Pregnant with a 15 month old

Nora - posted on 05/13/2010 ( 71 moms have responded )

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Anyone else on here pregnant? I'm due end of September and my daughter Ayla is almost 15mths. I 'm little nervous having a toddler and a new born baby. I just wondered if anyone else is in the same boat or maybe has any good advice/ tips that will come in handy when the new baby comes along???

Thanks : )

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Stephanie - posted on 05/23/2010

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I had my daughter almost exactly as my son turned 18 mos. It is definitely not the easiest thing and you will be WAY more tired with this one because you can't sleep every time she sleeps like with the first. If possible (financially, which it wasn't for me) I would suggest BEFORE the baby gets here putting the todd in daycare/preschool for just a few hours a day a few days a week. This way you will be able to have a few extra hours of sleep with the new baby and your toddler will be used to it before the baby gets here. If not, you can manage. Lots of coffee! The beginning, besides being tired, will be easy. My son was not at all jealous because the new baby was sleeping most of the time and really wasn't much competition. Make sure anyone coming to see the new baby greets your oldest first and pays him some special attention. Plan some "older sibling only" dates with Daddy and/or Mommy even if just an hour or two a week. They really need and enjoy this time where they don't feel like they have to compete. My oldest is turning 3 in August and he and my daughter both seem to be a lot happier when they get that time to themselves with Mommy or Daddy. Make meals now that you can freeze in portions enough for yourself and your toddler. This way all you have to do is heat it up- it will be much less stress! Just try to keep as organized as possible with Diapers and bottles. Breast feeding was the hardest- I only did it for 3 mos, and those were excruciating. Walking around with a baby attached to your boob while chasing after a 18 mo old is very difficult. The quicker you get them both on a schedule that's predictable for THEM, the better. Let the oldest help out as much as possible. Mine loved throwing the dirty diapers in the trash for me- give lots of praise for a job well done. The new baby will be very easy the first 6 mos or so. It will be the older babe that will really be aching for all of your attention as the new baby starts to babble and sit up and reach those milestones that get you parents excited. So celebrate little things with praise whenever you can. Even if it's just the older babe giving the newborn a kiss or throwing a diaper out, or trying to eat with his spoon. Make sure when the new baby starts moving that he/she doesn't invade the other's space. My son loves playing with his sister, when it's on his terms. If you don't intervene, the toddler will, and most likely aggressively. "MINE" will be a new favorite vocabulary word- so give the todd things and spaces specifically for him/her and not the new baby- this gives them a sense of control and makes them less territorial over every little thing. If there's anything I missed, sorry! There's a lot to it, but here are some basics for making life a little easier for all involved.

Audrey - posted on 05/28/2010

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Hi there. I'm also pregnant with our second child. My daughter will be 17 months old when bubs is due. I'm also a bit anxious about how my daughter will react - so I've been making a conscious effort to be around other babies and toddlers to get her used to it. Initially she wasn't very happy about it and always wanted a cuddle, but she's getting used to it now. I've also received advice from friends that have had more than one child to include the eldest in the caring of the baby as much as possible (and to the extent that they can help), eg helping out with bath time, feeding - asking whether when bubs cries she/he wants a feed - apparently they ususally say yes etc).

Hope this helps eleviate some anxiety, but every toddler's different and it will probably depend on their temprament.

Audrey

Michelle - posted on 05/22/2010

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My last two kids are 18 months apart, and I like it. I will have to say that I think it was easier having 24 months between like my other kids are, but it wasn't bad enough to have left permanent mental scars. haha In the beginning you will just be very busy trying to make the oldest feel ok about the new arrival. Make sure you have the older baby as self-sufficient as a young one can be. Decide ahead of time whether you are going to have two cribs or if you're going to transition the older earlier. Do these things well in advance of baby's arrival. Make sure you have some sort of dresser situation taken care of because it's amazing how crazy the laundry situation can get with two little ones especially if they are both girls or both boys. Seperate laundry baskets and seperate dressers worked well for us, although we sometimes put two kids in a dresser; one on the right and one on the left or one in the top two drawers and one on the bottom. It'll be fine and after a few weeks, you won't even be able to remember what life was like with just one. Plus you'll feel so energetic once you shed that tiredness that pregnancy always brings. I think it'll be easier than you think. :) Congratulations.'

