How to deal with a two year old constantly saying "no" and "mine"?

Sarah - posted on 03/09/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My daughter just turned two a few weeks ago and she's been constantly telling me "no". That's her answer to everything. And she thinks everything is her's. It doesn't matter if the item is her's or not AND it doesn't matter if we are at home or in public. She'll yell "mine". And it seems the more I try to correct her the worse she gets. Any advice? We did recently move and she has gotten out of routine from daycare.......now at home with Mom all day every day. But something has got to be done. Thanks!

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Desiree - posted on 03/22/2010

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My daughter also says "mine" to everything. I don't get no so much, but she is very demanding right now. I just correct her calmly and also agree when it is hers. I've discovered that she really does it when she likes something. Mine does not equal i own this and it belongs to me. It more is this is really cool and i like it. It is funny how we are all so different and yet for the most part we hit the same milestones.

Sarah - posted on 03/20/2010

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Thanks for the reply! And it's so good to hear this is only a learning phase. Let's just see how long it lasts....

Christina - posted on 03/16/2010

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My daughter does the exact same thing. My pediatrician gave me some literature at her 2 year well-check that said it's actually a learning phase. It said that it may be hard to tolerate, but that all children go through it and it's really not something that you can scold them for. I just politely tell my daughter that not everything is her's and if she says "No" then I make sure she understands the consequence. The "No" phase stopped relatively quickly when she started to understand that answering "No" to "Do you want a cookie?" meant she wouldn't get a cookie. She cried each time and then learned that "No" wasn't always good. :)



She still does the "Mine" every once in a while, but it gets more and more rare now that she's learning that's not true. If something is hers I tell her "Yes, it is your..." and if it's not hers I say "No, the ... belongs to Mommy, but you can use it if you would like." Again, this took about a month or two for her to grasp, but now she only does the "Mine!" when she knows that it is, indeed, hers.

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