Kristine - posted on 05/25/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )
I think I am in the minority with this one, but I wanted to see if anyone else was still feeding their little one ... he holds his own cup and drinks by himself and feeds himself snacks, but when it comes to meal time, I feed him. He has no objection and he's a great eater. I have left his food on his plate/ highchair tray for him to feed himself and he shows no interest. He actualayl gets mad. I end up giving in and feeding him myself. The fact that since I returned to work (when he was 6 months old) he has always been in the care of a grandma also adds to this habit, because of course Grandma wants to feed him :) Anyway, I would love to just put his meal in front of him and wait it out .. but I am afraid that he simply won't eat. So do I let him work it out/figure it out and feed himself (however little or much food it may be) and then remove him from the highchair and repeat this scenario until he figures it out (which eventually he has to because he will be hungry) or do I continue to give him a few minutes of trying to feed himself and then take over when it's obvious he is not going to do it, so that he does eat? I guess my question is at what point is making him feed himself a must, if there is one? I figure they are only this little once, so feeding him myself shouldn't be seen as a bad thing, but I have been told off by a few for not letting him or not teaching him. It's not that, I have tried. I show him and have put his hands/fingers on the spoon or fork and tried to get him to put it in his mouth - but he will have nothing to do with it. He will hold the fork and basically bang in on the plate/food, but that's all he cares to do. With a full time job and a tight schedule both in the morning and when I get home at night, there's isn't a lot of time to fight this battle, if you know what I mean. And with Grandma watching him during the day, I don't think she's going to let him fend for himself for long once he starts to fuss and not eat anything. Uggh. Any words of wisdom? Anyone else still feeding their little ones at this age? I guess I have this idea in my head that at some point (closer to 2) he will have no problems feeding himself and so for now to just continue doing as we do. He will be going to daycare as of December, when he's 22 months and I know once he's there he may be encouraged to feed himself when he sees the other children doing it .. who knows. Hopefully between now and then he will learn and like to do it and it will be a non-issue.