Tantrums at 1 year old????

Jamie-lee - posted on 02/20/2011 ( 15 moms have responded )

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My little man has a real bad temper if he doesnt get his own way n he has only just turned 1. is this normal?? also at bed time he will go down fine but wont stay settled all night and i end up putting him in bed with me. please has anyone got some tips?

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Sheila - posted on 03/23/2011

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My little one has a tendency to display her displeasure at times, but I wouldn't say its a full blown tantrum... and she's easily distracted anyway so it doesn't last more than a minute.

On the sleep issue, we had a few niggling problems just before christmas (I think putting her in bed with us made it worse) as when we tried to put her down in her own bed in her own room it was like world war 3!

In the end I began sleep training...I tried a couple of 'sleep remedys' and the controlled crying worked great for us.

Hannah would cry, and I'd check on her every 2 minutes (5 repetitions), then every 3 minutes (5 repetitions), every 5 minutes, 7minutes etc...but we never ever got to the end of 3 minutes.

Now we put her down and I'll put ironing away or potter around in her room and she's usually out like a light in minutes.

The main thing that stuck in my mind about problems associated with bedtime was that the little one was basically confused, going to sleep in one bed, waking up elsewhere - I would really recommend Baby Sleep Answers website/book.... it's nowhere near as expensive as other books/websites out there - and we got our sleep problems sorted in around 2 weeks...but personally speaking I find that trantrums are borne from frustration when our little ones cant get across to us what they want, and are possibly made worse if they're tired.

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Martine - posted on 04/16/2011

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My son also has a strong will and bad temper when he doesn't get his way so we either walk away to which he reacts by stopping or crying and following us or we distract him by showing him something else to play with.
He also goes down at night and then wakes up crying about an hour later. I used to pick him up but now I just lay him back down and rub his back and he goes back to sleep. Hope this helps.

Maria - posted on 04/14/2011

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@Chris - my son wouldn't have a clue what a time out was and would just run after me lol! I do feel when i come onto this site that my son is slower compared to some of the super babies on here!!

Krysta - posted on 04/11/2011

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What I did with my little girl for tantrums I'd change her mind if that didn't I'd leave the room making sure it was save first. Try this if you have toys in your living room like I do, pick up toys and put it in a laundry basket. Once your baby notices what your doing they'll stop and retrieve their toys. For the sleeping I can't help you there I stoped sleeping with mine at 3 months. Get a routine together STAY WITH IT. Soon you'll benefit from it.

Nikita - posted on 04/08/2011

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if you have the will power for no sleep for a week or less you could do what we ended up doing with our boy he would throw a huge tantrum at bed time and we would let him cry it out till he got to that point just before sleep then we would give hi a hug and tuck him in and when he would wake throught the night we would go in lie him down and sit on the floor beside his bed for 10mins then leave sometimes he would cry and we will let him till he slept didthat for a week and now hes out of our bed and no more tantrums before bed cause he knows he won't get his way

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I hear some of you talk about time-outs. Everything I read says that you shouldn't start that till 3 but is it possible they understand at this point and it works?

Kylie - posted on 03/25/2011

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My one-year-old has also started tantrums. He will throw himself backward (just as his father used to do when he was a child, apparently) and scream like a howler monkey. I just walk away from him and pretend he's not doing it. That really gets to him. If I'm not paying attention, he thinks, "why the hell am I do this, then?" As for the sleeping thing, I have no helpful advice, I'm sorry! My son WON'T sleep with us. He loves his own bed, as do we, lol.

Maria - posted on 03/23/2011

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My son is a little nightmare when he throws a tantrum! It's always when he can't get his own way - you know like walking himself up the stairs or playing with the bin (the things kids like to do lol) and he'll kick and punch and bite the lot.... from what i've read on here, I now think it's completely normal for all of them to do this and it's just a stage as like somebody else has said previously, they can't talk yet and get frustrated with not being able to communicate. I just remove him from what he's doing and he'll come round within a couple of minutes, another trick is to throw his ball at him (he's totally football mad), and he'll forget all about what he was doing :)
As for the bedtime thing, my little man lasts in his cot until about 2am then he'll get in with us... lol i'm pregnant with my 2nd at the mo, so i'm in a total deep sleep when i go to bed so it's his daddy that brings him in - nothing at all to do with me!! Hehe, good luck x

Claire - posted on 03/23/2011

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Well, my February baby is also throwing tantrums! Sometimes I just get so frustrated with her that I sit down and try to ignore her when I know she is safe and not crying for a real reason. I also try to distract her and give her something else to do. You can try being the tickle monster... Pick up your son and just tickle him where you know it gets him good... He laughs, forgets about the tantrums, and you both end up smiling. Best of luck!



As for the sleeping, we are still co-sleeping. She sleeps through the night and we sleep in every morning! Love it, and I wouldn't even wanna try moving her out of our bed.

Rosa - posted on 03/04/2011

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Yes my 13month old throws bad tantrums everywhere! I just ignore him, I don't make eye contact at all (i've learned that it makes it worse) and he's gotten used to sleeping in your bed that's why he won't sleep in his bed lol if you never him in his bed eventually he will get used to it

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Oh yes, this is when the tantrums start! Its amazing how such a little person can show such anger! My daughter will let you know in a heart beat if she doesn't like something.

I can't give you any advice on your son sleeping with you, because my daughter usually ends up in my bed as well. I can ease your mind a bit though.
I don't think you should look at it like its something bad and frowned upon. Hes big enough now that it would be hard for you to squish him. If someone tells you that its bad, its really just their opinion. I love snuggling my daughter at night. The way I look at it is this, our kids will be grown before we know it. Cherish those clingy moments because they won't last forever. He will want to stay in his own bed, eventually.

Ashley - posted on 02/21/2011

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My daughter just turned 1 and has terrible tantrums! Bedtime is fine since we started letting her cry it out a few months back, and now she just goes right down at 9 and then wakes up around 6:30-7. Sometimes stir in the middle of the night but she goes right back to sleep. But during the day when she isn't getting her way or I have to get on her for doing something wrong, if I give her my stern NO and move her, she clinches her fists and makes this angry yell and will sometimes turn red and yell out no! So then I just sit her down and let her flip out and then when she calms down then I will give her some attention when she has stopped the tears and the yelling. She knows she's in big trouble then she calms down after a minute and goes about her day. I just couldn't believe it when I saw her do that for the first time. Its real terrible 2s behavior... I dread the teenange years, lol. But when she is able to understand and listen more it hopefully won't be as bad *crosses fingers* lol

Jamie-lee - posted on 02/20/2011

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yeh my lil man is the same i eventually mange to settle him down by 9pm usually he goes off around 7.30 but some nights fights it really bad. headbutts the cot hold his breath the whole works proper nightmare but come 3/4 in the morn ive had enough of the stirring every half hr or so. so i just put him in bed with me. n i know i shouldnt n should just try settling him in his cot but its so hard especially that time of the morning when your exhausted.

Kristy - posted on 02/20/2011

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My daughter is doing the same thing..I've had to put her in her room when she is having a time out and let her have her tantrum and when she makes her way out I don't show her any response and by then she is usually calmed down..That seems to be working...But she only sleeps in her own bed till about 4am and then she comes into bed with us..Still working on that..

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