belly touching

Sarah - posted on 11/25/2009 ( 28 moms have responded )

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im 28 weeks pregnant and startin to dislike people touching my belly including family and my mum it just bothers me it goes though me to be honest. i like my partner touching my belly and my two children just no one eles . does any one eles feel this way x

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Kim - posted on 02/07/2010

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I also love it when my husband and 2 children touch my belly, but I cn't stand it when anyone else does. It feels to personal. I've had people I don't know that well just touching my belly and I find it really hard not to say something, but I don't want to be rude.

Chantal - posted on 01/28/2010

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Most of the time people ask me if they can touch my tummy, and they're usually people I know so I don't mind :-) I live in Asia, where the locals pretty much keep their hands to themselves :-)

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One of my best friends emailed me the other day, and in the email she said something like, "I wish I lived closer to you so I could come over and poke your belly," and it totally irritated me. In my head I was like, "Really? Why would you POKE my belly? Who would want that???" I just told her that I wish she was closer too, but I'd put the kibosh on the belly-poking real quick.

Cleo - posted on 01/26/2010

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I know how you feel. I don't mind my close family touching my belly because they don't over due it and I definetly don't mind my child and husband touching my belly but I'm not happy or do I ever try to encourage random people I hardly know or don't know at all to touch my belly because I find that annoying and very weird because I don't go around touching other peoples bellies so why should they do that to me?

Erin - posted on 01/22/2010

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I've been thinking about this topic. heh.

I generally don't mind the belly touching. I work in security, so I had a few of my tenants and coworkers rub my belly and it never bothered me since they always asked to do it. They were excited since it's my first. I luckily haven't had any strangers do it, but it wouldn't fly well with me if they did anyway.

I did however have a coworker and a friend who did it and I snapped on them. The coworker was drawing the name of my expected daughter on my tummy and it bothered me because I was overheated and generally irritable (swollen ankles, anyone?). When my friend did it, I had just gotten off shift (the last one before Maternity leave) and was on the phone with my grandmother. I think what bothered me the most about it is she wasn't rubbing, but she was poking. And her boyfriend was doing it too when I didn't give either of them the okay to do it. I had to hang up with my grandmother so I could be like.. "wtf? stop it!" I was even swatting at their hands to stop it while on the phone to give them the hint that it wasn't cool. They still didn't get the hint til I said.. "Stop it or I break your fingers" lol

But.. we're almost done. Another 2 weeks and she should be here. =)

Tracey - posted on 01/14/2010

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Yes, i started just doing back to them. They soon stop. Why do people think its ok to touch you without asking when your pregnant???? Trust me doing back really works! My freind doesn' t get on with her mother in law and at a recent family gathering her mother in law constantly kept touching her bump and pushing other peoples hands on to her too. She solved the problem by returning the gesture ( her in law is a rather large lady to be polite) and asked when are you due then, is it a boy or girl? Would have loved to have seen the look on her face!
I am 37 week today and can't wait to meet my little man.

Kelly - posted on 01/12/2010

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My husband jokes all the time that I should get to know Jenny, as I am 35w and all belly. It's funny, but as for people touching my belly. I get pretty upset. Must be the hormones but I just let my mood show on my face if they aren't family or friends.
Then I have no problem if they try to interact with my baby.
My son tells her stories and kisses her good night! He's 4. Can't argue with him!!!!!

Michelle - posted on 01/10/2010

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Oh Bre, that was so freakin halarious!! I love that!! Most of the time when ppl start touching, I start smacking hands, then inform them that it's my belly, not theirs.. if they feel the need to rub something, they can rub themselves. I havn't had much of an issue with it those this time around since I quit work, but with my first it was hell. What really really bugs me is like what others are talking about, ppl thinking they have the right to comment on how big/fat i'm getting. With my first, I had some complete stranger tell me one day that I was too fat for how far along I was... I preceded to tell her that may be true, but atleast in a few months I'd be loosing my extra weight, but she couldn't change being an ugly b*@^h. It was rude, and mean, but it felt so good at that particular moment, lol.

Bre - posted on 01/07/2010

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I had a random man turn around in line at Subway and touch my stomach. As he did this he asked me when I was due. I was extremely heated. I thought about smacking his hand away and cursing him out. Instead I put my hand on his pot belly, smiled, and told him it looks like I'm due right around the same time he is. He got so offended he left without his food. I think that was much more effective. :o)

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I haven't had any strangers try to touch my belly yet, thank goodness! That would just weird me out. I don't mind close friends or family touching, as long as they ask first.



Somebody else mentioned people feeling free to comment on how big you are. I totally agree! I'm carrying really far out front (I'll be 34 weeks tomorrow) and people won't stop talking about it. We visited my husband's extended family over the holidays and several of the women in his family thought it was appropriate to ask me how much weight I've gained so far (and it's really not that much--I'm literally only carrying out front). I was like, are you kidding me???

