Co-sleeping/Bed sharing

Holly - posted on 03/05/2010 ( 39 moms have responded )

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My LO will be 3 weeks old on Monday, and we sleep in bed together (me on my back and him on my chest). I put the boppy pillow in my lap and rest my arms around us. It started the first night in the hospital; I stll couldn't move from the epidural (and C-section) to get up enough in the bed to reach the bassinet, and LO spit up. Scared the crap out of me not being able to reach him to clear his airway so I just kept him with me that night. Its been like that ever since.

Who else co-sleeps, or who has with previous children? When are you planning to transition to bassinet, and eventually crib? I'm not feeling guilty about it. Actually, I love the closeness, but I know at some point we'll need to transition (probably first sleeping next to me, then in the bassinet next to our bed, and then his crib).
Thanks in advance, and its nice to meet you all!

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Kathy - posted on 03/17/2010

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I co slept with all of my kids and sometimes my kids (10-9-5) still take turns having a night in mommy's bed! Right now I have a six week old that sleeps with me everynight. It makes nursing easier and I find that he is more content. I usually trying moving my children to a crib or bassinet around four months. This when they are more likely able to soothe themselves.
An idea my doc gave me for my first child for transition was this. Now it was hard at first but after 5 days/nights he slept in his own crib for 12 hours a night! I started when he was 3.5 months old.
Do a bedtime routine so that your child can unwind and knows it is bed time. Make sure their tummy is full and they have been burped. Don't let them fall asleep but instead put them down when they are drowsy (this teaches them to fall asleep on their own). Say good night and leave the room. When they start to cry wait one min (I used a watch to watch the time) and go into the room. Do not turn on any lights just pat them on the back, try a pacifer, sweetly sing, but DO NOT pick them up. After one min you leave the room. You leave even if they are crying. Now you wait two mins and stay in for one, then three in for one, and so on until they fall asleep or you reach 10 mins. If at ten mins they are still crying you pick them up, comfort them and then start over. We never made it to ten mins. It really broke my heart not to pick him up but it worked so well. Just an idea for you mommy's!!

Summer - posted on 04/10/2010

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i co-sleep with my daughter, now seven weeks old, and i love it. during the day she is fine napping alone but during the night she sleeps with me so i don't have to get out of bed to feed or change her. i keep some diapers, wipes and butt cream at the foot of the bed with a water proof pad so i can just change her there. i throw the dirties off the side of the bed and pick them up in the morning :~). i really don't have any intention of trying to wean her away from me at night. i figure she'll sleep in her own bed when she's ready.

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Shanna - posted on 07/15/2010

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My 5 month old still sleeps with me and has ever since birth. I sleep on top of the comforter and she has a little pallet beside me that she sleeps on. I just use a blanket over myself and a thing receiving blanket for her. She rolls over and nurses when she wants and everyone gets great sleep. I have pillows lined upon the other side of the bed, underneath the comforter to keep her from falling off, but she can't get buried under the pillows b/c they are under the comforter.

There are tons of ways to safely co-sleep and I think it adds to the ease of nursing, for sure!

My twins were never big on co-sleeping, but my son co-slept until he was 3.

My husband prefers the couch (and I do too - he snores! LoL )

Tobi - posted on 07/12/2010

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I co slept here and there with my son until he was 5 months, and wish that i hadnt he almost fel out of my bes about a week ago. and that was with pillows and blankets blocking him. He will never sleep with me again, i nearly had a heart attack!! But thats just me all moms are diff:)

Denise - posted on 06/05/2010

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My first child had colic, and because I finally would fall asleep from sheer exhaustion the cosleeping started. Now, four years later, he STILL cannot sleep by himself. My new baby is three months old, and I refused to have this same issue again, so she is sleeping in her crib. I really wish I could tell you how to do a gentle transition, but obviously I haven't figured it out! Just remember, any patterns that you are creating now, you will have to un-do at some point in the future.

Jessica - posted on 06/05/2010

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I still co sleep with my little one... she is like 15 weeks. Its just she and I in a queen bed lol so there is plenty of room for us... shes got a 4 sided wall of pillows to keep her from going anywhere :) I wouldnt have it any other way.

