Baby Shower? Has anyone had one yet? When is the best time to have one?

Jenna - posted on 01/21/2010

im due the fourteenth, i had mine in dec, we looked online and they said about two months before your due date so your prepared and then send out invites about a month or two before that so, your cuttin it a little close but you can always have one for after the babies born, thats always an option too!

Crystal - posted on 01/21/2010

i had my baby shower jan 2 and im due feb 1..it was great but wasnt the best cause after holidays...ill note for future..though my sister planned it

Amber - posted on 01/13/2010

my due date is feb 26 and my baby shower is this weekend. luckly i decided to do it this early cuz my sister wanted to do it at the end of the month. but i just found out my doc doesnt think i'll make it 4 more weeks... so im gonna be cramming at the last minute... so i would say have it early enough so u can take your time

April - posted on 01/11/2010

My first child my best friend gave me a shower 8 weeks before the baby was due. My sister wanted to throw me a shower this time around and I was due to have a c section on Jan 25th with my son. However I ended up having him on the 6th of Jan at 36 weeks and 5 days. I still go my shower but he just got to attend. I think it's always best to be on the safe side and go with 6- 8 weeks before the baby is due. You never know when they may make an earlier appereance.

Raizee - posted on 01/06/2010

I am due Feb 21st and my shower is this weekend on the 10th. Invites were sent out about 4 weeks ago. I will be 34 weeks. I like that it's 6 weeks before the baby is due so we can buy stuff that we are missing after.
Good Luck!

Leann - posted on 01/04/2010

If you feel better about having a small one first then the second one when your ready it makes things easier on you. I had one on a few weeks notice then plan to have another one so I can get what I still need. Hope this will help.

Janelle - posted on 01/02/2010

I had mine the day after Christmas because I live in New Jersey and my family lives in Pennsylvania....to travel in January would have been too much as my due date is 12 Feb 2010....Unfortunately we had to compete with the holiday season, but nonetheless it was nice. Plus, my work is having another shower for me, so I'll get a few more little things. I wouldn't wait too much longer....not only do you want to have everything ready, but you will be more uncomfortable the longer you wait! I couldn't wait to have mine because I felt like I had nothing ready and I didn't want to go out and buy a bunch of stuff if I was going to have a shower!

Jennifer - posted on 01/02/2010

but once u find out wat ur having u can start buying ur own stuff, both my sister got diff things at baby shower, one got alot of clothes and no bottles n lotions and other got the opposite, u could do a registery

Jennifer - posted on 01/02/2010

im having mine a month befor my due date i heard thats a good time

Sarah - posted on 12/28/2009

I think anytime after 7 months is ideal so you're def. ok to have one at any point roght now. And the person throwing the shower should give your guests plenty of notice, Mine is on January 9th and the invites were sent 3 weeks prior to the party which is kinda pushing it (1 month notice is ideal) We did it so late to get the holidays out of the way and I said I really didn't want to have one after 36 weeks because by then I'm going to be pretty tired and sore. (I'm due Feb 14th) You could always have a shower after the baby is born too, that might be a good idea if you want to get invites out early enough.

Rachael - posted on 12/27/2009

Im due Feb. 15th and I have already had my baby shower. This is my first child. My sister in law planned it for me. She said if you wait to long you are so uncomfortable that you cant even enjoy your guest. Also it gives you alittle more time to organize, and make sure you have everything.

Stephanie - posted on 12/23/2009

im due feb 17th and i sent out invites last week for everybody .. my mom is throwing my shower and its going to be on jan 9 th ... i would try to do something at least still a month before your due date that way you hopefully will have your shower before your baby comes

Amy - posted on 12/23/2009

I'm due Feb. 20, and my sister's throwing my shower at the end of January. I'll be 37 weeks Jan. 30, so she may do it that day, or she may do it the 23rd. We tend to wait a little longer to have the shower for purely silly reasons - we want the pictures to be super cute! lol We like for our bellies to be as big as they can be without getting any closer than 3 weeks prior to the due date! It seems to make the shower more fun! That is living a little dangerously, but it's fun!