Nikkita - posted on 01/05/2010

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I'm 33w 2d and I'm starting to get more irritabel more often! I hate people just coming up and rubbing my belly. Sunday at church, I accidently grabbed this lady's wrist when she went to touch my stomach. I avoided speaking to a lot of people because I know they like to touch me. Another day, I had on a hoodie and this lady tried to rub my belly. I put my hand in my pocket & straightened out my fingers to act as a "belly fence." Then, there's this lady who's like my aunt, and EVERY time she sees me, she puts her head right near my belly and starts yelling at the baby, as if talking to her in a regular voice is not good enough! That's annoying too. I think the only people that I'm ok with touching my belly 100% of the time are my little sisters (15 &17) and my parents. My little sisters just randomly touch me, and my parents don't really touch me too often.

Brittany - posted on 12/16/2009

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I feel this way! I don't like anyone touching my belly, it gets very aggravating!

Medic - posted on 12/15/2009

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i know how you feel.....but thankfully everyone remembers my hissy fit with my first one so no one has really tried....i only let my hubby and son touch my stomach....im just not a people person

Angelia - posted on 12/12/2009

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I don't mind it as long as it's friends or family. They usually do it whenthey hug me. I am a big hugger! Now a stranger I don't know I do mind. I think it is quite creepy. Luckily that hasn't happened yet

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I don't mind it so much as long as they ask first. I had a stranger decide to reach out and start patting my stomach the other day. All I could do from decking her was just nod my head "no". She took the hint!

Elizabeth - posted on 12/11/2009

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Hey girls, good topic! I absolutely hate people touching my belly - it's my belly! I wouldn't like them touching the baby all the time either - that's how germs spread cos people don't realise that they've coughed, sneezed, eaten, smoked or even touched other people then are going to be touching my baby. Any non-first time mums know how to get people to stop touching the baby all the time as that's what I'm worried about once my little girl arrives!

Nichola - posted on 12/01/2009

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I dont mind as long as they ask 1st lol. What I do hate,is people telling me how big I am grrrrr

Sarah - posted on 11/30/2009

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I know exactly how you feel! I don't like it either. Being pregnant doesn't involve losing any entitlement to our body by allowing people to touch our belly anytime they want! I've had to make this clear to my family. It drives me crazy especially when my mom holds my belly and gives it all these kisses...she says she's kissing the baby but the reality is...she's kissing me and frankly it's weird!
I also enjoy my husband and son being the only ones touching my belly. You have a right to tell others that you don't like it, or to at least ask first.

Amber - posted on 11/28/2009

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i kno exactly how you feel. everyone in my family gets upset when i turn away from them cuz they try to touch and talk to the baby and it just makes me feel weird and so when i turn they hold me down to touch and talk to the baby. it drives me nuts and when strangers try to touch it i actually smack their hand away and ask them how would they feel if i asked to touch their boob they get so pissed off

Janelle - posted on 11/27/2009

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I am 29 weeks pregnant and I don't mind family touching my tummy but it weirds me out of people I'm not close to rubs my belly. As soon as I see someone reach for my belly who I am not comfortable with I step back straight away and move out of their reach. If someone asks if it's okay I just tell them it's a bit tender and I would rather they didn't. At this point of the pregnancy your stomach is extra tight and sensitive so it's normal to dislike having it touched and rubbed.

Sarah - posted on 11/26/2009

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i just feel like certain people in my family are just gettin to involved they didnt with my other two while i was pregnant it was just me and my partner now i see them abit more they want to touch my belly with out askin and be like dont do this dont do that i ended up snappin at them now they say im mardy coz im pregnant lol but i know its not that x

Gemma - posted on 11/26/2009

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Hey, I am 29+5 and have had real issues with people touching my belly - I have never really been a touchy feely person and so hate it that people think its ok just to come up and rub my belly. I am also a teacher and have found it quite difficult working with teenagers as I think it is really inappropriate when they cross that line. I think you just have to be firm with people and explain that you dont really like it, it is your personal space and they need to respect that.

Shanna - posted on 11/26/2009

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YEP! I HATE it! the only person I let touch my belly is daddy...cuz he wants to be involved and talk to her and stuff... but THAT IS IT! it freaks me out! I know today (being Thanksgiving) is going to be bad with all the family around.... wish me luck not to smack anyones hands haha

Stacy - posted on 11/26/2009

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I definitely wouldn't like strangers coming up and touching my belly - how invasive of my personal space. I am a teacher, however, working with female teenagers and they are so curious! They are very respectful and ask if they can touch and if the baby is moving they get so excited. They ask me lots of questions about the baby and pregnancy and since I work with an "at-risk" population, I gladly answer their questions.



Yesterday, as one girl was leaving my classroom, she said good-bye to baby Jack and gave a little kiss to my belly. It surprised me, but she was so gentle.



If I feel comfortable with someone touching and they ask - fine. But you have every right to decline anyone if you are not cool with it.

Myra - posted on 11/25/2009

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I don't want anyone touching my belly unless they ask, and I say it's OK (except my husband and daughter)...and, it's never OK. ;) So, I just say no. It's your belly, remind those who keep trying to touch it that it's you they are touching, not the baby.

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