It is a fight to get my son to do everything.

Carla - posted on 04/10/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My three year old fights me about everything. He is a very smart little boy. It is just very frustrating when it is a fight to get him to do anything. I am looking for any suggestions.

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Schyla - posted on 04/17/2011

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Be consistent and persistent and at three it's all about Consequences for actions when My three year old digs her heals in for instance she asks me for a drink of water and I poor it in a yellow cup and she decides she wants a pink cup I set the yellow cup on the counter and inform her that she can have the water in the cup I gave her or she can do it herself. When she doesn't want to wear what I pick out I have her go pick her own clothes. When she won't help pick up her toys the toys go away when she is dragging her feet I pick her up and take her to the car If you don't be consistent now and stick to it your gonna have your hands full down the road. It's your job as his parent to teach him that every choice he makes rather big or small has a consequence.

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Sherrie - posted on 06/04/2011

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Have you tried a "time out chair"? MY daughter is only 21/2 but the same! But she hits me ,scratches me and pulls my hair, when she doesn't get her way, or i'm on the phone, my doc.(Ped.) suggested a" naughty chair" or "Time out" chair for 2 mins.I haven't tried it yet, she just told me today but when we have very strong willed or headstrong kids it's so very hard ,i know!UGHHH so youre not alone, hun.Hang in there and i hope this helps.Take care, Sherrie

Amber - posted on 05/23/2011

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I learned something that works for me. Granted, my three year old is a stubborn little thing, but MOST of the time it works. I will think of two ways to say the same thing, and then let him choose. For example, "Do you want to sit on your red chair to eat your peas, or do you want to sit at the little picnic table to eat your peas". Then, he feels empowered to make a decision, and I don't have a fight on my hands. It doesn't always work, but a lot of the time it does. Hope this helps. :)

Carla - posted on 04/28/2011

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Thanks for all of the advice. For some reason here lately he is a lot better. I think it is the calm before the storm hits again! LOL!

Schyla - posted on 04/28/2011

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Your right not having anything to do will make it worse My two get this way when they aren't doing enough and with Gas so High and our Tiny house and icky weather it's hard to get them active enough. Three is SUCH a fun age (i've been there and I'm doing it again and I'll have to do it again in a few years as well) Just keep doing what your doing and have faith it dose get better! but the brat monster will rear it's ugly head about every 6 months till he turns 13 and then he'll stick around till he's about 22!

Carla - posted on 04/18/2011

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Schyla thank you for the suggestions. I am very consistant. It is just aggrivating that everything ( get dressed, taking a bath, getting in and out of the car, going to bed, eating when he is suppost to, even playing with him is a fight because he wants to be incharge) is a fight. I take his toys away when he doesn't pick them up, But eventually he won't have anything in his room to take away. I just think having no toys at all to play with will just make things worse and make him act out when he really isn't a bad kid. It is just that he doesn't want to cooperate.

Ashley - posted on 04/17/2011

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I have no suggestions im soooo there over everything, im just hoping it pases and quickly because im loosing it.

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