulations!! I had a book about expecting and loved it, I learned so much from books that nurses now ask me if I'm a nurse for a living. I have a 7 yr old daughter, 2 yr old son, and I'm pregnant now, finding out how far along and what the sex is (most likely since I think I'm 5 months pregnant or so/been feeling a lot movement). I didn't know I was pregnant since I had the IUD in and asumed my pregnancy symptoms were various things. We had the IUD taken out 3 weeks ago (so that we could get pregnant) and noticed movement 1 week later. IUD's don't hurt babies at all if you concieve so the baby will be just fine. I can't wait, I was half way through my pregnancy before I even knew about it, making escusses all along the way for every symptom. We are very excited.

Liz - posted on 05/14/2010

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Congrats, when are you due? The book what to expect does help a lot. I didn't have it for my first pregnancy, but someone gave it to me for my current pregnancy. I have a set of b/g twins who will be 2 june 8th and I'm due with a planne c-section July 13th with our second little boy.

Laura - posted on 05/14/2010

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get the book what to expect when your expecting!! it helped me alot :) congrats