potty training with a busy schedule

Ciera - posted on 05/27/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

Need help! ALL advice is welcome! I feel like I am so lost here! I work 2 days a week and we keep a pretty busy schedule. The twins turned 3 in February. My daughter actually started potty training at 16 months bc she just started wanting to but I was 7 months pregnant with their little sister so I didn't really push it much bc I didn't think it would last once I had the baby. I was right, once she was born, Aubree never wanted to anymore. Then, when she was 2 1/2, she just suddenly started asking to "go potty" so I would take her any time she asked. Soon, she was asking a few times a day so I started taking it more seriously and got her some "big girl panties" and we started taking her all the time. She quickly got where she would just get up and go on her own, washing her hands on her own and everything but she still NEVER pooped on the potty. I tried to take my boy a few times but he would freak out and did NOT want to go at all so I just figured when he is ready he will let me know like she did. It has been about 10 months that Aubree has been potty trained for going pee-pee on the potty, but she has still NEVER pooped so I still have to put diapers on her at night and put them on her when she has to poop during the day. (I have been told by many people to stop putting them on her during the day and if she poops n her panties she will stop doing it but she has no problem pooping in the panties. I tried t for a couple of weeks and that method never worked at all) When I talk to her about it, she tells me she is scared to poop in the potty that she just wants to poop in her diaper. I have tried everything I know to try and calm her fears of it but it just doesn't seem to be working. PLEASE help with any ideas you might have to help me out here!!! How can I get her to start pooping in the potty. If we can figure that out, she will be COMPLETELY potty trained!!! Thanks for all your ideas and help!!! (also, for my son, he is still just uninterested and I don't wanna push him but if you have ideas on how to morivate him a bit more, that would be appreciated as well! thanks!)

oh! and also, my sis in law just potty trained their cousin and said he would not poop either so one day she sat him on the potty and told him he couldn't get up until he ppoed. She said he sat there an hour and finally pooped and since then has not had a problem. She suggested I try that so I kind of did but Aubree cried the whole time so after about 10 minutes, I got her off bc she was hysterical. Maybe I just need to be more firm about it? but I just felt too bad about making her sit there when she was so upset so I didn't. I have had friends say that their kids had problems with severe constipation when they were too firm about it and I don't want that either. I know inthe long run it is probably worth it??? but hopefully there can be a solution that is not going to be so hard for her. Am I just being too much of a push-over? honestly, I can take it! :) How many of you have had good results with being a bit tougher about it?