potty training my almost 3 year old????? need advise PLEASE

Terra - posted on 01/13/2010

Thank you everyone for your Advice it has helped alot and i will try everything that i have read and see if one of the techniques work better
Thanks again for all of your support

Terra - posted on 01/13/2010

thanks Tracey,
we have always been close, it was just her and I for 15 months of her life until her baby brother came. my mother also has a different technique for training her than i started to could that have something to do with why she is regressing??? Madison was almost completely potty trained she only wore a pullup if we were going out for a long period of time,other than that she wore "big girl panties" im hoping she will continue where she left off and then i can have her completely trained, honestly buying diapers for 2 babies is very costly especially being a single mom.

T - posted on 01/12/2010

Terra,
Your daughter regressing with potty training may be a result of her missing being at home with you, her mommy, rather than staying away with your mom for consecutive days and having your mom training her. Experts say that when a big event occurs in a child's life, such as the birth of a sibling and leaving mom and home, it can affect a child in dramatic ways including regressing with milestones. Try bringing your daughter back to her home where she feels secure, and I bet in a week or two, she will pick up right where she left off with potty training. Best wishes and congrats with your new baby.

Talitha - posted on 01/08/2010

I had ups and downs with my almost 3 year old too. I finally left her alone and Grandma gave her new Princess panties for Christmas and she was trained in 2 days. The more I pestered and bribed the more stubborn she became. I was finally just consistent in talking about it but didn't push and she finally made the decision herself. Don't stress out about it...that makes it harder for bothe of you. Good luck! It'll happen.

Athena - posted on 01/05/2010

ok i didnt read all the posts but..my girls have done best when running FREE..lol once they get it on them they dont like it..my first it took maybe a week for full training...but i did still do pull ups at night..and i dont think pullups are good for TEACHING them ...not to...cause they feel like a diaper to them BUT once they kinda get the concept they r good for ..when u r out and about training INCASE a accident..lol they r easier up and down..
also i tried a piece of paper with stickers they get to stick for a reward...
i heard there is a 3 day potty training...technique my fried jsut did it in 3 days..!
i dont know what it is though..lol maybe this helps http://www.babycenter.com/0_potty-traini...

Brandi - posted on 01/05/2010

You may have to use reverse phych(?) meaning if your son is showing signs of potty training then you may have to get him trained 1st in order to get her retrained..They are pretty close in age(15 mo's apart?) so i would not worry about him being trained b4 her. Go right for the undies with him, dont introduce pullup's espec if your a SAHM, just devote alittle time to it and you should be fine..Dont hesitate to let other know(daycare, mom ect) of what you are doing and how you are doing it.. If they dont agree then dont lve your child with them(if you can help it)





When i 1st started training my son, and would have dr's apts or whatever i would have to take him to a drop in daycare for an hr or 2(somtimes 3)..I would take a cpl sets of clothes and a cpl diapers in his bag..BUT i would let the daycare workers know i was potty training and did not want the diapers on him at all unless he was having many accidents over and over..I also explained that he knew how to stand up to pee (so that they didnt confuse him and sit him down)..They understood and took him to "try" to pee 1 time and hr, more if he would tell them he had to go..of the 5-6 times i took him to this daycare he only had 1 accident and they told me he was trying to get to the bathrm and just couldnt hold it.



It's worth a try getting your son potty trained 1st.

Terra - posted on 01/05/2010

thanks again Brandi.. i think the only thing i can do is tell my mom in the nicest way possible to keep at it she wears good nights at bedtime when Madison does go in her pants i dont give her trouble i explain to her where she is supposed to go and i clean her up and she flushes the mess down the tiolet and she thinks the best thing of it all.... my son will be 2 in may and he is starting to show signs that hes ready he doesnt like to be dirty he will let me know when hes wet or messy and my whole thing is the faster you change them they wont get used to the feeling of being wet or messy that way they like the feeling of being dry maybe that will help the training. the only way chase will sit on the toilet is if he has a book to look at
thanks so much for the advise

