biting me!

Ryanne - posted on 08/30/2010

Have him bit himself I know that sounds horrible, but my daughter was scratching me really hard and I made her scratch herself after and now she doesn't scratch anymore.

It is just a phase and you will get through it just hang in there and try to stay patient with him :) he needs to see your love in order to give you love.

Holly - posted on 08/28/2010

a feel a little relieved that my little one who is also 18months in about a week isn't the only who is going through a biting stage. she started biting me as a game which immediately told her off, but she then bit a kid at her day care and her teachers made a huge deal out of it implying i was doing something wrong at home i felt terrible

Andrea - posted on 08/27/2010

My daughter also bites just me and now her dad too! She only does it when she gets frustrated! I try to pull again and distract her into doing something else when she starts to look like she is going to bite me. She has landed a few too many though! I feel your pain!

Zanele - posted on 08/27/2010

i know the way u feel my doughter does da same. bitting and bitting is 2 stressful. even wen i took her 2 da park she wil bit and bite ather kids

Lu - posted on 08/26/2010

My little guy started biting his sisters whenever he would get frustrated with them. He loves those girls like crazy and keeps asking for them when they are at school. Don't take it personally, you are just the closest person to him when he gets frustrated and upset, and they don't do it to hurt anybody as much as to release their frustration. We have been telling him no and removing him from the situation. We can usually tell when the biting mood is settling, so we all stay alert when he starts getting upset. Hope he gets over that phase quickly and just watch for his mouth when he is pretty close to you :-)

Briony - posted on 08/26/2010

Oh honey! He bites only you because he knows that he can express his frustration to you and not be rejected. It's a sign that he feels safe and secure with you. Still need to stop it though! I sometimes have to pull my 18 mnth old off by his hair-he draws blood otherwise and won't release any other way.

Lisa - posted on 08/23/2010

I completly understand how your feeling. With my first, who is 7 aned still impulsivly bites, (ADHD) He would bite a lot when he was a baby, I bit him back one day and he stopped for a long time. But I get the emotional part of it. I still suffer from depression. And there are days I dont want anything to do withme kids becuse ofthe emotional hurt. You seemto be doing everythig right. Keep upwitht he councelling. If youhave a councellor that you really likeand trust keep going, It has helped me through the years. You'll have your ups and downs, But once your done feeling hurt or repressed its importnant to go and give your baby cuddles and re assure her that you still love her. I tell my kids sometimes that mommy needs a time outa nd theat its not their fault its me. My 18 mnth now bites some times, and If he does I put him down and wald away. he gets upset, but I tell himyou dont bite. I hope he learns soon. It can be so frustrating.

Alleah - posted on 08/22/2010

with anna, we use the immediately withdraw attention tactic. If she's playing, and she chomps a bit just to see if I'll play back, I fake like it hurts, and ask her to kiss it better. That's worked so well, she even kisses other children better when she hits or shoves them! If she does it more than once, I put her down, and walk right out of the room. She rarely bites again after that. The worst is when she's not even payign attention. Just cranky, and tired and snuggly, and she'll grab onto my shoulder with her teeth HARD. The first few times I flicked her chin to get her attention, now all I have to do is give a big HEY, and she stops right away.

Katie - posted on 08/21/2010

It sounds like you're on the right track, being consistent with discipline and having such great support from the dad backing you up. My son went through this too, a while back, and I can see where the emotions can take you from that. I was confused because my son only bit me, not my husband!
I honestly think that he was just trying to see what it would feel like, what it would do, if it would be appropriate. When he was smaller, his dad would pretend bite him in play, and often I see him bite his beloved teddy bear's nose, so I think he was experimenting with a form of showing endearment, trying to learn if it would work. Whenever he bit me, I told him that hurts, and put him in his naughty spot for a minute, so he learned that it wasn't appropriate. Now we're on to the hitting when he's frustrated, and now, after "releasing him" from his naughty spot, I ask him to give me a kiss on the cheek after doing something to hurt me.
It sounds like you know he's not actually trying to hurt you, and that's important. Just keep reminding yourself of that.

Michelle - posted on 08/20/2010

Ai Shame, I know how you feel. My daughter is 18 months next week, and she went through the biting phase about 3 months ago, IT REALLY HURTS, she's bitten me so hard that it left bruises. I tried lightly biting her back, but then she thinks it is a game, so I started crying (faking it) and saying eina, it hurts. That really helped, she immediately felt sorry for me and kissed it better!!! We haven't had a problem since then.
Good luck!!!!

Helen - posted on 08/20/2010

Thanks Jodi.
He's 18 months, so I 'know' it's not really malicious or any thing, and he is loving towards me the rest of the time.
He does go the lots of play groups normally - but they have all stopped over the summer (it really sucks, and I wish that at least some would continue all year).
I'm the same as you - i'm the one saying 'no' and dishing out the punishment (even if it is only ignoring him!) but his dad is good and always backs me up, refusing to give him cuddles if he's crying because he's been told off, so not totally alone, but I feel so crap when he bites me and can't see a way through ;'''''(.

Jodi-lee - posted on 08/19/2010

sounds like u need to talk and feel u arnt alone in the feelings u have. i have 5 and 3 were mild biters. wen they first started i was the one that coped it as i was the one saying no and giving the disaplin. it mad me scared and weary of them thinking they were going to bite and being on edge. they also took this to school a few times. which i dealt with asap with the school help. how old is ur baby?? sometimes our kids only do things to us mums because they are comfortable enough to, they are unsure of others reaction. also does ur bub spend time with others where he has the chance to bite others? its not personal its just ur prob easy access,lol. i too have wanted to run away and felt im the one they hate but with time it got easier. also if u jump squell yell or be bouisterous then he will bite more, think bout it that looks like fun to ba bubba. plz do not feel bad or guilty of ur feelings, u be surprised how many feel this way but u are doing what some dont and thats talk to us bout it. that is great. ive prob just rambled on but just want u to know ur not alone and keep up the help ur getting, better days will come :)x

Helen - posted on 08/16/2010

Yeah - I did the same when he was tiny and pulling hair - just not sure I want to bite him, but will give it a go if he doesn't stop

Melissa - posted on 08/15/2010

When My Daughter Had A Hair Pulling Phase I Did The Same Thing Back To Her Just Not As Hard, Nothing That Would Cause Her Pain.
Just By Telling Her Now and Showing Her That She Doesnt Like What She Was Doing To Me Made Her Stop In Less Then A Week.
Hopefully It Will Work For You!