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I've tried to write this twice now and there are so many things I have decided to turn it into a list in the hopes it may be easier to follow..... So here goes......
*In the middle of relocation, staying with friends in much smaller space till our place ready and we are a family of 4 (my husband, myself, our 3 yr old daughter and 9month old son).
*Room working out with all in small bedroom with air mattress for 3yr, small mattress for 9m old and double bed for me and dad.
*Have had multiple moves in daughter's first 3yrs so nighttime bottles were an issue (and quite possibly our daughter's way of dealing and comforting so we allow). Only in last few days has this started to taper off and she is sleeping longer and longer with no need for bottle. HOORAY!
*But then there's......... Daddy.
-GREAT Dad but falls asleep early or doesn't get involved in ANY nighttime routine unless I go nuts.
-Will insist some nights on watching concerts, movies, sports whatever and we all know that is a HUGE distraction when trying to get kids down at night. Once they are asleep they pretty much sleep through anything.
-Was the one who INSISTED and STILL does on us having Family Bed but does NOTHING to help me some days get things (and with that I mean my children) under control and settled down for bed.
-Kids LOVE eachother and when I make the HUGE mistake of letting daughter skip nap 7:30-8:30pm is CRAZY NIGHTMARE hour and he just lays there like he's invisible and I remake bottles, get them down, wrestle them apart as they are playing etc and try to seperate so they will calm down and sleep. Like tonight when after all the chaos it took literally 3minutes and BOTH out! How is Dad you ask??? BEEN sleeping.
So, other than kill Daddy, get him a labotomy and make him Mrs. Doubtfire, Mr. Mom or run away and join a circus "How does everyone else cope with nighttime drama?"
Like I said, I LOVE them with me and yes they have no structure whatsoever currently when it comes to nighttime routine. USUALLY all I need is a quite room, a bottle for each, all their normal "snuggle bugs" and all is well. It just seems lately everything has gone crazy.... including me!!
Am I being too hard on myself? Am I truly crazy in actually thinking that all these changes aren't going to affect anyone? Routine Shoutine Ah, what do "they" know? ALOT apparently.
So, if anyone can follow my rant, I would LOVE suggestions on how to kill my husband. TOTALLY KIDDING just seeing if anyone was still there.
I would love to know if there is anything I can do to get some sleep. I have heard it is REALLY GREAT. And I WANT some. Plus I am going gray faster than I'd like due to stress of the waking, putting down, getting up every 2hours and having to battle everynight lately to get everyone to calm down for bed. I seem to be the only one who really WANTS to sleep but ends up being the one who NEVER gets it.
By the way I have tried to sleep elsewhere so I can be somewhat normal and nobody (my husband) hears them but me so I may as well stay in same room, less distance to travel in the pitch black.
Thanks for listening , I look forward to all replies.
Also, please don't tell me to put my foot down and demand help from my husband like all my friends and family say.... that doesn't always work, nor does it always help and sadly some days just doesn't apply.