Is it rude to have a baby shower with your second pregnancy???

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Brooke - posted on 04/06/2009

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Unless there is some unusually circumstance (like long periods of time between kids or some other odd think like twins after 1) I think it looks greedy. People were I live usually spend a decent amount of money on a shower gift, plus another gift when the baby is born. People still might give you something when the baby is born so you can regis. somewhere to get more what you want, but a shower can look tacky. The baby is still celebrated with out asking people to shell out lots of money on more gifts.

Raegan - posted on 02/25/2009

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Usually someone else is throwing it for you, so I guess it's theire choice. But I'm having a baby shower with my second, because my first is 6-years-old! I don't have baby stuff around anymore!

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Jilly - posted on 04/24/2009

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I don't really think it's rude. I know there are some people who will get sprinkles where it is not big like the first one.



In my situtation I didn't get to have my first shower since I went into pre term labor so this time around I am getting one but I already told my sis who is throwing it I don't want her to go overboard since this is my second baby and we kept all of our baby toys.

Melissa - posted on 04/24/2009

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There is always something you need that you don't have. I think you should have one, DEFINITELY.

Natalie - posted on 04/21/2009

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why would it be rude, at the end of the day if people don't want to buy you anything they don't have to attend eh ?i wouldn't worry about it, it's a celebration of a new birth xx

Angela - posted on 04/21/2009

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I think it is totally fine to have a baby shower. I am pregnant with my third child. My kids are all almost 5 years apart. My oldest is 9 (will be 10 in July), my soon to be middle just turned 5 last month and I am due in May. I have had a shower with all 3 of them. If there are things you need or just want a good excuse to have a party, either way.. go for it!

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I'm having my second and i'm going to have a shower.  My first is 8 and we have nothing left from him except our keepsakes, first clothes, etc.

Brenda - posted on 03/13/2009

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No way.  If you are having a different sex you would still have things you need. Or you could have a shower just to pamper you, like a spa party.  I'm having my 3rd and I will be really upset if no one offers to throw me a shower.

Libby - posted on 03/10/2009

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No, it's not rude.  I wanted to have a shower for our 3rd baby since our oldest was 7 and youngest 4 1/2, and both boys....so a girl wouldn't be able to reuse car seats and such and not much boy stuff can be passed down.  We lost that baby though, and am now pregnant with our 4th child.  We don't know what we are having yet, it is still early on.  But I would like to have a shower perhaps after the baby is born to celebrate our new miracle.  We are really kinda nervous about making it through this pregnancy, so I think it's only natural to want to celebrate!  I don't think we will do it before because I'm sorta fearful that it will jinx things.  But I'd like to have a gathering afterwards with our friends and family, and especially our church family because we didn't attend this church when we had our first two children.  And they were very excited about our 3rd pregnancy, and grieved right along with us when we lost our daughter.  So, have a million showers...it just means God is blessing you with such wonderful little miracles!!

Stephanie - posted on 03/10/2009

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i dont think there is a problem at all with having another shower, either. if your baby is due at a different time of the year, then all of the clothes you have are not going to fit at the right time,  and there are always things that you need for each baby such  as new bottles and diapers etc, its kind of like your baabys first birthday party!!



 



another option if you are concerned that ive heard of being done is a diapering shower...where everyone brings you diapers and wipes etc; this can really help too if you already have a lot of the other stuff!!

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I don't think so. I am due June 09 and I am having another shower and this is my 3rd baby. I think it is just nice to be able to get together with all of your family and friends to celebrate this new life! :) If you are feeling weird about getting clothes or stuff like that have a diaper shower where they only bring diapers/wipes. :) Or you can have a baby shower where people bring a casserole or meal that freezes nicely for your family when you get out of the hospital there won't be any worry about whats for dinner and you can just snuggle with your new one! :)

Maria Elena - posted on 03/04/2009

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absolutely not. each baby is individual & should not be shorted with nice gifts just cuz you already have a little one.

Tracy - posted on 03/04/2009

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I think it depends where you are from.  I live in Central Minnesota, and around here, its considered rude to have a shower for your second baby.  I guess I would just ask othere moms in your area what they did.  I know if I had a second baby shower, I would have a very small turnout.

Felicia - posted on 03/04/2009

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no not at all! my family will throw as many showers for as many kids you have! lol.... my freinds have already had their second children and we threw showers for them.... i know i need to have one.. when my son was younger(now 4) i didnt think i was going to have any more children so i gave all my stuff to friends and family....well i could still get all the stuff myself but its still nice to be surprised by what peoel want to get you

Marissa - posted on 03/04/2009

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I'm wondering the same thing. I'm expectiing my third due July 9. I have 2 boys already and now I'm having a girl. I would love to have one but I don't know what ppl would say to that with it being my third. I hate to go out and buy everything all over. My sister said something about throwing me one so we will see. I think it would have to be a surprise or I will worry about what ppl think about it till the shower gets here.

Deanna - posted on 03/03/2009

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I REALLY HOPE NOT LOL

AS IM EXPECTING MY SECOND AND PEOPLE WANT TO THROW ME ONE - HERES MY RESPONSE IF THEY DONT LIKE DONT COME... RIGHT? LOL

HAVE A GOOD ONE

TAKE CARE



XO XO

Stephanie - posted on 03/03/2009

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I don't think so, I'm on my 4th baby due in July 09 and I think every baby is different, things are changing so much that why not new things come out all the time, and it's good to get new things for the new baby, makes it special to that baby.

Andrea - posted on 02/25/2009

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i wouldnt think so i think my sister is throwing me one.. and its my second baby, but really you always need baby stuff.. diffentally if you are pregnant, and diapers of course! and i know i have to start all over, my daughter is 3 and i wasnt really planning on getting pregnant again for a while so i gave my stuff away for my friends with little girls which they needed... so it doesnt hurt to get new baby stuff.. its normal!

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