Cristina - posted on 04/09/2010

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I never intended to co-sleep. We started with a cradle at the end of the bed. She would sleep for about 4 hours and then would want to be in bed with us . we have a SnuggleNest, which i find wonderful as it keeps her from rolling around in bed, and keeps us from rolling on her, plus it keeps her at eye level (i use 2 fluffy pillows so my head is up higher) so i can watch her easily. My boyfriend is a mechanic and absolutely needs to get a good nights rest (its no good to be sleepy when working on cars, for his own safety and the safety of the people who drive the cars he fixes). So he sleeps in another room during the week. Thats when she started to sleep in bed with me everynight. I am so used to sharing a bed, i just couldnt stand the empty bed at night and I was the one who couldnt sleep. Now she is a bit hooked on it and the bassinet hardly gets used. She is almost 2 months now though, and we will start having to transition to her bassinet and by 4 months i hope to have her in her crib in her own room.

Mindy - posted on 04/09/2010

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Hi Holly, i had my son about 2 months ago and the first night i had him, he slept with me on my chest for a couple of hours. Ever since i brought him home, he sleeps with me all the time. I love it cause he sleeps so snug right beside me, but some nights he has gas so i pat his back and he falls asleep on my chest. There have been maybe 3 nights (not full nights cause he wakes up hungry) that he has slept in his swing cause i wanted to be able to sleep comfortably. We are fixing to move, so once we get our new home, i will be trying to transition him to his bassinett at night.

Tina - posted on 04/08/2010

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i was so againsy co-sleeping when i was pregnant, thought our bed was for me and my partner and baby should have his own space.. but now!! i LOVE it, he loves to snuggle into me and i love it to! cant get enough of it x

Laura - posted on 04/08/2010

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my month old daughter still sleeps in bed withme and my husband and crys when we try to put her down anywhere eles she has to sleep on her daddys chest or shes up all night.

ERICA - posted on 04/07/2010

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Its wonderful to hear im not the only one that does that! haha. My LO is 6wks and im just now getting into the habbit of having her sleep in her crib. Sometimes when she wakes up in the middle of the night and i cant get her to sleep, i put her on my chest and she finally falls asleep as do i. She mainly goes to sleep in the crib but ends up coming back to bed with me and my boyfriend. Shes finally sleeping more in the crib though, so it gives me and my boyfriend some time to cuddle up an hold each other, which is always nice ;)

Carol - posted on 04/02/2010

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I co-sleep with my daughter Ava who is 7 weeks old. It actually started at the hospital; I was pretty uncomfortable after an episiotomy & some tearing and the midwife suggested putting her in the bed with me. I found it so much easier for feeding because I could feed on my side. When we brought her home we continued co-sleeping and I'm so glad to read all the posts of others who do. I love to snuggle with her & it's easy feeding at night. We're moving house in 8 weeks so I'm thinking it might be a good time for her to make the transition to her cot. Any thoughts!

Alana - posted on 03/30/2010

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I cosleep with Felix in my bed and he is 7 weeks old. He does sleep in his bassinet, but I like having him close to me during the night as it's easier to feed him. I also think it's easier for him to get back to sleep after a feed since we don't sit up, I just turn him on his side and feed him with both of us lying down.

I don't know when we'll start using the bassinet for full time nights... I love having him so close to cuddle with. Strange because I was against co-sleeping until he was born!! I started because of some pretty bad tearing which made it hard for me to get up and down with him in the night.

I know sometime soon we'll start with the bassinet... *sigh*. I'll definitely miss having him, though... I just don't want him to become dependant on me being there either. :) Best of luck!

Tina - posted on 03/27/2010

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suggest getting what? i said i have one of the things he sleeps on next to me that keeps him on his back..the things that are like two pillows on each side...

Melissa - posted on 03/23/2010

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I use the cosleeper by the first years it keeps him in the bed with me but he is in his own little area and it is hard so you cant roll over on him. I really suggest getting one instead of having him sleep on you because if you move it might be dangerous. I have my son sleep next to me sometimes when I breastfeed and I fall asleep during it. He at least puts his head on me when he is done so I am not worried about rolling on him.

