Transitioning to a toddler bed, any Feb 09 babies?

Karmi - posted on 11/08/2010 ( 25 moms have responded )

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I transitioned my son to a toddler bed almost 2 months ago. He loved it for about the first 3 weeks but now he wakes up at night screaming and throwing a tanrum for hours! I wanted to know if anyone with a child born in February 09 has transitioned their child to a toddler bed yet. My family keeps telling me he is too young and I'm forcing it on him as well as he isn't ready. I thought everything was fine, he did great for 3 weeks, why is it now that he hates it? I think I may set his crib back up just so that I can get some sleep at night and make my family happy. It always seems like when I want to try something new with my son I am shot down by my family everytime. Well is anyone having this problem with transition? Thanks! :)

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Dahlia - posted on 11/17/2010

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My husband & I finally decided to wait until our daughter is 2 1/2 to transition her. Some kids do better than others, we live in a 2 story home - so we aren't quite comfortable w/ her possibly wandering @ night. You have to do what works for you. Hope it gets better soon!

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Alicia - posted on 11/21/2010

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I have 3 kids and my older 2 i didnt switch them to a toddler bed until about 2yrs old. My middle child actually learned how to crawl out of her crib (thanks to my oldest child showing her that trick) and thats when I switched her which was right after she turned 2. I now have 21 month old and plan on switching her as well right around the time she turns 2. It can be difficult, my oldest hated his toddler bed, but my middle child loved hers. Every child is different, you just have to be very patient. I am sure there is a reason why he is doing what he is doing. I would suggest try to find out what is upseting him, or try sitting with him for a little while to reasure him. Then gradually shorten the time you sit with him until he is comfortable going back to sleep by himself. Also it helps to keep to a routine, not just when you put him in bed, but when he wakes up in the middle of the night. It takes a while sometimes but its well worth it in the long run. Try to find out what comforts him and stick to it. My son literally would not go to sleep unless he had like 5 hotwheels under his pillow and certain stuffed animals. My best advice is be patient :) And as far as the family goes, I delt with a similar situation and honestly, I used to always give in. But as I have become wiser I now stand my ground regardless, this is your child, period. You know what is best for your child. I have learned that I can kindly accept advice, but I am going to do what I feel is best. You only get one shot at this :)

Stacey - posted on 11/21/2010

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you know your baby best. follow your mommy instincts and dont let others pull you away from what you think is right. My family does the same thing to me frequently and my now famous quote is "well... im the mommy". and as for transitioning... my daughter has been in a toddler bed for 4 months now she was 17 months when we transitioned her. and some times it does seem like she hates it but really i know its bed time in general that she hates, maybe thats your sons problem. I put a tall gate in her doorway and if she gets up after i put her to bed then she plays quietly and when shes ready to sleep she climbs back into her bed. if she wakes in the night she does the same thing. another thing that has helped is her night light and if she just cant sleep at all i put her favorite movie in and she will lay in bed a watch by herself.

Jeannette - posted on 11/20/2010

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Hi there.. My daughter has been in her toddler bed for about two months now and she loves it. Fell out the bed the first couple nights onto some some pillows but no problems.

Stephanie - posted on 11/20/2010

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We moved my daughter into a toddler bed around the same time. Does he have a night light? He may be becoming afraid of the dark (this is around the age they start to). Also, how do you initially put him to bed? I've been struggling but it's slowly gotten better making her fall asleep on her own. We read a story in her bed get hugs and kisses and I leave. If she comes out I say "It's bed time" and return her. The second time "Bed time." (firm tone). Third time and on, no conversation at all, just walk her back to her bed. The first week it took me up to an hour and 45 minutes. Now it she only comes out a few times and is asleep on her own within 20 minutes. She used to wake up in the middle of the night bc she wanted to sleep with us. I just used the same technique (minus reading a book again) and after a few days she stopped doing it. Now she only wakes up if she's wet her diaper, I bring her back to bed, change it, and she goes right back to sleep.

Stephanie - posted on 11/20/2010

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P.s.s. I also have her bed at the lowest setting and it does have half a bar to kinda stop her from falling out. Her head is at the end with the bed rail. But it is only half way along her bed so she can still get out. (It is a convertible crib) I was worried about her falling out but not to much since its only about a foot off the ground. No falls yet. :)

Stephanie - posted on 11/20/2010

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My daughter will be 21 months on the 27th. I did the transition about the 3rd week in July. She got up for the first 2 nights..banged on the door..I found her sleeping on the floor. Occasionally during nap time she will sleep behind the door but no tantrums. I do entertain her once she is in bed though. I have a projection thing that rotates animals on the ceiling and it also plays music. It has a timer for 15,30,or 60 minutes I believe. I always put it on the 15 minutes. She watches that and it calms her down before bed. It came with 3 disks. I am not sure where to purchase it because it was a gift..wait just googled it....found it on walmart.com for $20.00 here is the website: http://www.walmart.com/ip/HoMedics-Sound...