By the way, my first two are 27 months apart, 2nd and 3rd are almost 24 months apart, and the 3rd and 4th are 18 months apart. :)

Mary - posted on 05/20/2010

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My older daughter was 15mths when my youngest was born (feb 6th , 2009) and it was tough the first year, having to change twice the diapers and my oldest couldnt talk that well yet, so there was alot of whinning...but now that they are 2 and 1 they have a blast together...its gotten much easier and its so much fun to watch them play together. Plus its nice to have them close, so that way you can get all the "baby" stuff out of the way fast!!!
Im sure you'll have a wonderful experience:)

Desiree - posted on 05/17/2010

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Mine are 13 months apart, and it is tough at first. But everyday gets a little easier. Especially since Leah is getting more and more independent everyday. feeding herself, playing by herself, washing her own hands after meals (with wipeys) even helping feed the new baby or getting mommy diapers for him. A big help too is having her have her own "babies" she can care for as well.

Good luck and everything will work out!

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Andrea - posted on 01/12/2011

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its tough!!!! and thats an understatement! Just try to encourage her/him to be a helper. and don't be too uptight about touching the baby. hopefully your husband can take the reigns with toddler for at least the first month or so after the new baby arrives. and don't be scared to ask for help!

Nicola - posted on 01/10/2011

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Hi, I had my 2nd little boy in September.. My eldest son was 18months when he was born.. I suggest u get into a routine with the lo and give yourself plenty of time to do tasks my lo is nearly 4months old now and iv only just properly got into a routine with them.. Get plenty of rest too xxx

Alisha - posted on 06/18/2010

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OMG! story of my life lol. im due in december and i have a 15 month old so im right there with you. its very scary to think about having two in diapers! my first two are 3 yrs apart but this pregnancy is a "surprise". im sure it will be fine, but i know how you feel, good luck and try not to worry too much.:)

Natalie - posted on 06/14/2010

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My boys are 11 months to the day apart. Irish twins they call them. This is common in my family my sister's girls are 14 mths apart. Believe it or not once you get through the initial couple months everything sort of falls into place. The biggest thing is jealousy. From who can get the the closest to me (and they will climb over each other to do so) to who gets what toy. The good thing about them being so close is that they will always have some one to play with (or fight with)

Nicole - posted on 06/02/2010

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Me too! Me too! Brennan is almost 16 months old and me & my hubs are due with baby number 2 October 30th!!!

Congrats & Good Luck to Everyone!!! How exciting!!

Shanna - posted on 06/02/2010

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i am prego and i have an almost 4 yr old and a 16 month old today!will be having a csection and breast feeding all i can say is just get organized and get into a routine. it will help in the long run! good luck n congratulations! double stroller. if your children like to come into your room and sleep get them out of it. cut any bad habbits now while you can . also get your older one involved in helping you eith the baby. they are great helpers as long as you involve them they will be happy. also give them some of your time just you and your oldest each day even if it is like 5 min. read a book. something they can look forward to and be apart of something. or get them involved in something outside the home??

Shelby - posted on 06/01/2010

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I was in the same boat when I had my daughter and was also a little nervous. I have to say my son was absolutely wonderful with the whole thing! Its surprisingly pretty easy because toddlers are so willing to help with the baby and chores. Cherish that while it last because the next step is 2 toddlers which is what I am dealing with now, and it is nerve racking! Good luck!

Conni-ann - posted on 05/31/2010

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IM IN THE SAME BOAT. AND IM ALOT NERVOUS ABOUT IT. I HAVE NO HELP,IM HAVING A C -SECTION. AND I WILL BE BREASTFEEDING, I DONT KNOW WHAT IM GONNA DO. BESIDES THAT MY BABY GIRL WANTS TO FALL ASLEEP IN MY BED FIRST BEFORE SHE GOES TO THE CRIB.

