Carmelina - posted on 07/17/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )
I am a first grade teacher and have three children in the ages of 12 (son), 10 and 7 (daughters) respectively. My husband and I love children, BUT we suspect that people have the misconception that, just because I am a teacher/mother who loves children, I will not mind having their children spending time with us whenever they want to be kids-free. Due to our limited budget (like everyone else), we can't be going out as frequently as we would like to. My husband and I would also like to go out on dates more often, but recently have found that our "friends" are not willing to reciprocate our courtesy of having our kids over.
In my opinion, families could help each other out by taking turns for babysitting. The same principle may be applied to single/divorced moms! I know they work hard too (I am the child of a divorced mother), but they have to understand that ALL parents need their alone time, couple time, unwinding time, etc.
Yes, I have three wonderful children and an amazing husband! My profession is very dear and special to me because helping children is one of my purposes in life. Still, don't expect me to care for your children whenever you are neglecting to spend time with them! Here's an example: people from different family compositions have asked us to take care of their children (single moms, divorced parents, parents with one child, and parents who have grandparents to help around). We don't have a problem with that! Nevertheless, don't ask us: when this is your weekend to spend with your child, multiple times within the same week just to have your girls' night out, or simply because you forgot to call your parents to ask.
We moved here from another country and don't have family nearby to help us out with child care. We appreciate your kind words and admiration for our stable marriage and loving family! You also need to see that we are ALWAYS surrounded with our kids and, believe me, we need a break too! Just put yourselves in our shoes and be more compassionate and understanding of our needs. We absolutely love children, though please understand that three is enough when you're as devoted to them as we are.