She loves it. I have used it since she was 5-6 months old. I hope that helps. I also just got her a Glomate Jr/TykeLight Jr. It is the one that has batteries. I got it at BJs wholesale club but here is one website to get you on the right path http://blog.snhparents.com/217/glomate-a...

The first time I showed it to her she saw me turn it on and from then she knows how to turn it on and off. She lays in bed with it. I go in after she is asleep and put in on the dresser but every time it has been off when I go in. It just keeps her calm and relaxed and in bed to fall asleep...I hope this helps!! Good luck to you!!

P.s. I know what it is like to not have any support, because I don't really have any..but you know what is best for your child. I took her binky away October 19th. Everytime she was tired (which was the only time she got it before) she would fuss and fuss. After 3 weeks of it she finally stopped. I felt as though I had gone that far I wasn't turning around. Your little boy may just be going through something. Even if you put the crib back up it he may still scream, etc. Be strong...look at it this way...If you put it back up it means your moving backwards and his lungs are just as loud...crib or no crib. Like I said before good luck but do what you think is best...don't allow your lack of support individuals to weigh you down...it is not their child. If you need anything I am here :) Good luck darlin!! XO

Brooke - posted on 11/20/2010

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This is meant for Charlotte-
I can tell your 19. If my 11 month old BABY was falling out of a toddler bed I wouldn't dream of putting cushions on the floor. I would PUT THE BABY IN A CRIB!!!! WOW!!!!

Brooke - posted on 11/20/2010

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My daughter was born Feb 09 and we haven't switched her to a toddler bed yet. I think age 2 is a good age. Why rush it? They will be big kids soon enough. I think the way he is acting is a good indication that he just isn't ready and not feeling comfortable. I would move him back in the crib.

Meghan - posted on 11/20/2010

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No, we plan to wait until DS is at least 2 to switch to the toddler bed--mainly b/c I know it'll be a HUGE battle, and I prefer to wait and put that off as long as possible =D Plus, if I wait till he's older I'm hoping he'll actually understand the concept of "stay in bed!"

Terresa - posted on 11/19/2010

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I have twin girls born in Feb 09 and they are still in their cots as they are babies that function so well by their little routines and I dont see a need to put them into "big beds" just yet...they are quite happy in their cots and just call out or play with each other until I get them out. But its entirely up to you, my sister-in-law has put her son in a single bed and he is 20 mths old and just puts a safety gate up at his door so he can get in and out of bed and just calls at the door for mummy to come and get him. All you can do with your family is take their advice on board and at the end of the day, its your decision. Good luck!!

Jessica-Ann - posted on 11/19/2010

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WE moved james when he was about 16months old but what we did was make sure that he still had some familar e.g a cot blanket but still having his big boys blankets(it helped that his big sister slept in a big bed) but overall he came around even tho he has a new found freedom

Natasha - posted on 11/19/2010

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I still have my son in his cot and he does not seem interested in transitioning to any bed other than mine at this stage and well I think it is safe to say he is not getting my bed, hehehe. Have you thought of putting the cot back together and giving him the option of both when you put him to bed or even leaving the bed there and the cot and putting him back in the cot until he lets you know he is ready. One thing you have to remember is that you are his mother, no-one knows him better than you. One of my friends transitioned her son into a bed 5 months ago and he was brilliant at first and then he started teething and it became a nightmare, she had a lot of sleepless nights or very little amount of sleep, but she stuck it out and he is now doing really well. There will always be bumps on the road when you are trying something new, as long as you believe he is ready and you are willing to put in the effort, stick it out.

Alyssa - posted on 11/18/2010

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Our son has been in his "big-boy" bed since June. He has done amazingly well!! One thing we have had to do is make the bed for sleep and not play time. The other thing is stick-to-it-iveness. I know it's difficult, but if you just stick to your guns, you will make it!!
As for your family, tell them he's your son and that it's not their business. You're doing great! Keep up the good work, Mom!!