Nicole - posted on 05/29/2010

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I am pregnant and due on June 23rd. My son Andrew will be 16 months old on June 10th. I also have 3 older children with my first 2 being 14 months apart. It will be a bit of a challenge managing 2 young children but you'll find your way. I use to feed the baby sitting on the couch or floor with my older son next to me while reading him a book. I had him help me with the baby as much as I could so he didn't feel jealous or left out and when the baby was sleeping I gave him personal time.
I hope to do the same with Andrew and the baby on the way. Good luck to you!

Cristina - posted on 05/27/2010

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Yes !! I'm in the same boat as you are And I have a 6 yr old , I'm due July which my baby (toddle) will be 17 months old when my new arrival arrives which makes it really hard because my 6 yr old will be in summer vacation and I have to have a c-section , sorry i have no advice but to let you know I know how you feel !!!!!!!!

Olivia - posted on 05/27/2010

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I have a 15 month old as well as a 4 year old and im also pregnant,due in august.To be honest i'm also nervous about it,but i suppose its good to have them close together altho it will no doubt be a challange. What doesn't kill you makes u stronger.So dont worry nora u wil b fine!!

Marissa - posted on 05/26/2010

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I am in the same boat as well my daughter is 15 months and I'm due Oct. 1st I am so worried on how I'm gonna get her used to the new baby bc she is so jealous if I hold other babies she is a big mommy's girl! I really have no advise for you but your not alone out there! Good luck!

Carol - posted on 05/26/2010

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I was in the same position as you and felt very anxious also. When our second daughter came along our oldest had just turned 22 months. She was great with her baby sister however it took about seven to eight weeks for the family dynamics to get back into sinc. Our oldest would want my attention when I sat down to breast feed the baby and I think she found it a bit hard at times seeing me devote some of my time, that she usually had with me, to someone else. I did shed quite a few tears feeling guilty that I didn't have enough time for both, usually when I would be playing with the older one and the baby would wake up so I'd have to drop everything and tend to baby and the oldest would be saying Mum, Mum I want to finish playing this but I just had to tell her that I was busy with baby and would be back to play with her soon. I always involved both of them in activities that we did and gradually the older one realised that this baby was here to stay. They are the best of mates now and do everything together. It is a huge adjustment going from one baby to two, for everyone. The whole family dynamics change and it takes a good couple of months for everyone to figure out just where they fit in. But it does happen and it is just amazing to have two wonderful children to share our life with. Best bit of advice is to plan ahead, if you're going out the following day, get things ready the night before, as much as you can anyway. And I found it easier to put the oldest one in the carseat first then they're not tearing round the house while you're trying to get out the door, they're safely strapped into the car seat while you can take that extra few minutes to get your bag, your keys and anything else that you need to do before you leave. Best of luck for your upcoming new addition and I'm sure you'll find your groove pretty quickly :)

Katie - posted on 05/26/2010

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I am pregnant with my second, due in December 2010! My daughter is 15 months old! We found out we were pregnant when she was 13 months. I'm excited!! It was totally planned, I wanted them to be close in age!

Vanessa - posted on 05/26/2010

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Im the same as you, im due on the 7th sept and my daughter is 15 months now and as the due date is getting closer and closer im starting to think oh my god im going to have my hands full, but ive spoke to friends that have close age gaps and once you get into a routine things start to get easier but im sure we are going to find this all out soon enough. Hope all goes well for :-) xxx

Emily - posted on 05/26/2010

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I have a 15 month old and I'm due with my second in mid June. I am nervous, but everyone tells me its good because you can raise them together...so kind of like having twins? ;) I am a full time working mom, so I think I may look forward to a little time away from the chaos while I work.

Gabrielle - posted on 05/26/2010

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Be very patient and remember to ask for help from anyone and everyone you can. I have a 15month old and a 2 month old...I am a very busy momma! But, we have a pretty set schedule for the 15 month old and that really helps with the day to day. My biggest struggle has been keeping the oldest occupied while the baby nurses...as I am usually the only one home with them. I don't know about your daugther, but my son loves Elmo and Elmo has been a big help when I need my son to sit quietly for a few minutes. He watches Elmo for 20 minutes and I can nurse the baby. I don't believe in using the TV as a babysitter, but when you've got a baby on the teet, and another running around the house, you do what you have to. Best of luck with it, no matter what, I am sure you will do a great job!

