teaching a three year old she is a girl

Deidre - posted on 03/05/2012

Even though I am raising 3 boys, i still feel strongly about this topic. I believe it is our job to make sure our child grows to be a well rounded and adjusted human being.

Boys who play with dolls are healthy human beings. They are learning to be gentle, kind and caring. This comes in handy when interacting with humans as well as animals.

Girls who play with trucks, sports, or super hero action figures learn to interact with all sorts of human beings, regardless of gender. As for playing dress up and role playing games that can actually be fun and entertaining. For now in the privacy of your own home I say anything goes! :) So she is 4 and is verbalizing that she is a BOY?



What is her definition of a boy? She may be just exercising her right to control her life. At this age it is normal to push the boundaries of independence. She may have enjoyed your "Reaction" to the whole thing. LOL She may have noticed that could be an AWESOME button to push LOL :)

Roberta - posted on 09/02/2011

I would have to ask where she's getting it from. Ask her why she's a boy...or what makes her a boy. Perhaps she doesn't see many girls and this is her attempt to fit in or maybe she's trying to get more attention from dad. No matter what you say or tell her...she's old enough to make her own decisions- even if it means she's a boy. But then again it isn't so bad. My daughter is VERY girly when it comes to looks and clothes she chooses- but for toys there are only boy things. Dinosaurs, cars, guns...I was a little upset at first because when I was young my dad really wanted a boy and after 6 tries they finally gave up. BUT in order to make up for his loss, he decided that I was going to be the boy he always wanted. Growing up I only got boys clothes, boys toys, played baseball, and got called a boys name (my name is Roberta but dad's name was Robert...so he just called me JR)

SO when I saw my daughter choosing the boy stuff I was distressed to say the least. But after a heart to heart with hubby- I decided that I wouldn't do the same thing my father did to me...I would let her decide what she was by herself. So I'm happy that she does pick girly clothes but I'm not concerned that she wants to play with boy toys either.

Sally - posted on 08/09/2011

hi corrina, my little girl was like that too. i changed her nursery where her playmates are mostly girls, got her watching girly princess cartoons, wear dresses and other girl stuff. now she knows she's a girl and behave as such.

Corrina - posted on 06/04/2011

when asked she says she is a boy when i tell her she is a girl she says no she is a boy but then i tell her she is a girl like mummy and eventually she says she is a girl she plas with cars trains etc but she also plays with dolls etc

Sherrie - posted on 06/04/2011

Corrina i saw this documentary about gender types and there was a little boy who was in all respects a girl.I would check it out it's called Our America by Lisa Ling.I would not worry now hun, she is still so very young watch her and see what developes, she just maybe a tomboy, my daughter is,because she has all boy cousins about her age and 1 girl cousin and they are rough.She is tough and playes with cars and all their toys but prefers her Dora stuff and Girlie clothes.What symptoms of "being a boy" is she exhibiting?Just curious.Good luck sweetie and i would NOT worry they all go through a bit of gender questioning i think.take care and keep me posted.Hope this helped!Sher