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Attached to my hair?

Bridget - posted on 03/07/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )

My son is 19 months old and ever since he was born he has loved my hair. He would always run it through his fingers and hold onto it while going to sleep or cuddling. Now he is not able to fall asleep without holding my hair. He can fall asleep in the car without me and can fall asleep with a few other people but with me he has to have my hair otherwise he refuses to go to sleep. Now that he's older it's hurting more. He's yanking and twisting. It gives me headaches so do you have any idea how I could get him weaned off my hair????

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Elizabeth Taylor - posted on 08/30/2012

My kids both have fedishes with me!!!! My 3 year old son has a fedish with my underarms and My 7 month old daughter has a fedish with my hair they both have to have them to go to sleep with!!! It becomes very fustrating at times! I try to supsitute things like for my son I gave him a lots of different things to sleep with he has a monkey pillow,2 different dinosaurs, 2 different blankets and he even has a baby to sleep with he has acuirred all these things to sleep with over the years, my daugher has a blanket thats really soft that i put in her hand to try and subsitute it for my hair and she has a bear and a really soft baby these things don't always work and even at times when they have them they still have to have me!!! I think in time they will get older and not need these things at all but right now my underarm and my hair are my kids security blankets and I'm just going to try to enjoy the bonding time I have with them because it wont always last...even if that means I have to sleep with my son with his hand in my underarm and my daughter wraped in my hair than thats what I'll have to do!!!

Heather - posted on 03/08/2011

yeah, this is the downside to cosleeping. you're kind of stuck being the security blanket when the babe's falling asleep. my husband's trying to shift our baby to the crib (next to our bed) to fall asleep at night. he's had a little success with it, but irregular. i've tried this during the day before with no luck. in the meantime, i've just accepted that he needs me to fall asleep and then once he's out, he's okay on his own for awhile (i.e. long enough for a nap or for the first night round).
as for your impending double cosleeping, you might be surprised with your first child. he'll be over two by then, right? a lot of the other co-sleeping families have mentioned that their kids moved into their own beds by choice between ages 2 and 3. there seems to be a child-led push toward more independence at that point. i'll be curious to see how it develops for us as well. hang in there!

Bridget - posted on 03/08/2011

Finally someone else that's dealing with something like I am. We are expecting our next baby in September so I don't know how I could help both get to sleep. Cosleeping is wonderful but if he could fall asleep on his own would be so much better.

Heather - posted on 03/07/2011

lol. wish i could help you there. mine seems fixated on my ears. i prefer that to rubbing my face though (baby food fingers). i keep trying to introduce a stuffed animal as a cuddle replacement. it works sometimes if he's tired enough, but if he's having trouble getting to sleep, then it's back to the ears.