to much time alone.......

Lindsay - posted on 06/20/2010

i also rely alot on my family! i dont like to but i have to.. i dont and wont rely much on his mom.. she doesnt really want anything to do with the baby.. but the rest of his dads family does so they are alot of help... i spend so much time alone cuz he works 4 days outta the week and sleeps alota the time he has off.. its just hard especially with the baby coming in like three weeks..so i know how u feel i get soooo bored lol and i like u spend alota time on facebook.. if u need anyone to talk to im here lol u can always add me lol!

Samantha - posted on 06/20/2010

i feel the same way. my fiancé is gone for about 16 hours out of the day with one or two days off a week, (and even on the days off, there is still housework to get done). i live with my in-laws and spend much of my time cooped up in my room. a lot of the times i will let the baby listen to music with me, read him stories, (i'm crazy, i know, but i get so gosh darn bored)!, and i am on Facebook a lot. my friends left when they found out, and now i only have a couple that i still even talk to. i rely a lot on my family

Lindsay - posted on 06/11/2010

that would be nice.. we are trying but are focusing on paying for the lil ones circumsision coming up here.. and then we are aiming to get our own place as soon as possible. itll be so nice and it does feel great when we finally do have time.. i cant wait hes an amazing guy and trying to do the best he can for me and his soon to be lil boy :D its really nice to have someone to talk to that knows how i feel about the whole situation.

Lauren - posted on 06/11/2010

It is soooo gratifying when you can finally move out haha I remember as soon as we moved out it was great and really the distance does make things stronger because we have been married and living together for almost a year and it is still the most amazing thing to go home every night to my husband and see him and well now our little boy here soon. The waiting and loneliness will be worth it because then you will never take time with him for granted!! At least that is how I felt as soon as we finally moved into our own place.....haha it is also nice to get that distance from our parents and be independent.

Sierra - posted on 06/10/2010

i know how you feel. I'm a SAHM right now. I'm only 23 1/2 weeks and my fiance works almost 80 hours a week. But i also have 2 other children to chase around the house. I dont have many friends either. Most of them have walked out of my life. Please dont take this the wrong way but you can email me if you need someone to talk to. I'm usually always at home with the kids anyways.

Lindsay - posted on 06/10/2010

yeah thats true.. and yeah mine does that to lol its so frustrating.. itll be awhile before we can move out and this whole not seeing each other thing is really affecting me..

Lauren - posted on 06/09/2010

My MIL is equally as nuts haha she doesn't think the baby is someone elses, but she creates drama all the time and picks fights! Well hopefully she will come around when the baby comes or at least you can distance yourself once you move out!

Lindsay - posted on 06/08/2010

yeah i know exactly what u mean about the whole MIL thing she doesnt think the baby is his and we all know for a fact that it is.. she just isnt supportive at all so it is difficult. my parents..(well mostly my mom) are very supportive my step dad isnt so much.. he just makes it very difficult also.. but yes i do go crazy! his mom is totally nuts i try and deal with her but OMG its so hard lol.... we are aiming to get the baby here and everything settled while we try to get the money to move into our own apartment...

Lauren - posted on 06/08/2010

I would go nuts if we were living with our parents!!! Esp my in laws they are nuts haha! Of course it depends on if you like the moms.......I think I would go nuts if I lived with either moms after the baby was born esp my MIL! Hopefully you will be able to move out soon!!

PETA - posted on 06/08/2010

Try finding a mother centre, other mum's to be go there also. This will be good after you have bub too. Let people on here know where you are living, to try and find a group, or start one for yourself.
Good luck, i don't think i can help, i live in NSW Australia

Lindsay - posted on 06/08/2010

yeah i look forward to my little one quite abit! i also think about my fiance all the time.. they are what keep me going and motivated.. im 35 weeks and the baby is gonna be the thing that keeps me busy when he gets here! till then its pretty lonely.. so i do know how u feel.. although i do get to see my fiance more often then u have ur husband around.. my parents and his mom (we both live with our parents right now not enough money to move out) make it very difficult for us to see each other when he does have time off...

Lauren - posted on 06/06/2010

I feel the same way because like none of my friends have kids or are even married!! I have almost no friends right now besides my husband and it sucks it is really depressing when nobody wants to hang out with you because you are pregnant and I am in the same situation my husband is gone for 3 weeks and I am just so depressed because now I have nobody around since we just moved to the state and my family lives 5 hours away. I just keep looking forward to the baby since then I will always have a little one around to love unconditionally that is what mainly keeps me going right now!

Lindsay - posted on 06/06/2010

im on wic already i did that as soon as i could cuz right now im with my parents and they cover most of the food and with me being pregnant it started to cost alil more and i didnt want to put it all on them.. it does get lonely and it sucks.. i have a few friends but most of them moms themselves or are going to be and have very busy lives themselves so time with them doesnt happen much. itll be nice when the baby gets here so it will take up alot of my time... itll be nice to have someone to talk to.. anyone in the similar situation can feel free to talk to me i could use the company.. lol

Joanna - posted on 06/05/2010

Yeah I qualified for WIC too because I wasn't married, but once my husband and I got married (my daughter was 1 when we got married) we no longer qualified. But it was a lifesafer... cheap foods (peanut butter, cereal, milk, etc) during pregnancy, and good stuff afterwards if you're breastfeeding, and formula if you aren't (I got 9 cans of formula free a month, that was $127 worth of savings!)

Jane - posted on 06/05/2010

look into the library or even online for Stay at Home Mom groups (SAHM). or the local WIC office has some groups. you should sign up for WIC, it's very helpful. you can most likely qualify for food stamps, too. (take whatever helping hand that you can. "single" moms, even though your guy is in the picture, use your single mom status to get some benefits. things add up quickly.)

Joanna - posted on 06/05/2010

I felt like this too, I was laid off when I was 32 weeks pregnant, and my husband worked long hours so I only got to see him for about 2 hours a day. Lost all my friends when I got pregnant, so it was just me. I watched a lot of movies, and luckily my nesting kept me busy cleaning our condo, but what kept me sane was finding an online forum and meeting other women in my shoes... I was in a great group on myspace for babies due in September 2007 and we all bonded, so that helped. Hopefully you can find the same, maybe even utilize Circle of Moms and make some friends :)

Also maybe take up a hobby... Scrapbooking, sewing, and cooking/baking are my favorites! And if you do your research, like with baking, you can find cheap ingredients and make delicious meals and in the end have fun AND save money!