sleepless night

Onwuzulike - posted on 06/16/2010 ( 22 moms have responded )

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My baby is 16 months old, she doesn't like sleep at all. she sleeps by 12 or 1 am, only when you back her. am not finding it funny.

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Shelley-Ann - posted on 06/29/2010

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Last night the little one woke up, sat up straight, and began laughing and playing at around 2am! Music and a little breastfeeding put an end to that...for about two hours and she was up again doing the same thing! More music and more breastfeeding and she was back to sleep until it was time to get up. Needless to say I'm like a zombie today becuase of it, but it only happens about once or twice a week. I know it's because of what she eats during the day, how much sugar. Yesterday she had a bit of lollipop in the afternoon.

What I do is to restrict all sugar snacks to the morning period, and she's only allowed to have fruits and healthy snacks in the evening period. Also, as active as she could possibly be during the day (that I can manage, and the daycare) helps because she's tired enough to sleep. Another thing is she naps during the day, so I try to keep her nap early. Anytime she naps later than 2pm I know I'm in trouble.

Hang in there. Observe what happens during her day and try adjusting a little with foods, activity, and nap times (if any) to see what works for you. Once you figure out what works, settle into as much of a routine as possible and you'll soon have more sleep!

Stephanie - posted on 06/27/2010

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Skip the naps for a couple days, get her up at like 9am and put her to bed at 8:30 pm for a few days, then start putting her down for a nap for no longer than 2 hours, from like 12.30-2:30

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What does "back her" mean? My son is 16 months old & has problems going to sleep, too. Some nights we're up till 2 or 3 am. And even then some times he'll wake up at 5 or 6 am. He's been sick lately, so I think that's some of the problem. Is your daughter getting her molars and/or eye teeth? That could be contributing. I find that if my son is done with any naps by 5 pm he's more likely to go to sleep earlier in the night. It's hard, however, to keep him awake if 5 pm rolls around and he hasn't had a nap. Sometimes I just bite the bullet and let him take a late nap & stay up late with him. Good luck!

Molly - posted on 06/27/2010

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I have twin boys, 16 months, and they sleep from about 6:30-7pm to about 6-630 in the morning and still take 2 naps (although these are getting shorter) the real trick is just being consistent... the challenge with starting now is that they are used to whatever it is that you have been doing... my recommendation (oh and I am a pediatric nurse practitioner too) is to start rolling back their bed time... so if they normally don't go down until 9 pm try 8:30 for a few days then 8pm so on a so forth, run them as much as you can to help tire them out and then start a bedtime routine... you know dinner, tub, book, glass of milk (the key with this is you want it to be something anyone can do - so don't come up with some crazy song and dance that only you can do) and then put them to bed. If they get really upset you can go in, (or if they wake in the middle of the night) put your hand on their belly, don't talk to them and try to avoid eye contact. Keep laying them down and then put your hand on the belly again, stay with them until they fall asleep if you like, and have Dad come and relieve you if needed, eventually (and this may take a few times) they learn that you are there, but that you aren't much fun in the middle of the night. But the only way this works is if you are consistent and do the same thing everytime... kids are smart, and if you let them cry for 45 minutes, get frustrated and then pick them up or bring them to bed with you, they learn "If I cry for 45 minutes then Mom or Dad will come get me" that isn't good for anyone! and my last thing is that Sleep begets Sleep -- meaning when kids are sleep deprived they actually sleep LESS -- it doesn't mean they don't need it, it is just how there little bodies work, so it is good for you but also for them to get more sleep!

Vicki - posted on 06/25/2010

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Well I kinda consider my daughter a good sleeper. She will sleep from about 8:30 or 9pm to 7:30 or 8 am. But she wakes up at about 2am and comes to bed with us. And some nights she will wake up one other time as well. Considering she is getting about 12 hours of sleep I figure waking up once isn't a huge issue. She just wants to know where mom and dad are...then goes back to sleep. Around this age a lot of babies hit separation anxiety so she may be worried that you're not going to be there. When I put her to sleep I get her pjs on, turn on a small lamp, read a couple books, sing a song a couple times. All this I do in her rocking chair next to her bed. Then I turn out all but a nightlight and lay her down and sit with her til she falls asleep. Routine is a very big deal to little ones.

