Do you still feed your 15 month old yourself?

Kristine - posted on 05/25/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I think I am in the minority with this one, but I wanted to see if anyone else was still feeding their little one ... he holds his own cup and drinks by himself and feeds himself snacks, but when it comes to meal time, I feed him. He has no objection and he's a great eater. I have left his food on his plate/ highchair tray for him to feed himself and he shows no interest. He actualayl gets mad. I end up giving in and feeding him myself. The fact that since I returned to work (when he was 6 months old) he has always been in the care of a grandma also adds to this habit, because of course Grandma wants to feed him :) Anyway, I would love to just put his meal in front of him and wait it out .. but I am afraid that he simply won't eat. So do I let him work it out/figure it out and feed himself (however little or much food it may be) and then remove him from the highchair and repeat this scenario until he figures it out (which eventually he has to because he will be hungry) or do I continue to give him a few minutes of trying to feed himself and then take over when it's obvious he is not going to do it, so that he does eat? I guess my question is at what point is making him feed himself a must, if there is one? I figure they are only this little once, so feeding him myself shouldn't be seen as a bad thing, but I have been told off by a few for not letting him or not teaching him. It's not that, I have tried. I show him and have put his hands/fingers on the spoon or fork and tried to get him to put it in his mouth - but he will have nothing to do with it. He will hold the fork and basically bang in on the plate/food, but that's all he cares to do. With a full time job and a tight schedule both in the morning and when I get home at night, there's isn't a lot of time to fight this battle, if you know what I mean. And with Grandma watching him during the day, I don't think she's going to let him fend for himself for long once he starts to fuss and not eat anything. Uggh. Any words of wisdom? Anyone else still feeding their little ones at this age? I guess I have this idea in my head that at some point (closer to 2) he will have no problems feeding himself and so for now to just continue doing as we do. He will be going to daycare as of December, when he's 22 months and I know once he's there he may be encouraged to feed himself when he sees the other children doing it .. who knows. Hopefully between now and then he will learn and like to do it and it will be a non-issue.

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Giloulover - posted on 08/31/2013

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My son is going to be 15 month on the 7th he still doesn't want to feed himself. He only holds his cup to drink. When I give him the spoon to eat, he plays with it instead..... When it comes to snacks, he will throw everything on the floor............!!!! How can I make him eat by himself????

Jemma - posted on 06/28/2011

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My son is 16months....I havent managed to feed him myself since he was roughly 11months :-( i actually miss it to be honest,lol, they grow so fast! I haven't held his juice or milk since he was 6/7 months. He will however let my num feed him..but only when hes in the mood.

Jenna - posted on 06/06/2011

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We do a mixture of feeding him and letting him feed himself. He gets mad a lot if we don't let him try but he doesn't manage the spoon/fork too well. So we let him eat for a while and then I either feed him the rest of the food or I help him with the utensil so he gets a feel for it. If you start helping your son, it might work. But I wouldn't worry too much. He's still young and eventually he'll probably want to be a big kid and do it himself.

Loris - posted on 06/01/2011

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I feed her, specially because I wanna make sure she eats! or else she'll be only playing...snacks and drinks she feeds herself

Ashley - posted on 05/30/2011

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My daughter is 15 months as well and she hasn't refused to let me feed her since she was about 9 months old when she started on table food! Drove me nuts, lol. She is just now letting me help feed her things again like oatmeal and soups and stuff like that.. Otherwise she feeds herself with her hands and we've been working on her using forks and spoons which is just a big mess but she thinks its awesome when she actually gets the food on the fork and gets it to her mouth, so I let her keep trying. But basically you know what the issue is. You give in so he gets what he wants when he gets mad and won't do it himself. But I say let him try and work it out.. He's old enough to manipulate to get what he wants. Kids are smart like that ;) But you are right, Grandma doesn't help the situation any. But I can tell you, when he goes to daycare, they will not be feeding him, so start working with him more on it. If he feeds himself snacks, that shows you he knows the concept and knows how to feed himself, he just doesn't wanna do it. So just let him do it, let him figure it out, but trying giving him a fork or a spoon. Its another fun thing for them to learn to do. Good Luck.. Just keep working at it, and it may be horrible to listen to him whine and cry and not eat, but he will eat by himself when he gets hungry :)

Sheila - posted on 05/30/2011

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I tend to give my 15 month old a spoon at mealtimes and although I take the lead, I'm more than happy when she manages to get food onto her spoon and into her mouth. She's at Nannas too, and like you Kristine, Hannahs Nanna likes to spoon feed her. I don't make an issue of it.... but yes, some mealtimes/food Hannah prefers to eat and at other times she likes to be fed.... no pressure - especially as she's now just found her feet (;o)

Tammy - posted on 05/28/2011

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I let my daughter have her own spoon at mealtimes (she gets mad and won't let me feed her if she doesn't have her own) but I still end up feeding her myself majority of the time.. Sometimes I even have to let her "feed" me so that she understands what I am doing with her.. Its helpful and gives her practice but makes sure that she is still getting enough to eat.. The more often she had her own spoon, the better she's gotten at putting food in her mouth, instead of just banging her tray to make noise.. They are little for such a short time, but soak up so much info in that time that its good for them to practice what they will be doing when they are a bit older..

Lisa - posted on 05/25/2011

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My son is 15 months old too, he goes through phases. sometimes i try to feed him and he gets so mad, he has to do it himself, than other times, hes mad that i won't feed him. lol. Right now hes at the point where i put food on the spoon and hand to him and he feeds himself. But you are right, they are only little for a VERY short amount of time. Just like with potty training, pacifier, etc, i doubt he will go to kindergarden like that. Just keep working with him, when you have time, and if gma and try to work him too, that will help tons.

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