Sarah - posted on 02/27/2011 ( 12 moms have responded )
My son, who turned 4 early in February, has lately been asking a lot of questions that I am really unsure of how to approach. We have, at this point been completely open and honest about everything he's come to us about, but I'm not sure how to answer his questions about "female" issues. First he simply asked what pads were, and I answered that grown-up ladies sometimes needed them. Then, of course, he asked "why?" I told him it just makes us more comfortable sometimes, but that it was private. That didn't seem to satisfy his curiosity, and he's been asking a lot more questions since then. "Why do girls have vaginas and boys have penises?" "How did the doctor get the baby out of your belly?" "How did the baby get IN your belly?" "Why don't Daddies have breasts?"
How much, in your opinion, is too much information for a 4 year old? Should I tell him about the baby-making process? Should I have my husband do it? "When a Mama and Daddy love each other very much..." isn't cutting it for him. He's asking me without prompting; could I have done something unintentionally that sparked his curiosity? Is this a sign of too-early sexualization? Could seeing me nurse his baby brother and sister have caused him to think about this type of thing too early?