Debbie - posted on 11/18/2010

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The first thing I would say is it is nothing to do with your extended family, so you do what suites you and your household!! My son has always been a very good sleeper, but the past month or so he has been waking up crying and very distressed. This is my 3rd child and I know that they can go through a atage of separation anxiety when in bed at night. This too will pass!!! It may have absolutely nothing to do with the toddler bed. Check for obvious stuff (hungry, sick, wet) and just see how it goes for a while. Gotta love well meaning family and all their "advice"!!!

Laura - posted on 11/18/2010

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These ladies have given great advice. I agree that YOU are the mommy and YOU deicde to transistion. My son has been in his toddler bed for about 3 weeks and is doing pretty good. We decided to transition him because he was climbing out of his crib and we felt he was safer in the toddler bed. His biggest challenge is that he doesn't want to nap and settle down right away at night. but we stay firm and he does go to bed finally.

Chloe - posted on 11/18/2010

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Well my daughter has now been in an adults single bed for the last two months and before that she was in her cot bed and she loves it, had a few problems with her getting out but was strict with her and she sleeps fine, doesnt even get out of bed in the morning until i go into her room. My advice is if you think he is ready stick to it, your his mum and its your decision when hes ready.

Ashley - posted on 11/17/2010

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I put my son in a toddler bed when he busted his crib apart about 4 months ago. And he was super duper excited. He's fallen out a couple of times but went right back to sleep. He doesn't nap in his bed unless he's exhausted. On second thought. He doesn't really nap at all. He just plays in his room. But don't hesitate to set the crib back up if you think he's not ready. And don't let your parents get to you. I know that they mean their best, but they need to remember that you're a mother now too and no one knows your child better than you do.

Amber - posted on 11/17/2010

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We moved our son to his toddler bed (which is really just a mattress on the floor to prevent him from rolling off and getting hurt) when he was 20 months. He transitioned REALLY well and has been sleeping in it for about three weeks now. We haven't had any problems, but we've never had any problems with him sleeping through the night. Miracle child, I know. I know what you mean about your family shooting you down when you try to do something for your son. My family thought it was too early to move him to his own bed, but I knew he was ready. Whatever you do, i would encourage you to trust and follow your instincts, because only you know what's best for your child. Don't let your family bully you out of doing what you know your child is ready for. Mother's know their children best!

Bethany - posted on 11/14/2010

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Charlotte is still in her cot, with the matress still on the high setting and the side down. If she wakes, she just sits up and calls out for me, or plays. She's happy and I have no need for her to be in a bed, though there is a single bed in her room for when she's ready (and for somewhere to keep it).

We are going on holidays for a week, interstate, at Christmas, and aren't planning on taking the portacot, so she'll sleep on a bed then, but I might end up puting the matress on the ground, to save any big falls.

Her cot turns into a little bed, so we'll use that for a while, then eventually she'll use the single bed. No more kids on the way, so I'll just move her along when she asks to, or when her feet are sticking out through the end of her little bed. haha

Melissa - posted on 11/13/2010

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I haven't thought about a toddler bed as yet. I think I would prefer to keep my daughter in her cot (she loves it anyway) and at least I know what she's getting up to! Every baby and mother is different and it's what suit you and your baby. Good Luck :)

Charlotte - posted on 11/13/2010

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my son went into his junior bed at 11months old he had afew bad nights.. i.e falling of and crying, so i put cushions on the floor and just kept puttin him back into bed... i wouldnt give up...if they fall out put them back even if it takes longer then normal.. and so what if your family think its to early i ignore what mine say .. im only 19 and do what i want they are my children no1 can tell me any different and the same should go to you !! keep trying.. dont give up now... hope all goes well..

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I keep trying, but she likes her crib. She naps in the toddler bed, but night time she goes to her crib and won't sleep in the "big girl" bed. She's an odd duck :D

We'll just keep on trying until it works. I'm not worried about it, I know she'll transition when she's ready - I'm not going to push her.

Laura - posted on 11/08/2010

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We moved our daughter into a proper single bed when she was 16 months old. Some of my family thought it was too early, but she slept straight through from the first night! a month later she had a week where only bringing her into my bed would sooth her, but then went back to sleeping through in her own bed again.
Make sure you let your son know that sleeping in his own bed is something big boys do, and that its special, just for him. Can he respond to your questions? Ask which teddys he would like to sleep with him, and perhaps let him choose which bedding he would like for HIS bed. We did this with our daughter and it worked a treat, because she likes it because it makes her feel grown up.
Or perhaps buy him one of those glow up worm toys from argos, that play musical tune, so it can sooth him back to sleep if he does wake up. it will distract him till he falls back to sleep without you having to be awake hours with him

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