I have custody of a little boy who will be 3 on the 28th of this month

TIFFANY - posted on 02/12/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )

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He will not mind gets into everything and doesn't care what punishment you give him. Is it normal for a child to be this defiant?

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Ashley - posted on 02/25/2010

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u need to remember that small children have not developed there cortex the part of brain u use for reasoning if i do this this is what happens think about them sometimes of being like gold fish remind them constantly, thats why u give the warnings before u give them punishments so if they do the deed right after u told them no u no its because there being defiant also try to give him three choices they feel like there in control even though your still getting him to do what u want. Good luck i think its great that your taking care of him and care so much but its going to be hard for awhile untill he start understanding better. And by no meens do i think children are not smart there in fact brilliant to the point that they drive us freeken crazy lol they understand a lot they just havent figuered out consequences yet.

Beth - posted on 02/18/2010

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Very normal just give it time. Just stick with time outs and show him lots of love. Good luck!!!!

Erin - posted on 02/18/2010

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Hi Tiffany,
How about talking to the childs doctor? Usually they can put you in touch with several good resources in your community that could help this little guy. I think an inpatient treatment seems way overboard to me- alot of kids have issues like his at his age, and they grow out of it. Kudos to you for taking responsibility for him and trying to get him some help- hang in there!

Sue - posted on 02/14/2010

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that so weird i have custody of my nephew and he'll be 3 on feb 28 and yea totally normal 3 years are stubborn now u got to see who more stubborn

Shannon - posted on 02/12/2010

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how about a birth to 3 program they usaully can give u other resourses to go to or maybe a a parenting class sometimes r offered free at libraries. im sorry i would like to help i just dont know exactly how.

TIFFANY - posted on 02/12/2010

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I am sure he does but the 4 year old is just mouthy and wants to argue and the other one is just a total terror.

TIFFANY - posted on 02/12/2010

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I have tried to get him to dr since I got him and no one wanted to see a child under 5 the only other option I have is inpatient help in a hospital because he is a danger to himself and others

Shannon - posted on 02/12/2010

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no im not saying that he has ADHD just maybe they have other ideas to help u and him through this

Shannon - posted on 02/12/2010

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idk have u ever considered talking to a psychologist? when we found out that my 4 yr old has ADHD thats what we were recomended to do and it did help.

TIFFANY - posted on 02/12/2010

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I have tried one on one time with him and when I show kindness and praise him for being good within a few hours he does what he isn't suppose to. i praised him the other day for not wetting his pants in over a week so an hour later he wet his pants. I can't win with this child I think he needs a lot more help than I can give

Shannon - posted on 02/12/2010

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he probly justs wants ur attention and wants to see what he can do or what will push ur buttons just keep on with the same punishment if its time out totally ignore him til its time to get him out. my 4 yr old loves to get in trouble it seems just to get attention which i understand cause shes got a brother and a sister that r twins and demand a lot of our attention so we have to set aside one on one time with her usually b4 bed we read a story play board games or color.

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