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Nervous about the BIG DAY...

Ashley - posted on 07/12/2010 ( 1 mom has responded )

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So Im 36 weeks pregnant tomorrow and the realization that my baby has to come out is settling in. And I am so nervous! About everything from will I really be able to tell if I am in labor if I don't have the obvious signs (such as my water breaking) to what kind of dad will my boyfriend be. Hearing other peoples horror stories isn't so bad..im just worried that things will not go as I would like them to. I have the biggest fear of needles and i think that trumps my fear of the pain enough that I don't want an epidural. I will take the iv. That I can handle. But a huge needle going into my back in between contractions is so scary. One wrong move and I could be paralyzed for the rest of my life. Im sure every woman gets nervous before her big day. Its natural. I sure know I am.

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Ashleigh - posted on 07/12/2010

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I wasn't really scared with my son, I prepared for the pain and took classes and read all the books. Labor, I'm not going to sugar coat it, it was very hard, I started out at 4cm and it still took 22 hours. I was prepared for a long labor though, so it wasn't that bad and I had a mirror to watch the birth. I can't wait to do that again, some people find it gross but for me it was motivation, every time I saw his head going back in it gave me the energy for the next push.

As for epidural, I have a blood clotting disorder that prevents me from having an epidural, not to mention the scary complications that are possible. I did have a shot of demerol to help after the first 12 hours but I WILL NEVER do that again!!! It didn't help and just made me have trouble breathing and hallucinate.

Things never go exactly how you plan though, so be ready to roll with the punches. My husband was opening his store but unfortunately it opened 2 weeks late and so he had to leave the hospital while I was in labor to help open the store. Because he was the general manager he ended up making up all but 6 hours of the time he was with me in the hospital. I will admit it was difficult at first, he was stressed and exhausted from work so I didn't get much help until things slowed down. And my mom said she was going to "stay" and help with the baby but she was staying 30 mins away so she was only at the house for 4 hours a day. That first week was interesting but just remember when you are tired that it will get better. If your boyfriend will not be able to take time off after you get home get a plan together now with mom, MIL and other family and friends to come help even if they just help clean up or cook. This time my hubby is able to take off up to 2 weeks and my mom said she will come and actually stay at the house for up to a week. Good luck!!! And I am so jealous, I'm not due til end of Sept, I am so not having fun in FL and pregnant in the summer.

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