Brandi - posted on 01/05/2010

If she was almost potty trained at one point she is ready to be fully trained, I got my son potty trained so i could put him in part time preschool but they wanted to put him in the young 2 class(they are in pull ups and starting to potty train) I refused that spot because i wanted him in the older 2 's class(fully potty trained) ..I had never even let him know what a pull up was and i didnt want him to see other kids using one and then him regress back to diapers...They did give him a spot in older 2 and he has been in since Aug with NO accidents what so ever..I didnt do anything fun wise because i didnt want my kids to always expect somthing for somthing they need to learn to do anyways...I never yelled at them for accidents they did in their undies, I just simply took them to the bathrm to clean them up and reminded them where they needed to pee/poop..My son never even used a small potty , I trained him right to the big potty because i wanted him to learn right away how to stand up and pee..I figured having him sit on a little potty and then making him stand at the big potty would just confuse him and poss throw him backwards.

My daughter did 1st learn on the little potty but as long as she could watch tv while sitting on it and eat her fav ice pops at the same time she was very happy to do so..lol, she was VERY VERY easy to train and i think it made it easier on my son to train with seeing his sissy doing it.

I would deff reccommend not giving in to the pull ups(except at bedtime)

Im not sure how old your son is but I introduced the small potty to my kidsright when they turned 1, Of course they never used it that young BUT when it came time to potty train they were not scared of it and every once in awhile they would come in the bathrm at random times while i was going and just sit on it like a reg chair so they could watch me and be close to me..lol..My son started showing interest in potty training at 17 mo's but i didnt really start to push it till he was about 25-26 mo's...I waited till the weather was warm enough to let him streak..lol

Terra - posted on 01/05/2010

thanks Brandi..... my daughter is one of the oldest in her daycare so i think maybe that has something to do with it but she was almost completely potty trained just after her 2nd birthday and she went to stay with my mom for a week a couple months after i had my son and it all went to crap when she came back home.... i have tried the "big girl" undies thing and it was working but now she got used to pull ups and i cant get her away from them now i even went out and got a potty cover for the "big toilet" because Madison would not use her beginner potty anymore she said she wants to be a big girl. i have even let her run the house with no bottoms on and she was letting me know about every hour that she has to go but now it has completely stopped and my mom wont do anything about it she claims Madison isnt ready to be potty trained yet and shes not pushing the aspect but i want her to be potty trained before she goes into school with no accidents..it makes it harder to potty train my son as well when he sees his big sister still in diapers because he wants to be just like her and i think the longer it takes me to potty train her it will take me twice as long to train him.. i will try talking to her again and see how it goes... is there anything you did to make potty time fun???
thanks for the advise!!!!!

Brandi - posted on 01/05/2010

What worked for me was undies, I never did pull ups or anything of that sort, but then again my kids werent in daycare either so that could be a task for them..lol..My son will be 3 in Feb and he's been trained since he was 27 mo's old..I would let him run naked at home at 1st, then i introduced undies to him and told him he couldnt pee or poo in them..I just could not bring myself to put pullup's on him when i was trying to get him out of diapers...Did the same thing for my daughter and she was trained at 25 mo's..I guess my best advice is to put her in undies and let her feel what she is doing and hope that she dont like the feeling...dont yell at her when she does do somthing in her undies, just take her to the bathrm right away and explain she has to do whatever in the potty, if she poops put the poo in the potty and let her flush the potty herself, it will make her feel like a big girl..My son LOVES to be able to flush the potty himself..I do still have to wipe his butt for him but i do not dare to flush the potty for him:))



Also Is it poss that your mom wasnt helping her with her potty training at her house?



When i was potty training my 2 kids and my Mohter in law wanted to keep them i would tell her i was starting potty training and if she wasnt up to helping me keep up with it then she couldnt keep the kids, of course i asked her in a nice way but i didnt want either of them thinking they could do it here but not at their grandmothers house KWIM?



maybe explain to your mom the routine you have with your daughter as far as potty training goes at home and ask her to keep the routine at her house...some kids dont do well with change or whatever.



Good luck