I do agree with you, though, that the invitations need to be sent out pretty quickly if she's going to do it mid-January. It doesn't give people much time to be able to get a gift, especially with the holidays and everything. Maybe she could move it to the 23rd of January? Then she can get the invitations out asap, and people would have enough time to rsvp and what-not.



AND, you so SHOULD NOT be sending out your own invitations, crazy girl! :) Like others said, you supply the addresses and guest list, and that's the end of your involvement, other than showing up, eating, opening gifts, and sending out thank you cards! See if you can gently let your friend know that if she's taking on the responsibility for the shower, then she needs to send out the invitations, because you've just got too much to be doing!

Amy - posted on 12/23/2009

Quoting Myra:

4-6 weeks before the due date is the appropriate time to have the shower. Your friend should be the one sending out the invites, though. You are supposed to supply the addresses, but they send the invites out. Your job at the shower (including before in planning, and after during clean up) is to just enjoy yourself. After the shower, you are the one that's supposed to send out the thank you cards (including to the person that throws the shower for you), and that's it. The invites should go out 2-4 weeks before the shower, and earlier if there are people that need to make travel arrangements to attend.

The reason you are supposed to do nothing but supply the address list and send out thank you notes, is for the reason you gave - you will be big and uncomfortable. The reason you have the shower 4-6 weeks before the due date is because eventhough you feel like you will pop any day, most pregnancies go to at least 36 weeks (38-41 weeks is normal) so most of the time, the shower is over for a couple weeks.

I am not having a shower this time around. My daughter was born in 2008, and this baby looks to be another girl, and less than 5 years apart, so it isn't proper to have one for this baby, too.

Just go and enjoy yourself. Let everyone else do everything (it's what they are supposed to do). Hope you have fun!

My son was born in July 2008, and I'm due Feb. 20 2010, and it's another boy, but instead of doing a regular shower, my sister is throwing me a diaper shower. It's not at all inappropriate because although you can reuse clothes, you will still need diapers for this new little one. People just bring diapers and wipes (of course some will inevitably bring clothes or toys, but that's their prerogative). That's something you could think about if someone wants to throw you a shower, but you're uncomfortable registering again for things for a girl. My sister also just had a baby, and her kids are 17 months apart. Her first was a girl, and this one was a boy, but she didn't know her son's gender before he was born, so we threw her a diaper shower as well. Regardless of how far apart the kids are and regardless of gender, every baby needs diapers and wipes! :)

Medic - posted on 12/22/2009

i had mine nov 14th because my best friend wanted to avoid the holidays and didnt want to wait till january since they are not thinking i will make my feb 9th due date....i didnt do anything but pick out my food and show up

Stacy - posted on 12/21/2009

My due date is between January 28 and February 2 and my mom had my shower on December 5, sending out invitations at the beginning of November to give everyone enough notice. I did absolutely nothing for my shower but show up, eat, and open presents. Still have to do thank yous, but I am procrastinating.



When choosing a date, my family debated over January, but thought that would be too close to my due date. My cousin's wife never made her baby shower because the baby came early, so don't wait too long. I guess it depends when in Feb. you are due. January would probably be OK if you are due at the end of the month.

Myra - posted on 12/21/2009

4-6 weeks before the due date is the appropriate time to have the shower. Your friend should be the one sending out the invites, though. You are supposed to supply the addresses, but they send the invites out. Your job at the shower (including before in planning, and after during clean up) is to just enjoy yourself. After the shower, you are the one that's supposed to send out the thank you cards (including to the person that throws the shower for you), and that's it. The invites should go out 2-4 weeks before the shower, and earlier if there are people that need to make travel arrangements to attend.



The reason you are supposed to do nothing but supply the address list and send out thank you notes, is for the reason you gave - you will be big and uncomfortable. The reason you have the shower 4-6 weeks before the due date is because eventhough you feel like you will pop any day, most pregnancies go to at least 36 weeks (38-41 weeks is normal) so most of the time, the shower is over for a couple weeks.



I am not having a shower this time around. My daughter was born in 2008, and this baby looks to be another girl, and less than 5 years apart, so it isn't proper to have one for this baby, too.



Just go and enjoy yourself. Let everyone else do everything (it's what they are supposed to do). Hope you have fun!