Julie-Anne - posted on 05/26/2010

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Im 24weeks pregnant with a 15month old, i am worried that my son will feel left out when the new baby comes, but at least he will never really remember being an only child. My friend has the same gap with her babies as i will have and she seems to get on brilliantly. i think a good thing to do is let ppl help alot with the new baby while you concentrate any spare attention on you older one, so they wont feel too put out.

Laurian - posted on 05/26/2010

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I have a 3 mth old and a 15mth old. (yeah they are 12mths 2days apart). Every time you cook, make extra and freeze it especially in the last couple of months of your pregnancy, because I guarantee there will be days when you won't have had a chance to cook. When you have a baby shower (if you have one) ask friends and family to commit to a schedule where at least on person can come and help you once a week, for at least one month. Doing laundry, cooking, cleaning etc. If your partner can take some time off once the baby is born encourage them to do so because you'll need someone to put your toddler to sleep when you are breastfeeding etc and the lack of sleep will get to you both, also if there is someone else to take the kids for a minute it will allow you to get some rest. Take it one day at a time, it will feel a little chaotic at first but believe me by the 2nd mth you'll have found a little bit of a routine, I used to say to myself it's only 10min of crying, you can get through more and then I'd breathe slowly just to release any tension. Plan breastfeeding times during the day to have a snack and drink for the toddler next to you so that if they get hungry while you are feeding you don't have to 'break off' because everything is right there. Don't be hard on yourself because you haven't got anything/everything done, the time will come again when you can 'be perfect'. Talk a lot to your toddler about the baby even now. And get them involved as much as they can handle in what you are doing for the baby. My one year old even pats the baby to try to settle her if she is crying if I haven't had a chance to attend to her yet. It made me realise how much she watches what I do! Good luck! You can do it and congratulations

Emma - posted on 05/25/2010

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Hi there!
I have a 15 month old now and I'm not pregnant, but my eldest two children who are now 8 1/2 and 10 are 17 months apart.
It's not easy, but you cope and you will learn to become very organised! (SUCH a good thing with two small children!) When I was breastfeeding my son, I used to have my daughter sit beside me and watch the Wiggles together or sometimes she would feed her doll with a bottle at the same time.
My best piece of advice really is to include your daughter old in as much as possible with the baby. This will make her feel included and hopefully will make her feel like a big helper to mummy.
Most of all, just enjoy! they grow so quickly, I can't believe mine are so big now!

Jo - posted on 05/25/2010

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Hi there - My little girl is 15 months also and she is has a little brother - just over 2 months old.
We found that having a baby doll that Ella could feed and burp etc while I attend to her brother is invaluable - even with only 13 months between them Id forgotten just how much time you spend feeding!!
I also suggest if you have to bottle feed that the older sibling is well and truly weaned off the bottle - Ella did experience some regression in this area when I used a bottle for Marcos. Mind you, diluting cows milk in a bottle with heaps of water soon cured her of wanting to use one.
As hard as is sounds, getting your little one as independant as possible (within aga appropriate range) is a key too. Having Ella more and more able to do things like feed herself supervised and to be able to tell me when she is hungry and thirsty before it becomes a cry for food and drink is great too. nothing worse than being in the middle of a baby feed when the toddler in question wants something too and youve missed the cues being busy. I always make sure i have a few of her drink bottles out around the house near her play zones and have snacks in containers prepared the night before. Being as organised as possible with meals really really helps us as the worst tantrums stemmed from her needs not being met as quickly as she wanted! (you know toddlers - now means now, not 30 seconds away!)
Also, My little man is an excellent afternoon evening sleeper and instead of worrying about how he will be through the night I use the time for one on one with Ella doing quiet activities and giving all those extra hugs that I know she needs. (Again, having meals sorted before this time helps)
Congratulations on the impending birth and Im certain you will find a groove that works. Its not all plain sailing, but its not impossible either ;o)
Congratulations and Im sure you will find a routine that works.

Elaine - posted on 05/25/2010

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hi i am pregnant and i also have a 5 year old and a 15 month old aswell. i am due the 13th december, as i keep telling myself once i get into the rounte of having 3 i will be alright there is no good keep on worrying because it wont get u anywhere. ur pregnant and have a little one already just think u wont have to get used to the sleep less night that shocked u the first time with having a little one.