Tina - posted on 03/23/2010

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i always make sure to keep him on the side next to the wall with pillows near the wall. plus i have one of the things you put in yhe bed to keep them on their backs.i put his own little blanket on him and we havent had a problem at all with my sheets or blankets getting on him

Heba - posted on 03/22/2010

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I coslept with my older daughter (who is now 2) until she was about 20 months old. The only reason I moved her into her own room was because I became pregnant. She still crawls into our bed almost every night and I really don't mind. My husband and I both love sharing our bed. We are considering purchasing a bigger bed because our current bed no longer fits all of us.
I started co-sleeping with my first born because she always had the need to be held and because she had colic for about the first 4 months. People warned me that she would never learn to be independent and that she would be a very whiny child. Well, my daughter turned 2 last November and it is very obvious to anyone who sees her that she is a very very independent and strong willed child. So to all of you out there who are worried that co-sleeping will somehow make your whiny or anti social or anything else, don't worry. Co-sleeping was the best decision I could make in terms of sleeping arrangements with my older child.
My 3 week old daughter sleeps in a bassinet next to my bed. I wanted to co-sleep with her but my older daughter is very jealous so I decided against it. Plus our bed no longer fits.
Thanks for sharing everyone!

Michelle - posted on 03/20/2010

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It is such a relief to hear that there are other mothers who co-sleep with their children too! I have a six week year old son who sleeps with me in my bed. Mainly for three reasons: 1. My husband works nights, so I love to have him next to me as comfort 2. I am nursing him so it is so much easier 3. I love having him close to me. My parents tell me I need to get him use to sleeping in his own crib asap, but he is only a baby once! I always want him close to me! : D

Brandy - posted on 03/20/2010

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I co-sleep with my daughter and she just turned 6 weeks. I too am also glad to see that I am not the only one. It started in the hospital after I had a c-section and could barely move I had to reach her to feed and change her. She also sleeps with me now a night. Although, she starts out in her bassinet she ends up my arms or in the bed. Thank you for your great post.

Anita - posted on 03/20/2010

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My LO is 6 weeks old, she wouldn't settle on her own till last week so had to be held the whole time and sleep in our bed which was exhausting!
We purchased a neat contraption which you put in the crib, it has 2 cusions either side which makes it seem like she is being held as she can't move around. I have to say it is the best £12.00 I have ever spent!
She now sleeps during the day and at night on her own for a few hours at a time, only problem is I now don't have any excuse for not doing the housework!

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I planned ahead of time to co-sleep with my daughter. I bought one of those things you put in the bed with you to keep the baby safe. Now she sleeps mostly in her mini crib (which is a foot away from my bed) but every now and then she sleeps with me during naps or when she wakes up in the middle of the night.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to be close to your baby. They need to be nurtured and loved.

Kyrsten - posted on 03/19/2010

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I use to co-sleep with my son, until.....last week (6wks old) he fell of our bed!! When I woke at 1am in the morning, i looked around everywhere to find him, when i found him on the floor my heart stood still, words cant not describe the horrible i felt! All i could do was scream, I couldn't even pick him up because i thought the worst, my body just froze up. My partner who leapt out of bed when I screamed picked him up, and we had to rush up the hospital! Although the closeness of having him in the bed was bonding, and like you said more reassuring to get to them fast enough to clear their airways, so many babies have either died from bed falls, or being suffocated by adult bed sheets.
Things that I felt help Leo now sleep in his bed was to put ticking clock near the bed and put one of my shirts under the fitted sheet so they can "smell me" and to ensure his sheets were warm (we are in winter here atm)
Well I hope all goes well, and that you have more luck co-sleeping then I did. Because Im not too scared to do it now, even though I loved it.

Tina - posted on 03/18/2010

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i bed share with my LO he is 6 weeks old now. sometimes he sleeps in a bassenet beside the bed and sometimes with me. he will sleep both places so i dont seea habit forming...

Jackie - posted on 03/18/2010

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I went through the same thing in the hospital with my daughter, she slept in our bed until recently (she is 18 months now). She was probably 3 months when we started putting her in the bassinet, but when we tried the crib she freaked. We got to the point it was just easier to let her stay in our bed. Plus it was easier for daddy to get her to sleep in bed with him the nights mommy had school. After she was about a year once she fell asleep we could move her to her crib, but she would wake up @ 2 am everynight like clockwork and I would have to bring her back to our bed. Ever since I had my son who is 5 weeks she has been wanting to go to sleep in her crib without any problems. I dont see any problem with cosleeping just stick with the transition once you start even though it will be hard.

Nicole - posted on 03/17/2010

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I co-sleep with my daughter she's a month old now. I only do it at night when her crying is just easier to deal with when she's right by me and I can just feed her instead of being half awake trying to grab her. First time I tried that with her in the bassinet I stumbled and scratched my foot on her bassinet foot. During the day if she sleeps and I want to take a nap while she's sleeping (I'm a single parent), I will put her in the bassinet. Its easier for me to wake up from the nap then to wake up at 3 am to feed her.

Misti - posted on 03/17/2010

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as a mom of 3 i have co-sleeping fever! most nights i find all 3 of my boys(7,2,&6wks) in my bed! alot of people say dont do it but if it feels right to u i see no harm. My mom and i argue all the time b/c the baby sleeps in my bed noy the crib but I just rest better knowing he is in arm's reach. I also had c-section so in the beginning it was a must, now it just is. I've read that it actually increases a child's self-esteem and sense of security. So I think as long as you are okay with it keep your baby close.

Maurisa - posted on 03/16/2010

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I co-sleep with my 5 week old and have done so since day 1. I try to put her in her bassinet which is next to our bed but like others, she wakes up about 30 minues later. My question is how did you transition your baby to sleep on their own? My husband will not tollerate her to just cry. I try to have her nap in her bassinet but its the same situation where she's up in 30 min.

Any ideas are appreciated because I don't want her crib to go to waste.

Susan - posted on 03/13/2010

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My LO is 3 weeks old also and just started co sleeping with him after his late night feedings. It started because lately he has been getting really cranky only at the late night feedings and will only sleep if he is with me. If i dare put him in his crib (witch is right next to my bed) he will sleep for maybe 10 min then just wake up screaming. I love the closeness.

ME - posted on 03/13/2010

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I love co-sleeping...we did it with our 2 year old until quite recently, and he is doing a great job of sleeping all night in his new "big-boy bed"...our (almost) 3 week old is sleeping with us at night now (having two c-sections deffinately contributed to our decision to do this)...she is a far better sleeper than our son, but I still love having her in bed with us, and I think that if it works for your family, then it's the right thing to do!

Donna - posted on 03/08/2010

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I co-slept with my 3 youngest.
My daughter for the first year - then she went into her own bed, with no problems...but I only made the decision to do that as i was expecting another baby a few weeks later.
My son also co-slept for about a year...then into his own bed...but he still likes to be in bed with me if he gets the chance...
Now my new baby (4weeks) co-sleeps most of the time, though I do try to put him in his moses basket beside my bed...he prefers being close to me..and it is easier for me when it comoes to night time feeds.
I have no problem or worries co-sleeping...I have heard the bad things that can and do happen, and luckily nothing has happened in my family...but it has not stopped me.
I enjoy the closeness...and without being too blunt - it obviously hasnt affected my relationship as since my daughter first co=slept with us, we have had 2 more babies!! hehehe

Tessa - posted on 03/07/2010

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two thirds of the world still cosleep with their babies and i feel it is the most natural ting in the world. Back in the day we had our kids in our arms at all times to provide protection, warmth and comfort. Cosleeping helps a baby to regulate their breathing and sleeping patterns to ours and I feel makes for a much more relaxed and happy bub.

Both our girls have coslept. Our first moved to her own bed when she was ready at 2 and a half yrs old.
Our new little girl is in our bed with us at night now and has been since the night she was born. During the day she sleeps in her bassinet and at night is either on my chest or between me and her Daddy in my arms and snuggled up to me.
She sleeps very well and wakes only for feeds, unlike her sister who would wake all night until we started cosleeping.
Most refluxed and colicy babies sleep better when in their parents bed.

Stephanie - posted on 03/07/2010

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My LO is 3 weeks too, Congrats! My husband and I take turns with her sleeping on chest or cradled in our arms to the side. The best sleep she gets is when she is sleeping on us. We tried to get her to sleep in her bassinet near our bed, but she is very restless and wont sleep more than a hour or so. We eventually plan to transition to her bassinet or a crib, but we are enjoying how much of a cuddle bug she is.

Charity - posted on 03/07/2010

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I co sleep the exact same way. I love it, granted my parents make me feel guilty about it saying I'm going to create a whiney little girl. I plan on transition around the 3-6 month mark depending on how things go. My daughter just has had issues with screaming all night if I put her in the bassinet and my husband gets frustrated when she screams so its just much easier to sleep together, plus its so relaxing for me! Just remember if you have taken any medication that can cause you to be drowsy its not recommend to cosleep.

Amberly - posted on 03/06/2010

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My twin Girl Nayomi also often sleeps on my chest, she will often choke on her spit or will puke formula an hour after she eats,so i like to keep her close in case i need to sit her up quickly. Whaqt we normally do is she will sleep there for about an hour, and i keep her boppy next to me on my bed and i will move her over to the boppy so that she is still close, but is also sleeping by herself(kind of lol)

her twin brother will sleep in the crib the whole time, so im not sure when i will keep her in the crib throughout the night, it hink ill just know when she is ready. glad to know im not alone on the co sleeping thing though

Ashlee - posted on 03/06/2010

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we co-slept with our first (oct 25 2008) until he was 6 months, then he started sleeping on his stomach through the night self weaned and went into his crib. It was all his doing I was actually not ready to stop breastfeeding but he was so we went with that.
Now with our 2nd (feb 28 2010) she will actually sleep in her bassinet so we do that but it is right beside our bed and around 5ish she normally wants to snuggle close so she comes into our bed then. I found it easier as my 1st nursed every 2 hrs until he was 6 months so co-sleeping was the only way I got any sleep
Good Luck

Alice - posted on 03/06/2010

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oh. its so nice to hear that others co-sleep with there new borns, my LO is also 3 weeks old, and won't be put down anywhere! She only will be in either me or my husbands arms. At night time I put pillows at my sides (just incase she rolls off) Although a part of me would love to have a few hours sleep on my own, i think i probably couldn't sleep without her yet!

Jennifer - posted on 03/05/2010

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I co-bedded with all my children, and still am with my 9 day old. My second child took two years to get out of my bed but the other two was about a year. I did not mind the length in time all though it did bother others when I told them, but heck to each his own right? Well anyhow, naps in the after noon started on my chest but ended in the bassinet and/ or the crib. That made the transition easier when it came to night time without me. On another note, alone time with my husband made us become very creative, like teenagers, which in itself was very fun.

Caitlin - posted on 03/05/2010

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With my first daughter after a really hard delivery I could barely get out of bed for 2 weeks, and moving was extremely painful, so I co-slept with my daughter, and got into a habit of it. Mostly, she slept beside me in bed, between my husband and I at night so when I nursed her All i would do is roll onto my side. It worked very well and I loved having my little one next to me so close. Around 2 months I started to transition her to a bedside basinet, and by 4 months she was in her crib in her own room. It was hard at first, because she would cry, but it all worked out in the end and she was sleeping through the night by 9 months (13 hours straight).



With our new little girl, she's been sleeping with us since birth, she's almost 2 weeks old and I find it much easier overnight to nurse her without having to get up or wake up completely, helps me stay much more alert during the day, because I get more sleep. I don't think there is any harm in co-sleeping at a younger age, when the kids aren't old enough to get into a habit of it. My older daughter (now 15 months) refuses to sleep anywhere BUT her crib. At times i'd lover her to snuggle up with us in bed and doze off once in a while for a nap, but she refuses, so I can definately say that the co-sleeping didn't start any bad habits!

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