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Jennifer - posted on 07/07/2010

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I am in the same boat. My 17 month old does not sleep through the night. He usually wakes up at least 2-3 times, but usually goes back to sleep. It is hard for me not to bring him to the bed, especially when I am exhausted and just want to sleep. Thanks for all the suggestions and I will have to try a few to see what works for me and my son!

Ashley - posted on 07/06/2010

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Honey you are not alone!!! My daughter is 16 months, and she is up til 2 and sometimes when she is teething 5 in the morning. I thought it was because of late naps... so i made sure everyone was on the same page no naps after 2 or 3. she typically gets up at 8 so that is reasonable.... but even on days where she doesn't nap... she still stays up SOOOOO late, it kills me. I started making sure to use bedtime bath, you put just a lid full in the tub... i let her play in the tub for a while, we put on bedtime lotion after... that seems to help 10 pm is the earliest no matter what the conditions are nap, no nap, early nap, swimming, walking, lazy, lougnging... but that is better than 1 or 2

Pauline - posted on 07/04/2010

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My little one wakes a couple times a night but I never actually wake up. He just nurses to sleep. I love bed sharing :) I have with all my kids(we have 6) and they certainly don't sleep in our bed until they are 10, lol. They have all moved by 3 or so. I'd never EVER let a child of mine cry it out. I hope the OP won't either. There are better ways. Read 'The No-Cry Sleep Solution' by Elizabeth Pantley for some nicer ways to help your baby sleep if the waking is bothering you.

Good luck!

Itza - posted on 07/02/2010

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You shouldn't start by trying to cut out any daytime naps. It is important to get her in a routine, children adjust much faster this way. Let her have one 90 minute nap in the day, so she learns to differentiate btwn night and day sleep. At 16 months she shouldn't be going to sleep any later than 8 / 8:30. They need about 12 hrs of sleep at this age.

It's also very imp to teach her to sleep w out your help. This is the hardest part! For example our routine is bath around 7:30, small snack to keep him full throughout the night and a bottle of milk. Then we read one or two books and I put his lullabye cd and leave the room. Do this for 4 days straight and they catch on trust me!

Of course she will scream her head off but in ten min intervals keep entering the room laying her back down and leaving. Enter less and less every night and by the last night she will cry maybe only 5 mins or so and sleep alone!

I read this technique from a doctor over the internet, it saved my sleep life! It's hard to let them cry but it is SOOOO worth it by day 5! Good luck :)

Angela - posted on 07/01/2010

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I agree with Beth Save our sleep. A life savour, I couldnt be without it. Tizzie Rocks!

Christy - posted on 07/01/2010

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I have a little different problem.. my 16 month old sleeps with us and I can not get him out of our bed!! when he was 9 months old, he had a really bad cold and I put him in bed with us after a couple of sleepless nights, and he has been there ever since! Up to 9 months old he used to go and sit in his play pen and play for an hour.. after putting him in the crib and letting him cry it out for a few nights, he refused to go to the play pen again. He would stand and shake and tremble and scream anytime I put him in the play pen to get chores done. He would finally give up after an hour and go to sleep in his crib, only to wake a couple hours later, and start all over again, and we would give in and bring him to our bed. He sleeps in our room as well. We took down the crib and bought a toddler bed 3 months ago, and he may nap on it during the day for an hour, if I put him on our bed he will nap 2 hours. At night if I put him in his bed he may stay 2 or 3 hours and he is screaming. I am so tired of sleeping in the middle between the baby and my hubby just to get to snuggle with my hubby.. We have always looked forward to our time in the bed alone and now we can not even get that time. Any suggestions? I know that eventually I HOPE he will get out of our bed, but I don't want him in our bed up until he is 10 yrs old! HELP

BETH - posted on 06/29/2010

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Oh my goodness. Sometimes this is caused by overtiredness. My 16 month old is in bed at 7pm and sleeps till 8-9am. Not a peep. She has always been on a routine and I suggest you go online at www.saveoursleep.com.au and buy the book Save our Sleep by Tizzie Hall. She will solve all of your problems. Good luck!

