how do you stop an 18month old from throwing fits in the store?

Kimberly - posted on 08/31/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )

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Maddie(18 months) wont sit in the cart for anything and its hard to go to the store with her? Any advice besides going at night when dad can watch her, because I work?

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Tina - posted on 09/08/2009

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Quoting kim:

thanks for alll the help, though i do try all of those things, she just wont sit in the cart for anything and i have to end either carring her or holding her hand in the store which she doesnt do it well either,she is very strong willed!!!!


I had the same problem, no matter what I gave my daughter to eat/play/distract her with it just didn't work, One day, when I was at that point of either crying or screaming,  I just put my iPod on (on a very low volume) and did the shop happily chatting away to her, completly ignoring her screams and the sideway glances from everyone else. I hate non mummies looking at you like you're beating your child up!! Anyway, by the time I was at the till my little one was chatting back to me. Since then we haven't had a problem and now she helps me by holding a made up shopping list and walking next to me quite happily.



 



Stay strong, however you overcome this issue you'll get there sooner than you think.

Trudy - posted on 09/07/2009

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If you fight with her or tell her off it will only make it worse because she will learn she gets an audience with that behaviour. Try taking her to the shops in a pram, then sit her in a trolley with a favorite treat but make you visit short initially until she has gotten out of the behaviour cycle. Honest it works eventually but you have to be patient it may take a few visits.

Michelle - posted on 09/05/2009

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The key to most difficult behaviors is to make the child do the behavior for a very short time and then reward the child and then increase the length of time. My advice for the shopping cart is to put your sweet girl in the shopping cart and stroll around the parking lot or up to the door of the store and then right back to your car then reward her. Tell her, "you did so good sitting" Get her used to your small short requirements. Then drive home and the next day do the same thing. If she throws a fit you can handle her and won't feel embarrassed or the stress of having people stare at you in the store. Once she is handling your short stroll around the parking lot or up the the store front and back, then the next day simply go in the store with her in the cart buy one item and quickly go through the checkout and reward her. Increase the amount of things you buy/time in the cart, with each trip, always rewarding her when she is showing you appropriate behavior. Ways to reward her: treats, hugs, sing a song, tickle her, give her a toy. Be careful about not exspecting too much from her too quickly. Work her up to the task. I have a 3 yr. old and an 18mo. old and have to do all of my grocery shopping with both of them. I always shop at walmart and we always smell the flowers in the flower section and always go see the fish in the fish tanks in the pet dep. and I always let them push a few buttons to hear a song in the CD aisle. I can shop for about 45 min. with both of them before meltdown occures. It is better to have several short successful trips to the store rather than 1 long embarrassing trip. My method takes a little longer on the front end but is a very kind and gentle way of helping her learn how to sit in the shopping cart. If she can watch a 30 video she can sit in a shopping cart for 30 min while mom goes shopping. Keep an eye on your watch because a 1 hr. shopping trip goes quicker than you might think. I'll be praying for your sweet girl and for your patience through this process. You can do it!!!

Theresa - posted on 09/05/2009

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I have had a similar problem. I have found that bribery works great. She is good until the last half of the trip. I pull out a sucker for her. It is the only time she gets candy and it keeps her happy. Only thing to remember is to bring some wipes because they are likely to be sticky. I started this when you could hear her screaming across the super walmart...all i can say is that it is tough being 1! Good luck!

Cassie - posted on 09/05/2009

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What I do is when Ronnie start throwing a fit, I hold up his arm, feel his ribs and ask them what they are. When he can't tell me (which is always!) I start to count them. This always ends up in a gigglefest. Alternately, you could go to the dollar store or something, and get her a "special" toy. When you walk in the store, show her the toy and say she can have it if she is a good girl at the store. Every time she starts acting up, whip out the toy and remind her that this isn't how good girls act.

Elsa - posted on 09/04/2009

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my baby doesn't like sitting in carts either. so recently we started letting her walk on her own.. to my surprise, she doesn't "grab" everything she sees.. she just walk along side us.. if she see things she likes or things I actually need.. i'll tell her either "okay.. you can put this in the cart", or "no.. not this time.." she loves helping us... good luck!

Kimberly - posted on 09/03/2009

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thanks for alll the help, though i do try all of those things, she just wont sit in the cart for anything and i have to end either carring her or holding her hand in the store which she doesnt do it well either,she is very strong willed!!!!

Monica - posted on 09/02/2009

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When I take my daughter to Super Target, I stop and get her munchies along the way (they have fruit samples in the produce department, I can get her a cookie in the bakery, etc). On Saturday, I try to go when they have the people at the end of the isles giving samples. It keeps her occupied....

Jessica - posted on 09/01/2009

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i agree with everyone else i always try to wait till after naptime and make sure my lil one is full and take a toy in my purse or treats and a drink. if i can talk to him, being silly or not, and he laughs i try to keep him laughing... i figure laughin evenly loudly i so much better then crying. When people give me weird looks cuz i'm being weird i don't even care cuz at least my kid is happy. :)

Deidre - posted on 09/01/2009

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I agree with Elizabeth 100%. I absolutly hate going with my boys. I've got 3 and it's so embarassing:( For me it just so happens to be nap time for Ethan but for my 3 yr old he is always hungry so the snack thing always works for him...We don't have a car so I've got to trek them on the bus too.Mostof the time I do wait for their dad when he takes them on SAT's.

Beth - posted on 09/01/2009

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Ya i agree fed them b-4 u go then give them animal crackers or something to keep them busy!! I also talk alot and pretend to get excited over things we pass in the store...ya the work we go threw ha ha

Christin - posted on 08/31/2009

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I give my son something to keep him occupied, my keys do the trick with him, but a favorite toy or even a snack. I always find its easier if I feed him before I go also.

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