Sarah - posted on 03/27/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )
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I'm a young mother and I'm trying to make the best decisions. How do I know when I'm spending too much time away from my child? I miss her all of the time and I have six classes five days a week. I see her more than if I worked full time but I'm worried it's still not enough. Am I just being paranoid or will it effect her negatively?
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Sarah - posted on 04/18/2010
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I know that you posted this message forever ago! I am in a similar boat as you. I am a full time student with 15 hours of college credit, work a part-time job, and am a single mom of a 26 month old boy. I have found that when I am feeling guilty about the time spent away from him, it helps to concentrate on the big picture. I am going to school to provide a life for him!! I imagine that is also your intention. The other thing that helps is to compartmentalize my life. When I am at work, I am a worker. When I am at school, I am a student. When I am with my little boy, I am a mother. I try and make the time I spend with him really count. I take him to the park, play in the sand box and do other things to build a strong relationship with him. I do not do any studying until after he goes to bed, then I can turn into a student again.
Sorry it took so long for me to see this. I hope that whatever guilt you were having a month ago has subsided.
Lea - posted on 03/28/2010
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you just have to keep telling your self that its for a better future for your child. I was working full time and had a very hard time being away from my daughter i recently quit my job and am going back to school in july so i know how your feeling. the fact that you are worried about it just means your a good mommy.
Donna - posted on 03/28/2010
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Hi Sarah, I can sypathise with you, I too am a student, my class is in the evening but I have to be at a work placement 3 days a week. I also run a parent and toddler group one day a week. I am very lucky in that the person who looks after my daughter is also a parent herself, so she understands when my child is anxious or upset. I make sure that when I am with my daughter the time we spend together is all hers with no distractions.
I dont think you are being paranoid, just a very good parent who is trying to do her best and so long as your daughter is happy and knows she is loved then no I cannot see how your situation will affect her in a negative way, you are after all setting her a good example by improving yourself to improve your future. I wish you the very best of luck.
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