stress, blood pressure and naughty children!!

Suzi - posted on 11/20/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )

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Hiya girls, i'm 34 weeks pregnant, due on new years eve, i've had a very hard pregnancy this time round, and got told at 22 weeks i was going to have my son and he would die, i'm obviously over the moon to still be pregnant now, but now my BP is high and am having lots of head aches and blurred vision, i've been told my midwives to try and get the BP down and not let it rise but i'm finding it very hard as my 5 year old is causing stress by behaving really badly, its making me and my partner to row, and i am at a loss as to what to do . its not just a row a day it seems all day everyday is a battle any ideas on how to cope with problem children and also getting my BP down.

Hope everyone is enjoying pregnancy :)

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Casey - posted on 11/20/2010

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First of all Congradulations!!!
I think you need to talk to you partner, you two need to be united and both on the same page when it comes to dealing with you 5 year and other house hold issues, explain to him that your not well and your not coping and you need his help.
Then you need to tackle your 5 year old, at 5 they are old enough to understand right from wrong, so you need to make up a list of rules and put them up where everyone can see them (maybe even get the kids to help make them up on a sheet of cardboard and help to decorate it so they can be a part of it) then make up a rewards chart and get some of those little star stickers and everytime your kids do something good like help around the house, play nice together, clean they're rooms etc then they get a star and once they reach a certain amount they get a suprise or a special outing, but when they misbehave they loose a star. Make a big deal out of it every morning say to them "whose going to get the most stars today" they'll soon catch on.
Also set up a naughty corner and everytime they are naughty they must sit alone in the naughty corner (a minute for every year of their age) before you sit them there always make sure you tell them what they did wrong and why it was wrong, if they move or talk then add another minute.
Make sure your partner enforces the new system too so there is no arguements about one person being the good parent and one being the bad parent.
Also make sure you really pick your fights with the kids, somethings are just not worth worrying about or getting stressed out about, you need to be firm with them but it's important at the moment to not stress about the little things.
Check out www.supernanny.com as well she has some great tips and advice on kids and there is a section on each age group which could be helpful.
Hang in there and stay calm, also talk to your doctor about when they can induce you to get your little boy out here safe a sound, I was induced at 37 weeks with my son due to high blood pressure, there is no point making you go full term if your not well, good luck :)

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Suzi - posted on 11/24/2010

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Thank you , i've involved jess every step of the way throughout the pregnancy and she has been to all scans and appointments , we have also got a pram the same as ours, a high chair, baby boy bottles ect so she can play mummy along side me, we have had her make a scrap book of how her brother is growing and put ideas of what she would like to do with him and what she would liike to call him , we also sit with her and give her chance to talk about how she is feeling, and anything she might be worried about.

I think its just her age to be honest i'm hoping she grows out of it , she does know how to behave and can be a really lovely nice little girl but she gets these moods and this attitude i just cant cope with ! thanks for the advise tho :) x x x

Dora - posted on 11/24/2010

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CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Did your daughter start misbehaving after realize you were having another baby. If this is the case, try to sit down with her and talk to her. Ask her what she is feeling. Even though she is only 5yrs old it is amazing what they come out with. Also choose your battles. If she is giving you a hard time say with getting dressed in the morning, then give her a choice between to outfits and tell her it is up to her to choose. If giving her a choice seems to help then continue with other things. She maybe just looking for some attention. Also let her be involved by helping out around the house. That might help make her feel important, kids are funny that way. The little things you do can make a difference in the way she acts and can make life a bit easier. Try different things and see what works. Good luck.

Casey - posted on 11/24/2010

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This might weird but someone told me that playing with your nipples can help start contractions (I have never tried it but if I got deperate I would) I tried walking, raspberry leaf tea and hot baths good luck :)

Suzi - posted on 11/23/2010

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im 35 weeks now, how can i start myself off, ive tried things like pineapple, curry, sex, walking etc is there somethin more likely to walk x x

Jamie - posted on 11/23/2010

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HI there, I feel your pain. I am 32 weeks pregnant, already 2 centimeters dialated, on light bed rest and have a 2 1/2 year old who is potty training. It is crazy in my house. Starting dec I am going to try to get this baby out myself, I am going to take myself off bed rest and just do what ever I can. I need this baby out in December. You can try to start your own labor if the dr. wont induce you! I wish you luck. I have no advice with what to do with your 5 yearold, I need my own advice,lol

ANNE - posted on 11/22/2010

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I ve two teen agers who want everything there own way quarrel at every thing that passes six months pregnant with BP and my mother was involved in an accident plus an uncooperative husband who makes everything unbearable but above all this things I ve been able to bring my BP down as I have refused to let any thing come between me and the person who really needs me now my unborn child plus prayer is a contributing factor as I know God takes care of everything else please take into account that your child might just need your attention thus the behaviour otherwise nothing to put you in a twister about

Suzi - posted on 11/20/2010

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thank you i'll definatly try those things, i'm hoping they'll induce me at 36 weeks but i dont think it will happen unfortunatly thanks for your advice x x

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