Stephanie - posted on 03/25/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )
Let me start off by saying that my daughter has been a GREAT sleeper since she was about 2.5 months old she started sleeping through the night. She started off sleeping in a bassinet and then after she started sleeping through the night more often, she slept in her own room in her crib. There were times here and there where she'd have a rough patch, maybe a week or so that she didn't sleep great....but NOTHING like whats been happening lately. For almost three weeks now my lil one has been waking up DOZENS of times a night....sometimes as bad as every15-30min. At first we thought it was because she wasn't feeling well because she had a viral rash, but that rash has been long gone and she's still sleeping horribly. Then we thought it may be separation anxiety. Before the chaos broke out, we had decided to try and stop rocking her to sleep....we tried to lay her down in her crib and stand at the end of her crib until she'd fall asleep....slowly making our way closer to the door. Well it completely backfired. She hated it and my mother in law finally convinced me that it would be better to just let her cry it out without being in the room. If I was in the room with her, all she wanted me to do was pick her up. I tried for an HOUR to just keep laying her down and she'd pop right back up and cry. So, RELUCTANTLY, I let her cry it out for a nap which took 45 min., and then that night it took 30 min. I thought maybe it's working and although it was torture, that it was the right thing to do.....UNTIL, the next day I tried the same thing for her nap again and she cried for about 20 min., fell asleep for 20 min., woke up and screamed for 40 min. and vomited everywhere. I decided then that maybe this wasn't the best time to do this, maybe she wasn't ready? So that night I went to rock her to sleep like normal and decided that instead of rocking her to sleep completely, I'd just rock her until she was dosing off and then lay her down. Well, that worked well....but ever since that night she hasn't slept through the night TO SAY THE LEAST!!! Like I've said, it's been right at 3 weeks.....some nights she'll sleep really well at first, not waking up for a 3-4 hours and then other nights she'll wake up 45 min. after laying her down. Some nights when I go into her room and tell her to lay down and go "night night" , she does so with absolutely no trouble; while other nights I have spent almost 2 hours in her room trying to get her to sleep again. I'm trying my hardest NOT to rock her after laying her down the first time. I have NEVER put her in bed with us before.....but unfortunately there have been some nights where we just can't take it anymore and HAVE to get sleep somehow. I have a gut feeling that it's separation anxiety because a lot of the times when she wakes up and I'm still standing in her room, I notice the first thing she does when she wakes is IMMEDIATELY look around for me. If she doesn't see me she freaks out and screams....if she does see me she'll lay back down and close her eyes. She has also started showing signs of separation anxiety during the day....it's become harder and harder for me to get tasks done since she hates it when I leave the room without her. She used to be very social, VERY good with strangers....now she cries and cries. I've tried researching separation anxiety on the net to find ways to help alleviate her stress, but nothing seems to be helping. We have noticed, the last couple of days, that her gums are really swollen near the back (but not quite far enough back to be her molars).....so now we're wondering if teething is causing the problems and her pain is causing her anxiety??? BASICALLY....I am on here BEGGING for ANY advice/help. I am pretty much open to anything at this point!!! I'm exhausted and now I'm beginning to get sick with a soar throat and slight fever. SOMETHING has to change and soon....I'm loosing my mind :( Things weren't even this bad when she was a new born! At least then I knew I could get about 3 hours of sleep in between feedings.....now I'm LUCKY to get 2-3 hours of sleep at a time. AGAIN, if you have ANY advice please let me know!!! My poor lil girl is exhausted and has developed laryngitis because of the constant screaming :( HELP!!!!