Maryke - posted on 06/28/2010

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My baby is 1year and 4months and still she wakes up twice during the night.....

Michaela - posted on 06/28/2010

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Im really lucky i put my son to bed about 7ish and he sleeps till 7-8am although he does wake up once a week in the night, but if he has a nap during the day he cant sleep past 4pm as he will not sleep till 10 but he seems to not want to have naps these days...

Cyndi - posted on 06/25/2010

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I have the same problem. My son shares a room with my husband and I so we cant exactly cut out the lights, t.v etc. but he has been doing better lately. He still wakes up 2-3 nights a week though. He has never reallt slept through the night, so to speak. Some nights he does and some nights hes up crying most of the night. He just hates being still, he wants to go go go all the time! I keep hoping hell outgrow it!

Marguerite - posted on 06/25/2010

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You are all right!!! I went to a swimming lesson the other day and one of the mum's told me that her son sleeps from 6:30pm at night till 8am the next day. I nearly fell over.. Is her baby a dream baby or what!! Then she told me that he won't sleep at all through the day.. That's why.. My son loves his mid morning sleep. About 1hr and and bit. I find if he has that he will sleep ok at night. 7:30pm to 5:30am.. ( Pretty good) If he has a second sleep through the day, maybe 3ish. There is no way he will sleep through.. I try to stretch him out till bedtime. The key is........there is no key.. every baby is different..Sometimes my son will wake up randomly 2 times a night.. Ohhhhhhhh, the life of being a parent... Hang in there girls!!

Karen - posted on 06/24/2010

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I let my 16 m.o. cry it out after I've tended to her a few times at night, but last night I discovered her foot caught between the crib slats. Feeling kind of guilty now.

Alyssa - posted on 06/24/2010

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Sometimes you just have to bite the bullet and let them cry it out in their beds. I know it sounds horrible, but if you are consistently getting up in the night, there's an issue. Once your toddler realizes that it's sleep time, they'll look forward to it. I know my son does. He even runs to his bed and waits for us to catch up.

Janet - posted on 06/24/2010

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Routine is key. Your baby may be napping more in the day than she should. If my daughter has a nap after 3pm(even if short one), then she doesn't go to sleep til about 10pm. I can't get her down prior as she isn't tired. My older daughter was the same way. Daytime naps are great, but not at expense of night time sleep! Good sleep routines are important. Lots of books that I've found very helpful(esp with my older daughter).

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It is very hard and I feel for you.
My son is 16 months old and still wakes 3-4 times a night. I am exhausted.
I have been trying to be very strict and not bring him to bed with me (I know that is hard) but you have to be persistent and consistent.
I took my son to a sleep clinic when he was 6 months old I think I should take him back to get some more advice and support.
Do you have anything like that?
Good luck!!!

Elisabeth - posted on 06/21/2010

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maybe she had enough napping in day and it make her awake in nite? how about if you ask her play and following u every where u go and what ever u do...so she feels tired in the nite? or have you try to turn off the light and lullaby her? or gave her enough food before sleep? my bryan had his full sleep at his 4months :-)

Katrina - posted on 06/17/2010

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I have been having the same probelm. I am so glad that I'm not the only one out there. I am a stay at home mom so it is a little better to deal with, but when my daughter turns 2 I plan to go back to work. I started a routine and I must say it is starting to work. I start by cutting off the t.v by 9pm. I give her a bath, then I read her about 2 short books and sing a song. I have an older child, so he helps. I started by putting her to bed 30 minutes early every night with all lights out. Occasionally, she will wake up, but most nights she stays asleep. Don't give up! Keep working at it and it will work.

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