Too early to quit the daytime nap?

Vicki - posted on 12/03/2010 ( 20 moms have responded )

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My 21mo daughter has gotten to 11 hours at night and 1 1/2 hours during her afternoon nap. The last couple days though she will not go to sleep for her nap at all. I tried rocking her, laying with her and even just leaving her alone in her toddler bed. She just sat there all sleepy and quiet for a hour. I'm wondering if she's just ready to be done with the nap. It just seems far too early still.

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Helen - posted on 12/14/2010

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another one doing the same here! It's been going on for a while now, but we still put him upstairs for a nap, although most of the time he plays or reads rather than sleeping, at least he's resting a bit, and we get some time out lol :)
The last 2 days he's gone to sleep on me (today after we got him out the car where he'd gone to sleep on the way home from shopping) and he's slept for over an hour, so we know he still needs his naps, it's just a case of getting him to realise that too :s

Stephanie - posted on 12/11/2010

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Mine does that as well.....same age. It varies on different days and she has always been on a schedule!! Going to bed late as well... :-/ I think it is a phase because they are so curious about everything ad they think they are going to miss out...mine also now has an obsession with Winnie the Pooh to where she has to take her Pooh ball and Pooh stickers to bed with her too...lol. My theory if your gonna go to bed then feel free...I'll take it out when I check on you!..lol. But anyway, it is healthy for them to have quiet time. Whether they sleep or not from everything I have ever read they need that quiet time tobe by themselves and relax. So if she doesn't sleep and is quiet let her be. It is a break for you and her to just have alone time. Even if my daughter stays in her room and plays quietly I am okay with that, but it doesn't happen very often, but it is okay because it's good for their development to have alone time :) So just keep doing what your doing! :) Another phase I think they go through at this age as well is teething and growth spurts which is another struggle in itself but I believe that has a lot to do with the sleep change, but that is just my personal opinion..nothing I have read...Good luck and your doing a great job mom (Vicki)!

Stephanie - posted on 12/11/2010

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Our boy is 22 months and sleeps 12 hours of a night but is up at 5 am so needs hi nap. Some days he will some he won't. The one he won't he goes to bed earlier. I have found though he sleeps in the middle of the day rather than morning or afternoon. Maybe she is trying the independent thing and will go back to having sleeps soon. We let our son tell us when he's ready for a sleep, make him feel in control and doesn't resist as much.
Good Luck

Megan - posted on 12/11/2010

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my daughter did that for a week or two but i started taking her to the park for fresh air and staying steady with a quiet time in her room and now she is back to napping. :))))

Jenny - posted on 12/11/2010

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my son is 21 months and he hasent had a sleep in the day for about 2months! but then he sleeps 12-14 hours at night. I thought it was well too early to cut the nap out but i soke to health visitor and she said it all depends on the child, and she happy that my son is not missing anything by not having a nap. It just depends on the child, Now and again my son will lay on the sofa and doze off for half an hour and i just let him.

Jessica - posted on 12/10/2010

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I also have a 22 month old boy, and I have a 4 year old girl, and she went through this at two, as well, it is a phase, they grow out of it, just keep putting them to bed at nap time, maybe try moving the start time of the nap back a little. DOn't give up on the nap, do it the same as you did before, ( don't start a habit of styaing i n there, laying with her, or what not) just do the nap time routine, lay her down, with a couple books or quiet toys, and tell her it is nap time, I will come and get you when it is play time agian, or snack time, whatever comes after nap, and tell her it is time to rest and be quiet, and if she fels like sleeping go ahead, and if not play /read quetly in your bed. My duaghter resisted sleeping for a few months around 2 years old, and then went right back to napping really well. Now at 4, she sleeps about 10 hours at night and then has a 2.5 hour afternoon nap, as well!

Good Luck!

Jess

Leanne - posted on 12/08/2010

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My daughter is 22 months and she won't take a nap sometimes either...............if she won't nap then just some quiet time is good too.

Jenny - posted on 12/08/2010

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My daughter is in day care and takes a 2 to 2 1/2 hour nap almost every day. On the weekends, it's sometimes longer. We put books in her crib with her so if she's not quite as tired right away she will look at her books and then fall asleep. Some kids in the day care class rest rather than sleep. I agree with a previous poster ... don't give up but allow yourself to be okay with your child resting. Maybe the book thing would work for you.

Ashley - posted on 12/07/2010

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Don't give up. Leave her in her room for her nap time. If she's tired enough she'll sleep. If she's in her room by herself she'll also know that it's quiet time. And that way you can get stuff done that you need to get done. That's what I do with my son. Although he naps maybe once a week.

Carmen - posted on 12/07/2010

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My daughter has had days like that as well, however, I still try everyday for some kind of nap. Even if it is a little time in her crib talking to herself:) She is so craby when she doesn't get a nap, I think she definately still needs one (she will be two in Feb. Her twin brother sleeps 2-3 hours during his nap everyday , so kids can be very different.

Valerie - posted on 12/07/2010

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what about not sleeping thru the night??? my son wakes up 3-4 times a night and wants in bed with me but im 34 wks preg. and he kicks alot what can i do??

April - posted on 12/07/2010

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mine still also needs her naps and she is 21 months but she can push them later and later now. I never like to put her down after 2 we usually go about 130 but she will sit up there and talk to her stuffed animals and kick the side of her crib for an hour sometimes. long story short she always falls asleep and if she doesn't (which has only been a few rare occasions) i leave her up there unless she is really crying to get some rest for herself. but this is why i am so nervous about switching to a toddler bed i think she would be out of it constantly!!!!!

Christine - posted on 12/06/2010

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mine is definitely all over the map these days too, but i can tell when she's tired, so sometimes i just put her down and she'll cry and protest, but eventually fall asleep. they need their rest...they're growing at a rapid rate these days! you just have to be the 'enforcer' i think:)

Blu - posted on 12/06/2010

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Ive just changed my daughter's schedual. She wakes up at 7:30, naps no later than 1:30, and is in bed by 8:30pm. Sometimes she has her days but she is still napping regularly. If you are a stay home mom then maybe she needs a busier/diverse schedual.

Kasey - posted on 12/06/2010

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Mine son is doing the same thing & the naps are getting later & later!! But he def still needs the nap, so I'm trying to stay persistant hoping we are not done with naps yet!! lol That's my only free time bc he is into absolutely EVERYTHING!

Khadijah - posted on 12/06/2010

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I think it will pass. My twin girls are 22 months and they started doing the exact same thing when they were about 19 or 20 months and I stayed persistant on putting them down for a nap. Even if they sat up or played, I still put them down for their nap. That lasted for about a week and a half and then things went back to normal.

Betty - posted on 12/05/2010

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mine does the same thing. i am just going with the flow. if she is being quiet, i say just let it be.

Vicki - posted on 12/05/2010

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Yeah yesterday was the second day no nap. Unfortunately she didn't fall asleep til almost 9 at night...usually shes asleep at 730. Then she woke up several times. Now I know shes definitely not ready to be done with it, I just dont know what else to try. Good luck!

Leslie - posted on 12/05/2010

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Creepy. My kid is doing the same thing and is the exact same age. At least your daughter will sit there sleepy and quiet for an hour. Mine will scream bloody murder until we get her. I asked this question on a forum I'm on and the general consensus was, yes, it's too early. Though a few ladies said that their kids did give up their naps crazy early.
The advice I got was to keep trying and that it's more than likely just a phase. If your daughter will rest, even if she's not napping, I'd definitely let her stay in her room for that hour. Whether she sleeps or not.

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