Leigha - posted on 05/25/2010

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I am also pregnant with my second child. I am due in 2 more weeks and I have been super busy taking care of my 15 month old son Harrison while my hubby is out of town. I cannot wait for his return later this week! It's been a very rough two weeks. We had a choice of him leaving two weeks before or after the babies arrival. So naturally it just made more sense to go before the babies birth. I'm grateful to have had this experience, I think it's great prep work for our new arrival. I was very worried I'd have a hard time tending to my son and dealing with all the third trimester aches and pains. These things just have a way of working themselves out. That super-momma instinct kicked in and we're all doing great! I no longer have any worries of having two boys 16 months apart. I know my hubby and I can do this because we've managed to raise a great toddler :-) Just trust your instincts everything will work out, you'll see. I wish you the best of luck!

Cristal - posted on 05/25/2010

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My daughter is 15 months old too and we are expecting our son in just weeks :) I am also a little nervous about how to juggle two and make sure that my daughter doesnt feel left out or that I am not giving he attention. I have just decided to try and have her be my "BIG HELPER" so she feels involved :)

Nicole - posted on 05/24/2010

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I *might* be pg with baby #2... we've been not preventing for the last 2 cycles, and my temp chart is looking very promising. With y last pg i had a great implant dip at about 9 dpo, and then a pg/bfp dream the night before I tested... well its looking very much the same this cycle!! I'll be testing on Thursday, and then hopefully I'll be actually joining this pg club for real =)

i'm glad that there are so many positive things to look forward to about being pg with a 15 month old! She'll be 2 if i'm pg, and i'm sure that she's going to be a wonderful big sister. right now she's a little possessive of her toys and parents, but i'm sure that in 9 more months she'll be much more relaxed ;)

Rebecca - posted on 05/23/2010

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I have 3 children. The age difference between my son and first daughter are 18 months and the difference between my girls is 19 months. So when I had my third child, I had 3 kids 3 and under. At first it is a little hard because you have to be feeding and changing the baby a lot more than the older one, plus all the other stuff you have to do and won't be able to spend all the time you want to with your other child. I would include my other kids while I changed the diaper (if I didn't change them on the changing table) by having them talk to my daughter and they loved being on the floor when it was tummy time. Bed time was the hardest for me with my last child because I couldn't go sit in my son's room and read him a story and then go and read my daughter her story because that was right around the time that she wanted her last feeding and my husband was at work. So I had to figure out when I could read to them during the day. You should get a routine going if you don't already but with a newborn that routine will probably change. It does get better around 3-4 months of age when the baby starts pushing back feedings. As for going places double stroller works great. Good luck you will do great.
PS Just watch the older one sometimes they like to try and put things in the babies mouth (feed them)

Shalai - posted on 05/23/2010

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I had my kids 14 months apart, and like everyone has said its not easy all the time and haveing them both on the same schedule helps alot. I know some days it gets extremely stressful but at the end of the day when they both smile at you it makes it all worth it :)

Anne - posted on 05/23/2010

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anne o riordan here jordan is fifteen months old and im due twenty fourth of august the best advice i could give you would be relax enjoy them coz time goes so fast and try not to plan ahead then if it dont work out you wont get stressed out go with the flow and youll soon get into a routine

Julie - posted on 05/23/2010

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Hi.. Yes i know the feeling i have a very active 15month old daughter Amelia and am pregnant due in october...but then i was told i was having twins so now the nerves i had for having another baby have gone as now i have twice the nerves lol... hope that makes you feel bit better lol x

Shannon - posted on 05/22/2010

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Like Alyssa, I also have a 15 month old and just found out I am pregnant and due in Jan. I am pretty nervous, we weren't really planning on having them so close together but babies are a blessing and I'm sure we'll all manage somehow! I hope as they get older that they will become good friends since they will be so close in age.

Gina - posted on 05/22/2010

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Nora, it looks like you're not the only one :) Thank you for posting this because I have a 15 month old and my second is due to come on Monday! I don't have any advice for you right now, but I know you will be fantastic! One day at a time, right? And remember, they are babies for really such a short time, so we have to remember to savor each moment (even though we want to rip our hair out!). Best of luck to you!
Gina

Dania - posted on 05/22/2010

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I thought I was the only girl pregnant with a 15 month old too but we are not.. Many moms out there have their babies real close. Im on the same boat as you! FREAKIN OUT! Im due in July and have no clue how Im going to be able to take care of my 15 month old and a newborn! But Im trying to keep a positive mindset. So keep your head up. We moms were meant to do this kinda thing and we will figure it out along the way!!



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Erin - posted on 05/22/2010

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My two sons are exactly a year apart to the day 2/26. I was so nervous to be alone with them both at the same time. My first son is extremely active, never wants to just sit, so i was nerous about running after him while tending to my new baby. Babygates work amazing to keep the oldest in the same room as you so you can still watch him but also feed and take care of the newborn. Being a mom of two is great. I love both my boys and I have gotten them into a routine that fits me as well as them.

Lisa-Marie - posted on 05/22/2010

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my daughter was 14 1/2 months wen my son was born, the best bit of advice i can give u is make sure ur daughter is the 1st 2 see the baby obviously after u n ur partner, my daughter came 2 the hospital wiv my partner 2 pick us up, she was more intrested in the baby then seein me, she had already choose a present 4 the baby n we had got 1 4 her from the baby 2 so she didnt feel left out n she has been involved from the begining from havin a bath with the baby 2 tryin 2 help change nappys, she is now 2 1/2 n my son is 15 months n they r very close n do every thing 2 gether even down 2 my daughter wantin 2 sleep in his cot wen they have a nap we have another baby due september n they both now there is a baby comin n have been involved from day 1 again even down 2 them both choosin presents again 4 the baby. i also found it easier as the routine was already there 4 my daughter my son just sort of fitted in 2 it but make sure u still make quality time 4 just u n ur daughter as well so she dosent feel left out good luck it isnt easy at time but it cant b that bad if im doin it again x

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My babies are 10 almost 11 months apart. My son was born Feb. 12,2009 & My daughter was born Jan. 7,2010. It is not easy but you will adjust and so will your 15 month old. My hubby helps me a great deal. We take one day at a time.We are blessed b/c our 4 month old has been sleeping through the night since she was about 2 months. They go to bed at night around the same time and nap around the same time. I think that having a routine is what helps us. The funny thing is that my daughter has adapted to my son's schedule. Many people have asked me, if my son is jealous.The answer is no.I have to watch him closely around her though, because he sometimes tries to pull her paci out of her mouth and chew it. (FYI: He did not take a paci when he was her age). He already tries to act like her big brother by pushing her in her swing and rubbing her cheek when she cries. A first, It may seem overwhelming but, once you find a routine that is conducive to your family it will become a lot easier.

Amanda - posted on 05/21/2010

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Hi,
I have two boys who are 13 months apart, although it is hard work for the first few months its so worth it. They have a really close bond, my eldest is so defensive over his little brother. I'd love to have another one soon as I love the small age gap, finances are the only reason I'm waiting a while. I agree the key thing is to get them into a routine, if you get your eldest into one and just slot the newborn in it makes things easier, also let your eldest help fetch things for the baby. I also found it helped bring on my eldests speech to get him to read to the baby with me, asking him to tell the baby what pictures were helped him learn to identify simple things like cats and dogs. Hope this helps and I'm sure you'll all do great xx

Jo - posted on 05/21/2010

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my son is 15 months and I'm due in 13 days so will let you know! Most of the people i have spoken to have said write off the next couple of years as 2 boys so i'm going to keep my goals small for now - totally knackered so who knows what it's going to be like when no 2 arrives.... Good Luck, how hard can it be - we've done it once already xx

Özgür - posted on 05/20/2010

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Hi, my son is also 15 months old and I'm due December with the second one, I was really scared and worried when I first learned but I believe in myself that I can hadle and I'm glad that they'll be close to eachother. I know that it will be difficult but this doesn't scare me anymore. I'm really amazad to see that there are so many in the same situation... :))

Dawn - posted on 05/20/2010

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I am also pregnant withmy second child. I am due at the end of June. My son and daughter will be 16 months apart. Some people think I'm crazy for not waiting longer. However, I had such a difficult time in the past that we feel blessed to be having a second child. It will be difficult I know. I am a bit scared of how I will handle my toddler with very little sleep. I agree with the others out there... routine is going to be the key to making it work. Good luck to everyone!

Tori - posted on 05/20/2010

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I'm not due until January, but my first daughter and son are 22 months apart and my son and new baby will be about the same difference. It's tough at first, but once you get into the swing of things, it gets a little easier.

Stacie - posted on 05/20/2010

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I'm due end of december and am in the same sort of positions everyone tells me rountine is an assest and if you can stick to it as best as possible

Rachel - posted on 05/20/2010

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my daughter just turned 15m yesterday and I'm due at the end of October. I'm really looking forward to it and think the 20m age gap will be wonderful. My siblings and I were all spaced about that and I think it made for closer bonds as we grew up. best of luck with your new addition!

Lydia - posted on 05/20/2010

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Hai, i was pregnant when my baby was nine months, and the baby came when the other was 18mths. what i did was to give both the same attention, for i realized that they were both babies.

Andrea - posted on 05/20/2010

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My daughter is almost 15 months and I am due with our 2nd bub in 6 weeks time. They will only be 16 months apart. I am absolutley terrified about it but I have found that there are a lot of other mums in the same boat, so we aren't the only silly ones LOL! My mum had 6 kids, the first 3 were really close together. She told me that the key is to be highly organised and try to keep to a routine. Support is also a huge key. If you are like me and dont have a lot of family around, join a mum's support group. They do wonders! From all the advice I heard I think the first few months are going to be extremely hard and you really have to be ready to accept help and speak up and ask for help when you need it. Dont feel guilty about asking for help because no one really is a super-mum and there are no prizes for doing it all on your own.
Good luck & enjoy the new bub.

Andrea - posted on 05/19/2010

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I am due August 21 and my Son just turned 15 months. I am just as nervous as you about how this is gonna work. But everyone just keeps telling me it will all work out !

Ashley - posted on 05/19/2010

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I have a 15 month old and I am due with my second child in 9 days. It is easier doing it that way because they will have the same friends and enjoy similar activities. I get bugged all the time about it but I don't let it get to me. Good Luck!

Ashley - posted on 05/19/2010

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my kids are exactly that much apart now my daughter will be three sons almost two and it was rough the first two weeks or so but you do adapt and will be surprised how the other child will become helpful and independant. just make sure you give each child time even if its just you and the 15 month old reading a book every night as long as he or she gets some special momy time you will do well

Holley - posted on 05/19/2010

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I have two girls that are 27 months and 15 months old and I am 35 weeks pregnant.. But I like having my girls so close.. They get along really well, even though they are a really sneaky pair, always getting into things together.. It can be hard on days when they are in one of those moods, but I wouldn't change things.. :) The biggest piece of advice I can offer is when the baby is old enough to get them into a routine, its been a life saver for me.. lol.. Congrats to everyone expecting on your new little ones!!!

Kim - posted on 05/19/2010

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my first 2 are 2 yrs and 3 days apart, so 3 and almost 15 mo. and another due october 16th. im pretty nervous too. my husband is in the Army, and gets 10 days off after a new baby, but thats it. And he has a deployment in April 2011. Hes already missed both our sons 1st years, now I have to do the first year alone again. im just hoping for a girl this time, I dunno if I can handle 3 boys under 4!

Tammie - posted on 05/19/2010

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Well I can tell you a little about it. lol My youngest two are 10 months apart. They are 15 months and 5 mths... It is hard sometimes and routine IS they key! It has gotten a lot easier than it was at the beginning. Now I have them taking naps about the same time morning and evening. I have also trained my 15 month old to go to sleep on his on at night where as I use to rock him every night.(Not so easy while your trying to feed a new born). It is impossible to get a new born on a schedule but it is important to do everything the same every night to get them on one asap. My 5 month old goes to sleep every night by 8 takes a bottle at 11 and sleeps until 7 in the morning, he has been doing this for a little over a month now which has made my life easier...lol My 15mth old was a little jealous at first but now he wants to hold the baby and love on him and your baby will will be a little older than mine was when you have the new baby, so maybe it wont be as hard for her to understand! Good luck!

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