To Buy or Not to buy

Rebecca - posted on 04/24/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )




My son will be 2 when I have this baby..... I kept everything from having him but i feel guilty because this baby isnt really gonna have anything of its own. And money is tight enough that I know I shouldnt go out and buy new stuff or more stuff but I just want it to be fair. Any comments welcome....


Sarah - posted on 06/03/2012




I have 2 girls already (4 and 2) and I'm due in 5 wks with our 3rd. The only things I ever bought after the first one was a teddy bear and there own little blanket. Every thing else was used again and will be this time also. What's the point in wasting money buying new stuff if you don't need to. You may as well put the money away and use it when they need something buying.

Kaitlin - posted on 05/31/2012




We have two, almost three boys now. All the stuff is the same. Money is tight here too. Don't worry, they don't need to have new cribs/pack in plays/toys/clothes to be special! They're brand new, and the stuff they use can go through several kids and still be like new because babies go through stuff so fast.
I allowed myself to buy one 'coming home' outfit special for them (okay, I actually got two for each- a newborn size and a 1-3 month size, because my kids run large). It doesn't have to be 'new' to be special. Check out tag sales/consignment shops/craigslist if you need something or want something in particular. Also, spend a few dollars and get him/her a baby book- that will be uniquely theirs and yours forever! Hope it helps!

Laurel - posted on 05/27/2012




I also kept everything from my first, who will be about 20 months when I have this next one. Instead of going all-out like we did for the first and putting a dent in our budget, I am going to try spending as little as I can. I don't feel guilty because the baby won't know a difference! Half the things we bought for our first we didn't actually need or even use. Maybe instead, you can get a few small things that are sentimental, like a special blankie for the baby to call their own. We plan on putting away the money we save for a college fund - now that is money well spent; actually something that will make a difference that the baby can remember!


View replies by

[deleted account]

Now you got me thinking, I'm about to go through my daughters stuff, (she's 2) and take out all the onesies she grew out of before she wore them, all the little socks, and all the little hats and the blankies, (they are mostly green yellow and white or have bears or stars on them..) Since we didn't know what we were having, people went bananas and gave us little boy stuff and little girl stuff.. I'm just gonna go shopping at home for this baby!

Only thing I will spend money one is a double stroller.. just gotta have it.. My runners stroller I have with my daughter saved me a lot of days of carrying around baby gear to and fro...and I hit it, I like to go so I need equipment that will GO with me...

[deleted account]

HA! When money is tight, we have to change our thinking..Your son is only 2, so the gently used things the new baby will be using, won't be all that old or worn out. So what if it's not new? And you will have some new things, especially if you have a baby shower. But all kids don't have to be Big Money Babies just because they are born. We all go a bit overboard with out first one anyways.. As long as the baby has food, shelter, love, stuff will come and go. Don't feel guilty...

Lacieann - posted on 06/05/2012




Don't worry about getting new things. but if you do want something special for the next one go to a thrift store and get something that's "new to you" that way it's inexpensive and meant just for baby number two.

Erin - posted on 04/29/2012




I really don't think your baby will mind! It's setting yourself up for some pretty unreasonable expectations that everything will always be 'fair' or exactly the same. I kind of see baby stuff as stuff that gets used for a short time rather than owned by either of my children. The most special things as I am sorting out the baby gear for my new babies is what I remember both my older kids using.

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms