Vera - posted on 05/27/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )
Just wondering if any other moms are having this problem and what you are doing to help/deal with it?? I also want to say I love my daughter I want to spend all the time in the world with her I just need a little time to at least go to the bathroom alone…
My daughter over the last couple of months has increasingly become super attached to me. I know that some mums would love it if their child would love them this much but I am worried it is becoming something that will get out of control quickly.
My daughter just started tantrums this past month with ME! She is so attached to me that if I don't constantly hold her she will do a HIGH pitched squealing screaming noise and start crying. We have tried ignoring it - my husbands answer is to put her in her crib for time out in her room because she is “tired” - but she isn’t- I walk away (makes it worse) hand her to someone else (yea right that turns into a screaming/crying/struggling arms reached out to get to me fit) but nothing is working. She will walk as fast as she can and grab my legs to be picked up or stand in front of me - anyone that holds her if she hears me or sees me she goes berserk till she is with me. I don't get this either!! I work full time and do only see her for a few hours each day and all day on the weekends. Hubby works too – why isn’t she like this with him?
I love her and it makes me feel awful that I have to work and can’t always be with her BUT I can’t even pee with out her coming to the door and smacking it crying. If I hold her half the time she just wants down – I put her down she cries – I pick her up she cries (sorta like that sharpie commercial when the babies toes touch the ground it cries...) She is very shy anyone new she hides her face on me and doesn't like being touched - but she is doing this with dad, grandparents etc too!
I just don’t know what to do so now… asking those moms with babies her same age … Is it healthy she ALWAYS wants me to hold her? Is it OK? What can I do to help her be independent of ME???